Birthday parties for much older kids??? When is it time to stop?

Not sure if I'm just feeling cheap these days but...

My DH's uncle and aunt have three kids. All have birthdays a month or two apart from eachother. One is turning 12 the other 14 and the other is in his early 20's. DH's uncle and aunt throw a birthday party at their home every year for them. It was cute when they were little but I just kind of feel like enough already...

Do you think it's a bit too much to invite for every birthday? I understand milestones and all but every year?

It could be my PG hormones kicking in but I don't know I just feel like it's a bit too much. Also if we can make them we go but we can't DH and I will not sweat it however Uncle and Aunt are pretty pushy about us going each time. They even call when we are on our way to ask how far along we are to getting to the house. It's just annoying and I guess I'm just venting for this year. One of the birthday's is coming up next week. What do you think?

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I would think by that age they are having parties with their friends, not relatives, if at all. I think I had my last birthday party at 10.

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A birthday party for a 14 year old and a 20 year old???? That seems a bit much

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I think having the parties is fine but the fact that they're so pushy about it is annoying.

I don't think anyone should be that way.

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i remember having parties for the milestones..like 16, 18, 21.

but really those were just family gathering at my parents. nothing over the top.

there does come a point where bdays for older kids should maybe just involve the parents and the kids friends.

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We have family parties for all birthdays. That means my parents and siblings will come over to eat and then my aunt, uncle and cousins will stop by for cake and coffe.

We do this for all birthdays which for this year will range from 1 to 68

not sure if that counts as a "party" though. . .

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my mom had parties for my sister and i until and during college. (so did my cousins) Nothing big, just the family over for dinner and cake. of course, my birthday is new years day, so it was also for the holiday, too.
it really was just an excuse to get the family together to hang out. no pressure, low key- i don't see anything wrong with that

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I know some families that have parties for everyone's b-day. it's more a get together than a "real" party.

that said, I think an actual party for someone in his 20's is over the top!

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We will have ice cream cake for b-days, but just siblings.

Maybe an aunt or two, but not what I'd call a "party."

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I really don't get the point. I guess because I'm not much of a birthday celebration person.

DH & I have discussed this and thankfully we're both on the same page. We'll have celebrations, but at our home with Grandma & Grandpa. No need for Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Friends, etc. We may do something special for the first, but not like what we've seen done.

BUT...with that said I have never & will never miss my Niece's & Nephew's birthdays. Their Mom doesn't throw big parties... I just make it a point to travel upstate to spend the day with them and do something special.

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Posted by ml110

my mom had parties for my sister and i until and during college. (so did my cousins) Nothing big, just the family over for dinner and cake. of course, my birthday is new years day, so it was also for the holiday, too.
it really was just an excuse to get the family together to hang out. no pressure, low key- i don't see anything wrong with that

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Posted by Tilde

We have family parties for all birthdays. That means my parents and siblings will come over to eat and then my aunt, uncle and cousins will stop by for cake and coffe.

We do this for all birthdays which for this year will range from 1 to 68

not sure if that counts as a "party" though. . .

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Im Puerto Rican, if we can afford it we have parties for everything.

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My ILs still throw a birthday bbq each year for my FIL and DH who are 2 days apart. And my DH is 30! But, some families like parties. It's more about getting together than about the birthdays really.

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Posted by Laura1976

Posted by Tilde

We have family parties for all birthdays. That means my parents and siblings will come over to eat and then my aunt, uncle and cousins will stop by for cake and coffe.

We do this for all birthdays which for this year will range from 1 to 68

not sure if that counts as a "party" though. . .

same here, every other week i get a phone call from my mom " aunt so and so is having cake and coffee for cousin so and so at 6 on Sunday."

Everyone goes and we have fun, I thought everyone did that.

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Posted by Tilde

Posted by Laura1976

Posted by Tilde

We have family parties for all birthdays. That means my parents and siblings will come over to eat and then my aunt, uncle and cousins will stop by for cake and coffe.

We do this for all birthdays which for this year will range from 1 to 68

not sure if that counts as a "party" though. . .

same here, every other week i get a phone call from my mom " aunt so and so is having cake and coffee for cousin so and so at 6 on Sunday."

Everyone goes and we have fun, I thought everyone did that.

its ok, i am 26 and married and my mom still has the cake for me bc we cant fit everyone in my apartment. . .

this year she made me lobster pasta and then i got a coldstone cake.

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We still have family over for cake, no presents for everyone in our familiy. No matter how old. Not everyone shows up for the older grandkids.. but, there is still the invite!

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milestones only (just had my 30) otherwise it's just immediate family (brother, parents) and we go out for dinner and come back to that person's house for cake no parties! To have two or four parties yearly is silly for b-days.

After 18 unless its a significant year no more gifts.

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We have birthdays for everyone in my family. LOL. But it really is just about getting everyone together. We dont do presents, instead everyone gives either $1.00 to $5.00 per person and we buy one card and stick in as many scratch offs we can buy...I think its a fun idea!! SOmetimes you win and sometimes you dont!!

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We celebrate Birthdays every year with Immediate family.
Meaning Sister, My Parents,

For DH's family, its usually his parents, grandparents, and his aunt and cousin.
But they are very close and we go out to dinner, and sometimes have cake back at the house

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Posted by Tilde

We have family parties for all birthdays. That means my parents and siblings will come over to eat and then my aunt, uncle and cousins will stop by for cake and coffe.

We do this for all birthdays which for this year will range from 1 to 68

not sure if that counts as a "party" though. . .

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I think my last party was at 18, but before that, I had maybe 2 my entire life (my family wasn't big on them).

Really, I think once you are over 12 or 13, it kind of gets silly.

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we just go out to dinner to celebrate occasions.