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leighla
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DH and your kid's parties...
Anyone else in this situation?
DH has not done ONE thing to help with DS's 1st birthday party.
This occurred to me last night when he sighed and rolled his eyes when I asked his input on the menu.
At that point I fantasized about smothering him with goody bags.
Instead I said "I have done everything for this party and all I've asked of you is to look at the menu, please don't act like it's stressful."
He responded: "What else has there been to do?"
At that point I wished the dinosaur centerpieces I was blowing up would come to life and eat him whole.
Anyone else wishing death by party favors on their DH?
Message edited 5/8/2008 10:17:40 AM.
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JenBenMen
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
I have forced DH to be helpful.
He has been wanting to sit on the couch and watch tv..and wants to know why i wont join him...
ok--i told him here is why
1. filling favor buckets
2. seating charts
3. placecards
4. clean our house for after party guests
5. figure out what we are all wearing
6. ordering centerpieces
7. doing the adult favors
He said he would pick up the cake
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| Posted 5/8/08 10:19 AM |
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nbc188
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
It's the same as wedding planning. They just don't get it  They just think things are magically done and all they have to do is show up!
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| Posted 5/8/08 10:21 AM |
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jerseypanda
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Lauren, I will have to let you know once I start to plan Lucas' first birthday! 
If you want, I can be sure to accidentally smear a piece of birthday cake in your DH face when we see him at the party! 
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| Posted 5/8/08 10:21 AM |
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LiveAgain
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
I'm actually feeling this way but it's because I'm planning our wedding!! and in about 3 month i'll have to start planning DD's 1st b-day  But i've already told him he's going to help!! 
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Karebaby
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Well, I understand what you are saying. Totally. When I want DH's help and he acts like there is nothing to help with, or gets annoyed, I feel like socking him in the face.
But with the parties, I would rather do it all myself. DH has a tendency to try to change things and for the kid's brithdays I have everything set in my mind how I want things to be. If I let him help, he would change the menu to what HE wanted to eat, and would spend most of the money on beer or wine and say F* the goody bags, kids don't need goody bags.
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luvsun27
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Lauren...be careful what you ask for.
See, I asked DH for help...and then we have to do everything his way  I have learned, to do things myself if I want them a certain way
If you want...send me over the menu...I'll look at it for you 
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| Posted 5/8/08 10:25 AM |
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cgdg61606
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
This made me laugh!
DH didn't do anything to help "plan" Thomas' party except look at the menu when asked (probably twice) and go to the catering place with me to place the order and came to ONE of the many Party City trips. Oh, he did come up with the lawn bowling idea, but I ordered it.
He did, however, do A LOT to clean and get the house and yard ready for the party and he did do a lot at the party itself and after (clean up). He also went to the beer distributor for beer and soda.
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| Posted 5/8/08 10:29 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Posted by leighla
At that point I wished the dinosaur centerpieces I was blowing up would come to life and eat him whole.
this made me
men are dumb
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| Posted 5/8/08 10:30 AM |
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vegalady
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
I automatically assumed that DH wasnt going to be doing much of the planning anyway. So I am not even asking for his input but just to be there to help out. He has three duties get the backyard cleaned up, give me the money I need, and barbecue.
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| Posted 5/8/08 10:32 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Except for the actual food preparation (DW does NOT want me around the kitchen..... ), I am very involved in all the parties. I help her pick out themes, favors, decorations, etc. On the day of the party, she's in charge of getting the food ready, and I'm in charge of decorations and setting up.
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| Posted 5/8/08 11:23 AM |
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lbelle821
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Posted by luvsun27
Lauren...be careful what you ask for.
See, I asked DH for help...and then we have to do everything his way I have learned, to do things myself if I want them a certain way
If you want...send me over the menu...I'll look at it for you
This is my situation as well...experienced it with the wedding planning. He thinks that once he gives input that is how it will be done and gets mad when I do it another way. So when I tell him about details I just tell him what I decided and don't ask for input. Then if I want help it needs to be very SPECIFIC help. Like someone said above, fill favors, go to party city at 2pm and pick up balloons. So all of his duties are after ALL decisions have been made.
It totally stinks that it has to be this way, and I know not all guys are like this, but mine is and so rather than me keep expecting that he will change I just alter my gameplan. Doesn't mean that I don't want to want him to get devoured by a velociraptor every now and then. It gets me so ANGRY!!!
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Ang-Rich
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
We now have an agreement...I do what I want and he doesn't complain about the cost unless he plans to be more involved. I win either way  (Of course I set a budget and stick to it...when I say cost I mean more like his complaining.."why do we need favors")
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| Posted 5/8/08 11:42 AM |
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DmarieK
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
This post made me laugh!!
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| Posted 5/8/08 11:46 AM |
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hbugal
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Fortunitely my DH was married before and I got the updated version when I married him..
He knows that he has it good and that I do most of the work..basically until the day of the party all he has to do is listen to me talk about it and say "yes dear" when appropriate...
Then on the day of the party he basically does whatever I tell him to do. He takes directions very well.
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| Posted 5/8/08 11:47 AM |
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DandN
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
We had a christening party for DD and DH actually thought elves did the work - he was like, "hey - there's a tent in your parents' backyard - did you know we were having a tent?"
He had to pick up 60 empanadas from an argentine restaurant in Jackson Heights and bring them out to long island - I NEVER heard the end of how he had to do so much!
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TiggerBounce
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
To the contrary, DH has been a bit TOO involved with DS' BDay party planning....but only on one area....the entertainment!
He was firm on no entertainment and it was going to be a SMALL party-family and close friends only.
In the past week he has called and gotten not only Elmo and a clown, but a bouncer and slide for DS' party. AND he has been calling more and more people to invite them and their kids! 
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JChia
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
I love how DH's roll their eyes - like mine does whenever I want to do anything other than sit around the house! "I want to go to lowes and look for shelves for nursery" ,
"Please help me to hang the pictures in the hallway that have been lying on the floor for 8 months now"
"Would you go to the store and pick up some chips to serve YOUR family when they come to see the baby today (b/c I can't bring the baby in public yet)"
Is it in the marriage vows? I promise to love, honor and roll my eyes at every request of my time you make?
DH usually complies, but he ALWAYS has to roll his eyes!
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| Posted 5/8/08 11:55 AM |
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leighla
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Posted by DandN
We had a christening party for DD and DH actually thought elves did the work - he was like, "hey - there's a tent in your parents' backyard - did you know we were having a tent?"
Man, I need some elves to start working for me!!
The thing is, when I did list out all the things I did so far and all the steps involved in each one, he basically told me that it was my own fault.
"You could have sent evites and hired a party planner."
Then I at him.
Sure, I could have, but I don't want to phone in my kid's first birthday party!!
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KateDevine
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Chris didn't help AT ALL...until the day of the party. He kicked his butt into gear and did really well helping and being a good host so I could be social.
But I wanted to kill him MANY MANY times during the planning, it was worse than our wedding
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nrthshgrl
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Death by party favors...I love it!
Every birthday party for DH has been just like our wedding - a complete surprise. He didn't has no input at all.
Oh wait for our wedding, the two things he wanted I wound up regretting asking him for an opinion.
I do give him tasks to do...mainly watch the kids while I go pick up everything.
If the party is at home, he has way too much input since he wants to cook everything..which is why we don't have parties at home.
By the way...I think you need to use your "death by party favors" as a chapter title in your book.
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smdl
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Posted by hbugal
Fortunitely my DH was married before and I got the updated version when I married him..
He knows that he has it good and that I do most of the work..basically until the day of the party all he has to do is listen to me talk about it and say "yes dear" when appropriate...
Then on the day of the party he basically does whatever I tell him to do. He takes directions very well.
We must have married brothers.
DH is very good. He was also married before. He knows what we have is good and he helps a lot.
He actually asked me for the invitations so he could write the invitations for his people. He actually offered to write them all. I said no... I don't know why! 
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05mommy09
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Posted by leighla
At that point I fantasized about smothering him with goody bags.
At that point I wished the dinosaur centerpieces I was blowing up would come to life and eat him whole.
Anyone else wishing death by party favors on their DH?
PIMP
Dh did not help at all with the christening. 1st or 2nd b-day parties- He will not help for the 3rd, 4th or 5th and to be honest I prefer it that way
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dm24angel
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
Posted by Ang-Rich
We now have an agreement...I do what I want and he doesn't complain about the cost unless he plans to be more involved. I win either way (Of course I set a budget and stick to it...when I say cost I mean more like his complaining.."why do we need favors")
This is how we do it too. LOL
I either FORCE him to do it and any eye rolling is countered with an hour lecture he would rather avoid, or I leave him in the dark and get my my mom to help.
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| Posted 5/8/08 9:39 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: DH and your kid's parties...
I don't expect DH to be helpful with things like that. It's just not his thing.
He's helpful the day of any parties we have with set up, cooking and clean up. That's enough for me.
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