Re: C-section moms - disappointment over not having a vaginal delivery?

I felt like this after my first c-section, big time. Like I had been robbed.

Now that I've had three I'm pretty much over it.

Re: C-section moms - disappointment over not having a vaginal delivery?

Two 1/2 years later and I am still upset that I had a c-section. Even though I know it was in the best interest of my girls.

I feel like I missed out in feeling like I was having a baby. I never went into labor. I went into a drs. appointment and they said baby B was not growing as fast as baby A and it was time to take them. I went into the hospital that night and had them the next morning.

Then I didn't see them for a day and they were in the NICU for six weeks. Well Aubrey was 3 and Carsyn was 6.

I just feel like my whole experience wasn't what I always dreamed of. Don't get me wrong, I am extremely happy that I was able to have 2 babies after having a difficult time having them and that they are healthy.

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I think a lot of women feel that way. I didn't & prefer to have another cs for the next.

Re: C-section moms - disappointment over not having a vaginal delivery?

I don't think you are weird for having those feelings and they are much more common than you think. Both of my kids were breech babies (DS was a frank footling breech and DD was a transverse breech). When I found out I needed a c/s for DS I cried bitterly in my obgyn's office. I felt robbed of my dream l&d. Well DS had other plans and my water broke, I made it to 10 cm, and into transition contractions before I had my c/s. I really feel blessed that I had that experience. I was always afraid of the pushing part so I am fine with how I delivered both of my kids. Had things been different I am sure I would have felt like you do.

ETA: DH brought me each of my kids within 30 minutes of delivery. I was sewn up and the kids were examined. The minute each child was done being examined, DH brought them back over to me. I was able to nurse each child while I was in recovery. This was so important to me and I am so glad that we were able to do that.

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Re: C-section moms - disappointment over not having a vaginal delivery?

i understand what you mean to an extent. i had an emergency c section after my inuduction wasn't working. So I guess I was lucky enough to expereince contractions as well! I have to admit though, being in the OR room was the best part of the whole expereince!! Epidurals are great!!

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I totally understand. DS was a c/s because he was breech and I never went into labor (just had tons of braxton hicks, but they don't count ). I hated how planned it all was and there really is no "birth story". I got up, got dressed, went to the hospital and they cut me open. The end. LOL! I hated being on the table, was not really able to enjoy seeing him for the first time because all I could think about was that my insides were hanging out on the other side of the curtain. Recovery was tough and I feel like when you don't go into labor you don't release the hormones you're supposed to. My milk never came in and I had some pretty bad baby blues for awhile, plus I bled for 13 weeks after and it's all related to hormones. I'm really hoping to VBAC this time, but I'm on the fence about it because of the hospital I will deliver at. I don't think I'd mind the c/s as much if I can at least go into labor first, let my baby decide when it's time to go.

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I had to have DS via C-section because I had placenta previa. Once I heard this news, I had mixed feelings about not being able to deliver naturally-BUT I have to say, the booked C-section was so easy, and I had a speedy recovery.

So I think when we go for baby #2 I'd rather keep it easy again and go for another C-section.

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I feel like there is some sort of "contraction club" that I know nothing about.
No idea what pushing feels like...
both my babies never dropped, never dialated, scheduled c's.

I think it is weird...forever you watch on TV, read, prepare for the moment in your life when you are going to push a baby out. I find it hard to believe that I will never do that in my lifetime.

So I am not really sad or anything over it, just a funny feeling of being left out a road that I thought I would go down.

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I dont feel "robbed" of that kind of birth but I feel "robbed" of the experience after having the baby...getting to hold DD for the first time - spending those first minutes of her life together. There were a lot of complications with my csection and DD had to be sent to the nursery for all the tests/stuff they do before I could hold her because it took so long for them to finish after she was born. Then my blood pressure went up and they wouldnt let her come to me in the recovery room for about four hours. I feel disappointed over that, but not the actual way she was born.

Re: C-section moms - disappointment over not having a vaginal delivery?

I've had both. DS#1 was vaginal and DS#2 is C-Section. I definately felt a little dissapointed that the second was a c-section (due to babies size) because the experience was totally different. I'm grateful I got to experience them both.

Up until less than a week before I had DS I was anticipating another routine vaginal delivery like I had before. Labor last 12 hours with the first and recovery was a breeze.

Then they told me i was having a c-section. I sort of felt dissapointed that there wasn't the same level of anticipation. It was weird to me to walk into the hospital and walk into the delivery room and they take the baby out.

For me though it was the right thing. Baby was 9.4 at 39 weeks. I recovered very easily from the c-section.

But most of all I LOVED having 4 nights in the hospital. I know that sounds weird. With DS#1 I had two nights but the first night was spent mostly still in L&D. I was a stressed nervous wreck when we were going home. I experienced terrible PPD. I found it very hard to bond with the baby because I was a mess.

With DS#2 I bonded with him for the entire 4 days. I missed DS#1 and DH brought him to see me a few times but having that time to bond I think really was key to why I am taking this post-partum period so much better than with DS#1. I think the two nights was not enough.

That is just my perspective.

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Message edited 4/16/2011 11:58:35 PM.

Re: C-section moms - disappointment over not having a vaginal delivery?

Posted by ChrisDee

I am just happy that all my goods are still fully intact down there after 2 kids. The UP side to the c/s

Re: C-section moms - disappointment over not having a vaginal delivery?

I felt that way after number one since I wasn't expecting to end up with one. Sometimes when my friends talk about their deliveries I do get a little jealous but I'm just so thankful to now have two beautiful healthy little girls, that I don't care how they got here!

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