Depressed and Frustrated today..sorry very long...

My relationships with people at my job have been really different since I came back from Maternity leave and I feel like its due to the person who covered for me and then TOOK my job. I did get another counseling job at the same site(they are required to only give me back my same job title) but I had no say in it, the girl covering for me did. First problem...
Lately the people I was friendly with before I left treat me very differently. She has become close with many staff members and they all think she is the greatest. So I know there is a little jealousy working here since I don't feel the same love and appreciation even though I do go out of my way to help everyone and be a good listener and team player.
SO to end this rant, I really feel like this person has said things about me to other people(remember she did take over my current caseload so she could have said many things about how I did my job) since I have noticed a definate change in how I am treated by others. I have overheard her talking about me to one other co-worker and did confront her at the time about it. As a result I really don't trust her. I know she talks about others as well.

I really have no solution to the problem- she is well-liked and has many friends on campus. I feel kind of shut out. It doesn't help that I have a baby and can't go to happy hours and stuff anymore.

I just feel so sad and lonely at work lately and I hate feeling this way. I really feel like she came in and took over my life and it hurts. I was just in tears at my desk since I went to ask her a question about something and she was just so rude to me.

I love what I do and don't want to change schools but I really hate working with this person and the changes that have happened with everyone else too.

Thanks for letting me vent- I was about to start crying and thought of all of you to talk to since obviously I can't tell anyone at work how I feel.

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Im so sorry this happened, you TOTALLY dont deserve this

I hope everything somehow turns around for the better

Have you seen or spoken to your students? Im sure they will make you feel better, THEY know what a great person you are.

Try not to stress over the holiday break, enjoy your time with your family

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Thanks for taking the time to read this long post- I really needed to vent somewhere today.

I did get a beautiful card from one of my favorite students and it really helped brighten my day.

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When I went back to work I closed my office door for about 2 weeks. BC honestly...going back to the hussle and bustle of REAL life after spending every day staring at a beautiful baby that only smiles is frustrating when looking at others sour pusses. She probably only talked about you bc that was her only common thing between the other employees and her. Maybe she will find something about herself that will interest others. I would smile and act fake as can be and remember to call it a day.

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Sorry you have to deal with this! I agree with Anna, focus on the good things in your life. Also, hopefully as you continue to work there and show that you are very competent people will hopefully realize that whatever she said were lies.

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Oh, what a tough situation! Have you tried talking to her about it? It seems like that's a conversation that would probably go nowhere, but it's worth a shot (of course, I'm a total hypocrite because I'm the type to sit by and say nothing!). What about your original co-workers--is there no one to confide in? Everyone's under her spell?

You have to try to think that the kids are the reason why you're there and you LOVE that part of it!

I'm so sorry you're going through this--I really do feel for you!

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You ladies are wonderful- thanks so much for all your support and suggestions. I usually just let this stuff roll off my back since work is not my life, but lately I just feel so alone at work. I do have one other counselor who is not a fan of hers either- they don't get along at all. But she is a difficult person that NO ONE gets along with- I do only since I have known her for so long and understand where she is coming from. But of course she is away this week so it heightens this feeling of isolation.

I just needed to get it out- its just my place of work, not my whole life. I just wish she never came to work here. I really don't like her.

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That's awful

My gut feeling is that her true colors will come out eventually (they always do) and everyone will see her for the phoney that she is.

Unfortunately, who knows how long that will take.

I agree with Anna. Focus on the good. Concentrate on helping your students.

I've been thinking about this too... when I go back. I'm so over the faculty room dynamic that I have every intention on just staying in my room on my preps and just working, working, working so I hopefully bring very little home. I know it's not the same because you are in an office.

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That really stinks. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I'm sure it's hard enough being away from DD without feeling the way you are. I agree that it's only a matter of time before she shows her true colors and people see what you do. For your sake, I hope it happens soon.

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It's crazy that your job is to counsel people and yet you are the one in need of counsel and have no one to turn to. I am so sorry that you are going through this. It's not fair and you do not deserve it.

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I hate that you are dealing with this. We spend so much of our time at work and no matter how much we tell ourselves that things like this don't really matter - they do. They matter because they affect you and it's hard to escape it.

I agree with Theresa...eventually her true colors will show and people will see her and the situation for what they really are. In the meanwhile....lots and lots of hugs for you! (you get the smiley hug the situation gets the sad face one)

Stay true to yourself and your work - keep doing what you do!!!

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I wish I had you a co-worker!!!

I feel bad this girl has been such poison. What a jerk this gal is!!

You should feel good about standing up for yourself when you heard her talking about you. Good on you! Its hard to stand up for yourself, especially when you like peace and are a non-confrontational person.

She just sounds nasty. I don't know what advice to give...I don't even think you need any because you know all your options, within the job and externally. I guess just try and be positive? I dunno....easier said than done. Maybe God will send a dear soul your way to befriend you and make that job a lot more enjoyable and brighter.

In any case, big hugs!

OH, I know what you should do! Quit the job and work full time at curves as an instructor and manager...open your own facility! You'd be a great manager and motivator!

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That's awful

My gut feeling is that her true colors will come out eventually (they always do) and everyone will see her for the phoney that she is.

Unfortunately, who knows how long that will take.

I agree with Anna. Focus on the good. Concentrate on helping your students.

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I hope it gets better for you!

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