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we had to go back to basics. we changed the kids bedtime routine all together when this would happen. like a refresher course in sleep training. m. we get their most snuggliest stuffie, extra snuggles, extra story, extra lullaby, extra cozy experience in their own bed and gently encourage them to stay put, i'm in the room next door-it's all good-kinda thing. reinforcing the fact that their bed is just the most comfiest. it can take a few days and they'd try to talk me out of it, but i would go back to the same tactics and create that safe-comfiest space. i would also let them know i had to eat broccoli and fold laundry - so boring. sometimes it helped them to know i had sh!t to do.

they relapse, and we just keep at it. eventually they get back in the groove, expect the coziest experience with the coziest person in the world to them in their own little sanctuaries.

hope you guys find your groove soon too so you can get some much needed space & rest.

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No, because I learned that lesson when my oldest was little and wanted to lay with me every night! I will mention, I have friends with kids my daughter's age, that still sleep with their parents! (she is 12)

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Thanks for all the responses! To clarify, I would never turn my sick, sad, or scared child away. But he is asking to come into my room at 9 every night when he goes down to sleep, as a matter of course, and I was wondering what parents do in that situation. I appreciate all the feedback!


My kids never start out in my bed, as you stated that is your time and I also look forward to time with my husband or alone.
Maybe once a month have a sleepover with him where you watch what he likes and he sleeps in your bed.

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

Nope - never. I tried it once when I was newly separated and he moved around so much that neither of us got much sleep. If he has a nightmare (I have a first floor master) then I'll let him sleep on the couch outside of my bedroom but that rarely happens.

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

Yes. We've co-slept since she was born. She never really liked her crib and I couldn't leave her in there, just crying. She is 8 now. We got her a cool new bed with stairs and a play area underneath when she was 6 and she slept it her own room a few times, but she was scared alone.
I dont know if I'm doing damage having her sleep with us, but it is what it is for right now. I figure one day she'll want her privacy and go into her room.

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no i do not. its my rule. once in a while i do or in the middle of the night they come and i don't even remember and wake up to them next to me (doest happen often)

I had them sleeping in their own room and my DH ruined that.


They now for most part sleep on the couch

DS is scare of everything so he cant sleep alone.

DD just does it cause she thinks its unfair.

we go through periods when they sleep in their own bed.

DH is responsible for bed time so i just let him decide and deal with it!

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

Yes, not as a regular thing on school nights but on weekends we will watch movies and they fall asleep in my bed

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Yup, I let them. My kids are under 5, but DS recently started having nightmares and wants me to sleep next to him while he goes back to sleep. I see nothing wrong with that. I've read research on co-sleeping. Everything I've read seems to say it's beneficial for kids mental health. Maybe not so much for mine right now lol but I can sacrifice. It's not forever. I'm obviously in the minority here, but I'm a firm believer that you have to do what's right for you and whatever you choose is always the right answer.

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

They start off in their own beds but our 4 year old comes in at some point most nights and ds rarely does. Itt's an inconvenience but they are only small and cuddly for so long.

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

no... and both of my boys are adopted from Korea, and co-slept with their foster moms over there for the first 2-3 years. i'm mean HAHA I just feel like we all need our space to sleep, its good for all of us. My 6 year old (youngest one) will occasionally wake up at night- but, we comfort him in his room, not bring him into ours. and luckily its usually something small like rubbing his leg for a few minutes (he gets growing pains...) or rubbing his back. then we'll go back to our own bed.

I think something that helps, is a longer bedtime "routine"...if you can swing it between all of the other evening stuff like dinner, homework, packing for the next day. LOL sit on the couch and read together (my boys have to read for 20 minutes a night for homework anyway...) it helps them get their "snuggles" in and relax them, so they are more settled and ready for bed.

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

No, they don't share our bed. That's something that I am not comfortable with. However, they do come in our room when they wake up and we often snuggle in bed in the morning before we all have to get up and moving for the day. That we all love.

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I did. DS is 14 y/o now and I miss those nights. He started on his bed and later he asked to comet the big bed. In general terms, I think you should do whatever is best for you. I loved sleeping with DS and never had a problem with it. I felt it wasn't going to be forever, so why not.

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

I am in the minority - both our children have been sleeping in our bed since they were born. DS is now 9 and has started to sleep in his own bed and to be honest, it killed me. DD is still in bed with us. We don't mind at all. We love it and it works for us. DS still comes in once in awhile and its no big deal. I will take whatever snuggling and closeness they want to get and give. It's our time to talk about our days, anything that we are thinking about or whatever. To each their own.

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

I do. I love it. Oh well lol

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

I co-sleep with my 9MO nightly. Just last night my 3YO had a nightmare and asked to sleep with me as well. DH and I sleep separately because he is too paranoid and afraid hes going to roll over on the baby I say they wont be little forever and if it works for you, go with it. Most nights my 3YO wont wake up at all, and I co-slept with him his first 18 months. It doesn't last forever. Enjoy the snuggles!

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

Yes since around 15 months old we co-sleep. We have a huge bed. I'm going to cry the day we no longer co-sleep.

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No they never ask or try to come into our bed. If they did then maybe we would. As babies they all did occasionally but mostly slept in their cribs and now their beds.

Do you let your children come into bed with you?

When my oldest was little she always came into our bed. We ended up buying a King bed because she took up so much room and as soon as we had it in the house, she never asked again lol. Our youngest, (little different circumstance because she was adopted at 9) sleeps in our room every night. I have a cot next to the bed for her. She needs the comfort and security at night so I would never say no.

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Posted by MerryChristmas

Not judging, just honestly curious, how do you and your husband enjoy "alone time" at night?