Re: Conceiving and gender selection through a specialist

I remember we talked about it in a thread last year or the year before.

At the time, I thought I would concider it.

Why?

The chance to have another child with PDD will be bigger if I had another boy. So having a girl would lower the chances.

Originally, I remember reading years ago that the idea was really for people who had several children who were girls (5 or more) and really wanted a boy to carry the family name. It was not really open to choose a sex based on just desire for the "common" people.

I had talked to DH about it. He was not in favor.

I believe they "wash" the sperm to keep males or females.

It's not 100% error proof.

Re: Conceiving and gender selection through a specialist

I don't know if I would do it for gender, but in terms of testing for genetic abnormalities, I absolutely would do it. IMHO, it's similar enough to an amnio - just done waaaay earlier.

Re: Conceiving and gender selection through a specialist

I personally would not do it. Gender does not matter to me.

But I don't care if other people choose to do it... their money and their bodies.

Re: Conceiving and gender selection through a specialist

I would not do it for any other reason than to screen for genetic issues that are either painful or not compatible with survival. I do not even agree with the idea of using books that purport to tell people when to to get the gender they want.

Re: Conceiving and gender selection through a specialist

I personally would never do it. I believe all children are blessings and I really didnt care what gender my kids were. However, I do not judge others who may want it done. That's their choice and none of my business. One of my closest friends is going through this now. She is pregnant with another boy and is having gender disappointment. Does she love her baby....without a doubt, but she has such a desire for a girl. She is considering doing PGD, 1) b/c she has had multiple miscarriages so she wants to make sure her leftover eggs are viable (she had to have IVF with all her pregnancies and 2) she is dying for a girl. If thats what her and DH decide, then who am I to judge.

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Honestly, before we had DS, the thought of it was a little ridiculous to me. Then DS was born with a rare genetic form of hydrocephalus. Any future kids we have have a 50% chance of having the genetic mutation. Boys have a 50% chance of actually having it and girls have a 50% chance of being a carrier. I'm still not 100% sure about gender selection, but what I do know that in order for us to have anymore children we would have to have IVF and either do genetic testing or gender selection. Our other option is to get PG, test & terminate if the baby has it. Just not something I can do.

While we love DS with all our hearts, I just can't risk having another child with this. It's a rough, rewarding road that is long, but I just can't do it again. That said, we may decide to just not have anymore kids. It's something I struggle with all the time.

To just do gender selection for no reason other that to pick? I'm not sure how I feel about that. Doesn't seem natural, but who am I to judge?

Re: Conceiving and gender selection through a specialist

i can't say yes or no because i'm not in that situation.

as previous posters have said, there are certain medical conditions that only, or mostly, affect one gender or the other. if i were in that position, then the answer is yes, i most certainly would to save the life of my child, or to ensure they have a good quality of life.

to each their own. people have to do what is right for them. if you're doing what's right for your family, then i support it 100%. it's easy to judge when you're not in a situation where it could actually matter.