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HighHopes
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Re: Bringing baby home....MIL..Pi$$$ed me off.
Posted by medic6809
My mom, step-mom, father, brother, inlaws, and grandparents all asked as well. The intentions are good, but I just explained it was important to Joe and I to do it together. They all understood and back right down. I think sometimes they just get so excited they don't see how important it is to us.
ITA. She might not even realize how imuch this means to you and your DH. Glad to hear you are happy with your DH explanation. 
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CrankyPants
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Re: Bringing baby home....MIL..Pi$$$ed me off.
Posted by spa118
I wouldn't be angry about her asking... I think she was trying to be nice. I don't think she meant any harm, and if DH said you wanted to pick it out, it sounds like the case is closed.
I agree-I really don't think it's an issue. She is asking to do a nice thing. If you don't want her to, then just decline. No big deal IMO.
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| Posted 9/13/09 2:30 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Bringing baby home....MIL..Pi$$$ed me off.
Be glad she asked. My mom took it upon herself to buy a coming home outfit for DD. Needless to say I did not use it and I was super annoyed.
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| Posted 9/13/09 4:09 PM |
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Sweets13
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Re: Bringing baby home....MIL..Pi$$$ed me off.
She just asked,,,she didn't say "here, this is what the baby will come home in". Maybe she was going to tell you to pick something out and that she will pay for it?
IMO, you're making your MIL's simple, generous gesture into a "control" issue. I am sure she knows the child is yours and it's okay for her to be excited . Her son is going to be a father. Very soon you will be a mother and you can't imagine the love you are going to have for your child. Try to picture your child becoming a parent for the first time and then put yourself in your MIL's shoes....Get it??? This time is just as exciting for her as well.
Be appreciative and don't make a positive gesture into something negative.
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| Posted 9/13/09 6:56 PM |
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Chai77
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Re: Bringing baby home....MIL..Pi$$$ed me off.
Posted by Sweets13
She just asked,,,she didn't say "here, this is what the baby will come home in". Maybe she was going to tell you to pick something out and that she will pay for it?
IMO, you're making your MIL's simple, generous gesture into a "control" issue. I am sure she knows the child is yours and it's okay for her to be excited . Her son is going to be a father. Very soon you will be a mother and you can't imagine the love you are going to have for your child. Try to picture your child becoming a parent for the first time and then put yourself in your MIL's shoes....Get it??? This time is just as exciting for her as well.
Be appreciative and don't make a positive gesture into something negative.
ITA!
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| Posted 9/13/09 8:03 PM |
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Merf99
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Re: Bringing baby home....MIL..Pi$$$ed me off.
My MIL bought DD's coming home outfit - we went together to pick it out. I was pretty damn grateful she bought it because I would never have put DD in something that expensive!  I think it was nice that your MIL asked instead of just going ahead and buying something. Let this go - you'll have plenty of bigger issues to deal with! 
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| Posted 9/13/09 8:16 PM |
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jerseypanda
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Re: Bringing baby home....MIL..Pi$$$ed me off.
My mom bought the coming home outfit for DS and I thought it was great because it was one less thing I had to worry about.
I am now pregnant with #2 and would LOVE for someone to tell me that they will take care of the coming home outfit!!! 
Just try and remember that your MIL is probably just as excited to have a grandchild as you are to have your baby. Sounds like she is just trying to help.
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| Posted 9/13/09 9:30 PM |
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Ever-After
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Re: Bringing baby home....MIL..Pi$$$ed me off.
I think that your MIL probably just didn't realize how important it is to you. Once i actually tell my MIL about the pregnancy & if she ever suggests buying the 'take home clothes', I will assume that she's just trying to be helpful and wants to be involved - which I have absolutely no problem with. If in the future I decide that it IS important to me to buy that first outfit (which I'm not sure right now if that's a priority of mine, but maybe it will be as i go along in this pregnancy) then I will just tell her that me & dh are taking care of that - and end it there.
I understand you feeling frustrated, especially if she's the type of MIL that is way TOOOO involved, but I honestly don't think she meant any harm
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| Posted 9/13/09 9:44 PM |
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Alli06
Baby #3 coming this June
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Re: Bringing baby home....MIL..Pi$$$ed me off.
Posted by Sweets13
She just asked,,,she didn't say "here, this is what the baby will come home in". Maybe she was going to tell you to pick something out and that she will pay for it?
IMO, you're making your MIL's simple, generous gesture into a "control" issue. I am sure she knows the child is yours and it's okay for her to be excited . Her son is going to be a father. Very soon you will be a mother and you can't imagine the love you are going to have for your child. Try to picture your child becoming a parent for the first time and then put yourself in your MIL's shoes....Get it??? This time is just as exciting for her as well.
Be appreciative and don't make a positive gesture into something negative.
ITA!
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| Posted 9/13/09 10:14 PM |
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Re: Bringing baby home....MIL..Pi$$$ed me off.
I wouldn't mind my mil asking this, my grandma bought mine and I was happy that she did! Also, if I didn't want her to I would have just told her nicely.
On another note, my grandma bought me all of these team green clothes....I told her not to get too much bc when we have the baby will will buy pink or blue, well, she didn't listen and bought me three huge bags of white and yellow clothing. Insead of being grateful, it almost upset me bc I feel like a lot of them are just a waste of $$$ and she specifically didn't listen to me. At the same time I felt bad for getting aggravated with her because they are just so excited and can't help it!! Like another poster said, grandmas, great grandmas are just as excited about this as we are and we have to just embrace it and include them but not be shy to tell them what we want
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| Posted 9/13/09 11:10 PM |
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