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MrsPJB2007
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
I would never think i should have to contribute for groceries as a guest in someone's house. however i would be sure to give the host a gift and take them out to dinner one night that i'm there.
as a host myself--i would never ever expect anyone to contribute to the groceries or food while i was there. they are my guest, and that is my job as their host to provide food and drinks while they are there. i think i would be annoyed if they brought their own food or tried to pay for their own groceries--it would make me feel like they think i can't afford to have them around or something. but that's just me.
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
if I went shopipng with them, sure... if I didn't, I'd offer to go out to dinner one night (on me)
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| Posted 12/29/08 3:27 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
Yes, I would offer.
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| Posted 12/29/08 3:31 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
Posted by racheeeee
If I was a houseguest, no, I wouldn't contribute to the supermarket bill. However, I would take everyone out for a meal at least once (maybe even twice) but no, I wouldn't contribute to the grocery bill of my host because they are just that, a host.
I would not expect my houseguests to pay for their food, and if I had to run into the supermarket, I would decline any offer of money. However, it would be nice if the houseguest took us out for a meal. I have just had my parents for two weeks.
This is exactly how I feel
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| Posted 12/29/08 3:37 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
I guess I should answer myself
as a guest...I always bring some sort of "real" contribution to the dinner (a side, an appetizer, dessert) and probably some kind of alch beverage.
if I am sleeping over a night, *I* cook breakfast for my hosts in the morning (provided they wouldn't be offended by it.
when I stayed at my friends house in Switzerland, we ALL paid for groceries at different points during the trip.
and we gave his parents a gift for letting us stay there (they didn't stay with us)
as a host, if you are coming to my house, your wants/needs are catered to. If I know you don't eat pork and seafood, I make sure i have chicken...no matter what I am cooking as a main dish. if you are lactose intolerant, you will find Lactaid in my frig. any allergies are worked around. No ones food issue is left behind 
that is just how I am. I try to think of my guests and make them feel warm, welcomed, and thought of.
but I guess I also harbor the expectation that everyone thinks like me. and I think that is where my mistake is.
I don't feel diminished if people offer to help me in any way...i don't think they think I am too poor, or a bad cook, or that I can't keep my house clean. I just assume they want to HELP and say THANKS for having them.
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| Posted 12/29/08 3:42 PM |
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mikeandjess
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
When we stay at SIL's house we always take the family out to dinner one night and I'll usually make dinner one night too, and buy all of my supplies
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| Posted 12/29/08 3:47 PM |
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kimkim0000
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
I would definetly contribute.
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| Posted 12/29/08 3:47 PM |
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
id be annoyed if i had guests for 4 nights and they didnt even as much as offer to pick up bagels for breakfast
that is cheap and bad manners, imho.
i would offer to buy a meal a day and bring gifts and wine as well if i were a house guest
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| Posted 12/29/08 7:15 PM |
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june262004
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
Posted by CoopersMom01
If I was the host, I would never expect any of my guests to contribute to the cost of food. If I were the guest though, I would insist on making at least one meal with food I bought myself. But that's just me.
Agree. When we go to florida we try and pay for take out one night. We stay with SIL and she has 4 kids. So they usually don't take us up on the offer theres 6 of them and 2 of us. When they stay here I would never expect them to pay for us or buy food.
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| Posted 12/29/08 7:22 PM |
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
this is why I have this sign in my guest bedroom, shall I get you one?
Message edited 12/29/2008 7:24:00 PM.
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JennZ
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
Not only would I offer, I would have brought foods with me. Personally I think it is rude not to be prepared to do one or both of the above!
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| Posted 12/29/08 7:29 PM |
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donegal419
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
i would definitely contribute something.... idon't know if I would specfically contribute to the grcoery bill, that might be a bit awkward, but I would definitely take care of some of the take-out that was ordered and take out my hosts for a night out. I would also arrive with wine and other goodies at the very least.
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| Posted 12/29/08 7:30 PM |
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freshstuff
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
absolutely would I offer to contribute. When i have guests stay here they always offer, I decline but at least they offered. When I stay at my family's we always offer, again they decline but I would never expect them to foot the bill for us. I try not to be at their house for too many meals because I dont want them to feel put out.
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| Posted 12/29/08 7:36 PM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
I have to say this thread was enlightening and I am glad that I read it before staying by someone's house for an extended period of time (( in this country, lol )
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| Posted 12/29/08 7:59 PM |
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sweetie101
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
when i stay at my brother house. he usally never has food.he iives by himself.so when me and my go we usally stop at the store but my other brother house no because he comes here all the time and he does buy milk for his son
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| Posted 12/29/08 8:03 PM |
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DaniJude
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
It is so weird because allll of the things I wrote that I do when I go places - and I admit I'm a bit fanatical - the weird part is I NEVER expect it FROM my guests -- I just do it for others. Maybe it's just because I really like to entertain? I don't know. This thread has been interesting though!
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| Posted 12/29/08 8:03 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
Well, if I had guests for 4 days, I would not in anyway, shape or form expect them to pay for any of their meals they had with us. HOWEVER, if I was a guest at someone else's house for 4 days, I would absolutely offer and insist on contributing. I also would not show up empty handed, I would have already come with something for my hosts.
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| Posted 12/29/08 8:04 PM |
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lisad117
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
I would never ever stay at someone's home for 4 nights and not pay for any of the meals. I would either take them out to dinner or run to the supermarket and pick up things that were needed. I can't imagine not doing anything.
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| Posted 12/30/08 1:40 AM |
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
we host every holiday & this Thanksgiving we had 7 adult houseguest & three guest dogs for 4 days. Everyone was family. My relatives brought stuff for Thanksgiving dinner & my Aunt went to the store & bought stuff for our Saturday dinner. My uncle bought bagels one morning.
It is not expected, but since we've been doing it for years I've learned to stop saying no when they offer because it makes them feel bad.
We have very frequent overnight guests & I never expect anyone to chip in for food.
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| Posted 12/30/08 7:13 AM |
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MrsMerlot
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
eeehhh...tough situation. I think it really varies from culture to culture....
As a host, you take everything that comes with it - the lodging, the food, the service, etc.
I know in my culture, you take the whole schzame...as a "guest" we do not offer money as it's an insult. If you can't host from beginning to end w/out taking a contribution, then you don't host.
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| Posted 12/30/08 7:56 AM |
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Dream426
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
When that happens I usually go to the store and buy the food or buy dinner if we order out. I def. would contribute.
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| Posted 12/30/08 8:51 AM |
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Diana1215
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
If I were the host I wouldn't expect it -- but if I were the guest I would insist on paying for the food run - and also treat everyone to a meal out.
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| Posted 12/30/08 8:56 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
Dh and I are rarely houseguests, but we NEVER show up empty handed from the beginning - Deserts and wine at the very least - and we usually insist on taking the hosts OUT for dinner at LEAST one night ........(or at least picking up the take out tab -)
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| Posted 12/30/08 8:57 AM |
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Lisa
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
If I had allergies to certain foods, I would bring with me foods that I could eat. I would never expect my hosts to caterer to me and my differences.
I would never expect guests to pay for anything while staying at my home. If they offered to take us out to dinner, then fine but guests are just that...guests.
When we stay at others homes, we take the hosts out for breakfast/lunch/dinner and bring a gift or a few bottles of wine
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| Posted 12/30/08 9:06 AM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: etiquette QOTD...if you stayed at someone's house for 4 days
Usually when we go down to my aunt's in NC and stay there for a few days we go food shopping to pick up some food (mainly for breakfast and lunch b/c they own a restaurant where we usually eat dinner), we will take them out to dinner once or twice at a different restaurant than their own and even though we dont get charged for dinner at their own restaurant we tip the waitresses big time.
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