Do you consider your child/children spoiled?

I will be honest ...yes I do. But I really do not know of any child that is not spoiled.

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No way. Mine are not spoiled in any way I can think of.

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No, I think every parent gives to their children as much as they are able to afford. So, I give to my girls as much as I can afford. Also, I give to them as much as I believe that will help them socialize and learn (gymboree and a more expensive preschool in Sept.) and more to entertain them. (ha, the bouncy house and play house outside, which may actually benefit me more.)

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I really hope not. I think its a major character flaw.

eta: spoiled for me is someone who cannot wait to get what they want and cannot make do without what they want.

Message edited 4/24/2011 10:42:05 AM.

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Totally not. We don't smother him in gifts & I don't give in to his whinning when he wants somethinghe can't have. He got 1 gift for Christmas from us and nothing for his birthday, 1 month later except for his 1st birthday party. I am trying not to raise a self centered brat.

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Absolutely not. She hears NO often and handles it very well. That's my def of spoiled. A child that is not told NO barely ever, and when they are, there is wrath to deal with. I am sure my DD is not spoiled, I would never tolerate a brat so I do my best not to create one by saying no when I believe it should be said. I see another family member who doesn't want to, have the energy or brains to, tell their DC no and the child throws a fit every time NO is said. You can see a monster is being created, and I would never want that. I am 100% sure my child is not a brat/spoiled and I am happy that my efforts to not create a monster are working.

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no. he shares, is very reasonable and never rude to adults.
no means no.

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Posted by Goobster

Absolutely not. She hears NO often and handles it very well. That's my def of spoiled. A child that is not told NO barely ever, and when they are, there is wrath to deal with. I am sure my DD is not spoiled, I would never tolerate a brat so I do my best not to create one by saying no when I believe it should be said. I see another family member who doesn't want to, have the energy or brains to, tell their DC no and the child throws a fit every time NO is said. You can see a monster is being created, and I would never want that. I am 100% sure my child is not a brat/spoiled and I am happy that my efforts to not create a monster are working.

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I do think there is a difference between being spoiled and being a spoiled brat.
I was definitely spoiled as a child but I certainly was not a brat. There would have been no way in hell my Dad would have let me be a brat. I would have gotten nothing otherwise!!!

I do not think DD is overly spoiled. I get her some stuff, other times I say no. I do my best.

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yes and no. He has EVERYTHING he needs and then some.

Spoiled for me means a child gets what he wants everytimes. Meaning toys, food, clothes, candy, TV, etc.. I feel spoiled is giving in to whatever they want. Not the amount of toys a child has.

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I agree with the pp Emily is spoiled, but not a spoiled brat. She has all she needs and plenty she wants. I am not a hard asss about a lot, but I have my "thinkgs" I won't bend on: bedtime, food, no hitting/slapping and so on. She's only 16months so it's still early

I think a truely Spoiled- in a bad way child_ is a child that doesn't share, that doesn't listen at all, that is ungrateful for what they have ,and expect everything. I was raised in a pretty tight middle class family and while I was spoiled I was not spoiled rotten and knew the limits to my power

I think that being spoiled in the right ways can be a good thing.

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In my home no. In his GRANDPARENTS house (both sides) YES! Drives me crazy.

Re: Do you consider your child/children spoiled?

Yes and it is my own doing. I am trying to reign it in though and teach them to be more appreciative of what they have and have to earn more things rather than just getting whatever they want.


ETA: I definitely don't think my kids are brats though. They just have a lot and I'm not sure they realize how lucky they are.
They share and are kind kids and I definitely say NO plenty.

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Re: Do you consider your child/children spoiled?

Certain things...yep. Certain things...nope. For example...I don't let him have whatever he wants whenever he wants. But DH and I have been tearing apart the big hill of our backyard to make it flat for him... he has a pool, a swing set, and tons of toys, yet he's only 14 months old! lol. When we are in the store, and he sees something he wants, he doesn't get it just b/c he wants it

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Yes absolutely and I'm embarrassed to say its probably out of control! She is our first child, first grandchild,.first niece so she gets so spoiled from everyone all the time. My brother visits like twice a week and he and his gf bring her something every time they come. My mom is the worst she thinks she needs every toy under the sun. My dh gives into dd all the time and I'm afraid she will grow up thinking she can get her way all the time. My family and dh think I'm "mean" if I tell her no or let her cry. I know we have to stop letting her be so spoiled but she is so darn cute its rough.

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Yes and no.... I don't spoil him by letting him get what he wants when he wants it, but I do spoil him with love and he has LOTS of toys that I'm sure those less fortunate don't have. But if he has to share and doesn't want to, I FORCE him to share or remove him from the situation (as witnessed on Friday at the GTG @ the arboretum...) He can't have whatever he wants all the time. Tears are good for the soul, IMO.

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Honestly, they may have more than they need and that is my fault BUT - I can only speak for Lucas since Gregory is too young - Lucas has excellent manners. He's appreciative and respectful - always says thank you and never says that he doesn't like something. He understands that no means no.

Even at my sprinkle he went around giving kisses to everyone to say thanks. He's a good boy.

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YES! She gets presents every day and whatever she wants. Im in too deep.

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My children are incredibly well manored and know how to behave in most situations ......that said there is definatly nothing that they want for or probably will at this point in life ....so if that means they are spoiled then i guess i would have to say yes .....

i enjoy watching them get rewarded for something i feel is needed .....and at this point in their and my life there is nothing that makes me happier than to see them smile and grasp the consept of a good job well deserved

hey in adult life we get rewarded too right ...a bonus ... a vaca ... a piece of jewelery
what ever floats our boats ....why not them ?

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I guess I should add this..yes he is spoiled...but not a brat...I'm just thankful he does say please and thank you...but I do have to remind him sometimes!