Birthing Class without DH?

So, a little background. DH and I closed on a house 3 weeks ago. We've been doing cosmetic renovations and getting the house ready and it's been a chore since we both work full time and my DH is doing most of the construction himself and with co-workers/friends. We were supposed to move last weekend but could not because of a few projects being delayed. So we planned to move in Friday and finish up Saturday morning before our birthing class. We went to the house last night to move some boxes in and the basement was flooded with a almost a foot of water! We believe a pipe burst though we've called a plumber to come out there this morning and check it out. I have no idea how extensive the repairs are going to be as of yet. Since we've already extended our stay at our old apartment for a week, DH wants to make sure we're out by Saturday night and has suggested that my sister go to the birthing class with me so DH can work on getting us into the new house. What do you think? I'm a FTM and I genuinely don't know what to expect from this class. Is it okay if my sister comes instead of my DH? Honestly, they'll probably both be with me when I'm in labor, so even though I'd prefer DH to be there, I'll live if he can't go. My sister is actually kind of excited to go. lol! WWYD?

ETA: The class was $$ and is non-refundable and I cannot switch the date.

Message edited 2/17/2016 10:57:45 AM.

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I think your DH's time would be better spent at your house getting it ready. If it makes you feel better, we never did a birthing class and we managed just fine. L&D nurses coach you through everything anyway. They are amazing.

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I don't see anything wrong with bringing your sister, especially if you planned on having her in your labor room anyway. IMO, the class is more important for you - you are the one giving birth, not your husband. Of course its good for him to attend and he should have an idea of what to expect etc, but I can tell you from experience, most of the men in the birthing class we took were joking around the whole time, lol. Men are men and honestly, most of it will go in one ear and out the other...

Also, when I went into labor everything we talked about in class when right out the window, lol. I was in so much pain, I couldnt even think straight! But thats just be experience, everyone is different.

Birthing Class without DH?

Yeah, I think it's fine if your sis goes with you.
And so sorry about the house - that sucks.

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Yeah, I'm okay with it. Like I said, I'd prefer DH to be there, but it is what it is. They'll just think she's my lesbian lover or I'm an unwed teen mom. It's all good.

DH told me I can tell him all about everything I learned in class in the new house on Saturday night. I was like dude, I couldn't remember the word "bubble wrap" yesterday and I forgot my keys IN the door when we got home, what on earth makes you think I'm going to remember any of this to relate it to you later?!

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Posted by Momma2015

Yeah, I'm okay with it. Like I said, I'd prefer DH to be there, but it is what it is. They'll just think she's my lesbian lover or I'm an unwed teen mom. It's all good.

DH told me I can tell him all about everything I learned in class in the new house on Saturday night. I was like dude, I couldn't remember the word "bubble wrap" yesterday and I forgot my keys IN the door when we got home, what on earth makes you think I'm going to remember any of this to relate it to you later?!

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Posted by FirstMate

Posted by Momma2015

Yeah, I'm okay with it. Like I said, I'd prefer DH to be there, but it is what it is. They'll just think she's my lesbian lover or I'm an unwed teen mom. It's all good.

DH told me I can tell him all about everything I learned in class in the new house on Saturday night. I was like dude, I couldn't remember the word "bubble wrap" yesterday and I forgot my keys IN the door when we got home, what on earth makes you think I'm going to remember any of this to relate it to you later?!

LOL. After giving birth twice, this is what I have learned...DH is USELESS during the process. My DH was good for flipping me an ice chip once in a while and giving me my chapstick but that's about it. All he did was complain about how cold and tired HE was. Anytime he attempted to give me instruction, I wanted to punch him in the face. If I had a sister, she would have been there and DH could have gone and sat in the waiting room so I could try to maintain my zen!

Message edited 2/17/2016 12:04:41 PM.

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Just to update- I took my sister to the birthing class. It was kinda funny and a little uncomfortable when they asked your "partner" to stand behind you and rub your belly or use counter pressure on your back. I was the only one there without baby daddy. But hey, we laughed it off and learned a lot! In fact, DH probably would've fainted at the stuffed pelvis and creepy baby doll they shoved through it... repeatedly. Best of all, it was birthing class and a virtual hospital tour all rolled into one so I don't have to go to the hospital since it's the SAME virtual tour anyway. And I didn't have to move a SINGLE box.

Message edited 3/1/2016 3:42:04 PM.