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conflicted
well I got the text... 7:30 am-- my close friend just gave birth to her beautiful daughter-- all I could do was sob-- I know this is so selfish-- I am very happy for her but soo sad for me-- We were supposed to be doing this together I would have been 5 months this weekend-- no matter how hard I try to fake being happy I am truly sobbing inside.. My heart feels empty-- it has been 2 months since the miscarriage but it still hurts my heart all the time... This is so hard---- sorry for the pity party.....
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Posted 5/14/10 5:10 PM |
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Siren77
LIF Adolescent
Member since 9/09 828 total posts
Name: Siren77
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Re: conflicted
I know how hard it can be. My best friend gave birth left than 2 weeks after I lost my baby. Same hospital, same doctor...even saw the doctor when I came to see her. I felt exactly the same way but DH helped me find the strength to go see her and her new baby. I was glad I went. She was so happy to see me and she knew how hard it was for me to be there. I cried the whole way home but I still feel like I'm glad I went. It's ok to be sad. You are still grieving. I don't think your friend would expect you to be all bright and cheery. If you feel like you might want to go visit, make it a short visit. If you can take DH for support. If you want to talk, feel free to send FM.
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Posted 5/14/10 5:17 PM |
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autumn
Mommy to 2 divas
Member since 9/07 3389 total posts
Name: Lisa
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Re: conflicted
wanted to send you some huggs
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Posted 5/14/10 6:09 PM |
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MCD0524
LIF Adult
Member since 4/10 1199 total posts
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Re: conflicted
Im sorry, I hope you feel better
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Posted 5/14/10 10:52 PM |
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MrsKS
Thank You St. Gerard.....
Member since 12/09 8306 total posts
Name: Kerri
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Re: conflicted
so terribly sorry.
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Posted 5/15/10 8:23 AM |
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Bcubed
LIF Toddler
Member since 7/09 396 total posts
Name: Rebecca
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Re: conflicted
I feel for you. one of our best friends gave birth just a week after my DNC and I cried before going in the hospital and after. I did the best I could for them when I saw their baby and I even held her. My sister whom I love is about to have her second baby and I should be having mine this summer.. Everyday is a difficult reminder. I just keep telling myself I will have the baby that is meant to be mine!
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Posted 5/15/10 11:08 AM |
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bride07
Ava Rose you are an angel!!!
Member since 3/09 6115 total posts
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Re: conflicted
I'm so sorry! I know that must be so difficult.
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Posted 5/17/10 8:52 PM |
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zoe282
We have our miracle!
Member since 8/08 3634 total posts
Name: Jen
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Re: conflicted
I'm so sorry I know it's hard. but I think you said it best yourself...you are happy for her but sad for you..and that is totally fair. But I always try to tell myself that I would want ppl to be hpapy for me when that time comes...so I try to do the same for others no matter what is going on in my life. especially for really good friends.
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Posted 5/18/10 9:35 AM |
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