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hdrd0411
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Re: Day care kids vs. non day-care kids
There are pro and cons to having kids in daycare. Genetics and how a child is raised has more to do with intelligence. Both of my children are super outgoing...have no fear..and will talk and play with anyone..that is genetic in my opinion. DS was a daycare kid, DD is not. I know have a nanny. The only thing I would say is that daycare def. has advantages also. Socialization for starters, and I think daycare kids have a bit more independence, b/c they are one of many, not one on one. Pre-schools is ment to socialize, at age 2-3, and prepare for school and separation (age 4).
Either way...I think daycare kids are exposed to a lot more than stay at home kids...but I don't think it makes them more intelligent..
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Re: Day care kids vs. non day-care kids
Posted by MaMaTeenie
My friends daughter never went to a day of school in her life and walke into Kindergarten as if she owned the place.
I believe it doesn't matter at all. I know some day care kids who are very clingy, and tearful often. I know some SAHM kids like that too.
However, as the poster above said, I am a SAHM and other than being with me every day for the first 3 years of her life, my DD has only been watched by grandmas on the rare occasion. We dont really have peers her age to sociallize with. Besides mommy and me, things like that, she has never been in a class setting, esp away from me.
She walked into 3 yo preschool this year as if she owned the place. Thrilled to be there. Her first time ever with other adults that are not family. She goes each day extremely eager, runs to play and socialize. I was told she is a social butterfly. She is actually very confident.
So I dont believe going to daycare makes a child more social, not at all. There are children in my DDs 3 yo class that cry still in NOV< and they have been in the school last year too. So I think it all depends on the child. Maybe my DD needed a break from being with just me, lol, but either way, she is very social and very happy to be in a group setting. I dont think her being in daycare would have made her any more social than she is.
I have a friend who has a theory that her son who went to daycare is much more needy and teary and clingy than her DS that did not go to daycare. She feels they gain more confidence when not in daycare and then they transition better when school comes. But I feel it varies between children, just based on their personality.
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itsbabytime
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Re: Day care kids vs. non day-care kids
Definitely not. And, I'm not basing my opinion on what I think - it's what I've observed. I think a smart kid is a smart kid - at home 24/7 or in daycare. It does also depend on what they are exposed to in both places - many SAHMS can and do expose their children to and teach their children much more than other SAHMS or daycare but, the same is also true of daycare. I also think how social a child will grow up to be is in large part their personality and not something they learn. It is also something that will likely change many times from birth to adulthood.
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lbride
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Re: Day care kids vs. non day-care kids
Kids will have plenty of time to be social, learn rules & routines, etc when they're stuck in school for 18 + years of their life. For now, DS is happy being at home and going to a few classes a week.
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| Posted 11/7/11 9:25 PM |
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ChilisWife
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Re: Day care kids vs. non day-care kids
I definitely don't think how smart you are has anything to do with daycare. How kids develop depends a lot on what they are exposed to or taught, whether by daycare or a SAHM. My kids had both - were home with a nanny, and then went to daycare, and I did see a big difference. They were always very bright and happy but always alone and once they went to daycare, their socialization skills increased and also they became more independent. Then again, the entire first year of daycare they were sick 24/7 so there are pros and cons.
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| Posted 11/7/11 9:33 PM |
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Dulcinea
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Re: Day care kids vs. non day-care kids
There was actually a study one years ago about this... It was featured in the UK's Independent newspaper but here's a snippet.
"THE BIGGEST long-term study of childcare has found that children placed with childminders or in nurseries turn out aggressive, disobedient and defiant by the time they are in kindergarten.
Regardless of whether the children were from rich or poor homes and were looked after by a relative, a nanny or in a childcare centre, they showed heightened aggression at four and a half compared with those who were looked after by a parent.
The researchers also found, however, that toddlers cared for in nurseries or by childminders learnt to speak and think more quickly, leading experts to suggest that childcare turns out children who are "smart but nasty". "
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| Posted 11/7/11 10:20 PM |
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sugar-magnolia
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Re: Day care kids vs. non day-care kids
I agree with this. DD is almost 27mths. I feel the kids in "school" just know how to behave better. DD hates waiting her turn, has tantrums etc. DH and I were considering sending her somewhere two mornings a week starting in January b/c of this.
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| Posted 11/8/11 8:07 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: Day care kids vs. non day-care kids
I have noticed that most of the behavior problems in my son's school are daycare kids....not that all daycare kids are a problem...but that the behavior problems...the severe ones are from daycares/
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kristen92450
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Re: Day care kids vs. non day-care kids
I think it is positive and negative..they learn good and bad habits...kids I know that went today care learned to talk earlier..
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| Posted 11/9/11 6:49 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Day care kids vs. non day-care kids
Posted by kristen92450
I think it is positive and negative..they learn good and bad habits...kids I know that went today care learned to talk earlier..
I don't think the age at which a child begins to talk has anything to do with daycare. I honestly think that happens whenever it happens..
I know daycare kids with speech delays and daycare kids who spoke early. Same goes for kids at home. Ryan was talking at 8 months and he was home with me.
I don't know. I think children are definitely INFLUENCED by life situations, but most of development is inherent.
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