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christy
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Finding out the sex of baby
For those of you that found out the sex of the baby while pg, did you feel like it was "less of a surprise" when you gave birth? Or was that time still amazing? Also, did you find that you were showered with mostly pink or blue clothes instead of other baby items at your showers?
Dh really wants to know that sex of the baby and we can find out soon. I said I wanted to be surprised, but I am open to considering finding out.
I would love if you could share your thoughts....
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Shelly
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
I can't imagine how the birth of your child can be less of a surprise. You are meeting your little baby for the first time. Even after having one, I can't imagine the next one being less of a surprise. What the IV and epidural will feel like will be less of a surprise. How I will reover will be less of a surprise. But meeting your child for the first time- how can that be less of a surprise?
We knew before. I had a scheduled c-section because DD was breach. I was disappointed about that- I wanted to go through labor- but the doctor wouldn't let me. So everything for me was planned.
But it was a surprise like no other in my life. Meeting my little girl was amazing and like no other experience in my life.
And I have to tell you, every day since is also a surprise. What will she do today. What new word will she say. What new face will she make? (And DD is a year old. I should get used to this by now). But every day after is a surprise too.
ETA: I didn't have a shower so I don't know about that. I hate pink and I swore I would never dress my daughter mainly in pink. But in the stores, all there really is out there is pink and blue, some yellow and green. So you end up buying a lot of stuff in pink if you have a girl and blue if you have a boy. It just tends to happen that way.
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Elizabeth
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
I didn't find out with my first 2 but found out with my 3rd. I definitely preferred the excitement of not knowing the gender and if I was doing it again, which I'm not, I'd probably not find out. It was still a beautiful moment when he was born (obviously) but the excitement of the moment of finding out right after giving birth is one of those phenomenal experiences in life. It's such a personal decision though, plenty of couples are much happier finding out. I just loved that moment at birth.
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| Posted 4/25/07 7:44 AM |
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catdog
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
I didn't find out the sex of mine,At first I wanted to but my DD wanted to be surprised.
Meeting your child for the first time is amazing no matter if you know the sex or not but for me I was glad I waited.
Everyone thought I was having a boy I recieved lots of boys clothes at my shower even my sono tech kept calling her a HE.
I was sure I was having a boy, so after I gave birth when my Doc said its a GIRL I was sooooo surprised I had to to ask her to repeat it.
It was so exciting I'm glad I waited and if I'm ever blessed with another one I will wait again.
Don't worry about getting Blue or pink thinks everything can be changed.The outcome is Wonderful either which way.
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GenLCSW
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
we found out the sex and it was still absolutely amazing...we were so suprised when we actually saw him...I could have never imagined what he looked like!
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Faithx2
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
It's still a miracle either way  Personally I don't feel like it took any excitement away from the birth.
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| Posted 4/25/07 8:32 AM |
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angelbear217
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
We found out because I really wanted to know and be prepared for her arrival. Her birth was still a surprise because we couldn't wait to see what she looked like. It is the best time no matter what.
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| Posted 4/25/07 8:36 AM |
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MrsSchwags
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
i didn't want to find out at first, but at 28 weeks we changed our mind.
I do not regret finding out. It does not ruin anything. At the moment when your baby is out, all you can think about is the baby and not whether or not you knew what it was.
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| Posted 4/25/07 9:04 AM |
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2kids2cats
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
To me, it was a surprise at 20 weeks instead of 40 weeks and then when you get to 40 weeks, it's the surprise of what the baby looks like. The whole experience, especially for your very first baby - is amazing no matter what. We felt we bonded with her before, referring to her by name, etc. and when she came out, it was just amazing.
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
there is so much to be excited about when it is actually happening, there's no way I felt the least bit less surprised.
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
Posted by Kitkat
To me, it was a surprise at 20 weeks instead of 40 weeks and then when you get to 40 weeks, it's the surprise of what the baby looks like. The whole experience, especially for your very first baby - is amazing no matter what. We felt we bonded with her before, referring to her by name, etc. and when she came out, it was just amazing.
I totally agree
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
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Posted by Kitkat
To me, it was a surprise at 20 weeks instead of 40 weeks and then when you get to 40 weeks, it's the surprise of what the baby looks like. The whole experience, especially for your very first baby - is amazing no matter what. We felt we bonded with her before, referring to her by name, etc. and when she came out, it was just amazing.
I totally agree
I totally agree also.
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| Posted 4/25/07 9:30 AM |
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Tracey
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
Posted by Shelly
I can't imagine how the birth of your child can be less of a surprise. You are meeting your little baby for the first time. Even after having one, I can't imagine the next one being less of a surprise. What the IV and epidural will feel like will be less of a surprise. How I will reover will be less of a surprise. But meeting your child for the first time- how can that be less of a surprise?
We knew before. I had a scheduled c-section because DD was breach. I was disappointed about that- I wanted to go through labor- but the doctor wouldn't let me. So everything for me was planned.
But it was a surprise like no other in my life. Meeting my little girl was amazing and like no other experience in my life.
And I have to tell you, every day since is also a surprise. What will she do today. What new word will she say. What new face will she make? (And DD is a year old. I should get used to this by now). But every day after is a surprise too.
I could not have put it any better than this.
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Laura1
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
I really wanted to know so I could prepare. DH didnt want to know, but we found out b/c he wanted to do what made me happy.
When she was born, it was still such a miracle, I cried my eyes out, DH did too. I didnt feel let down b/c I knew the sex, it helped me get ready to be a first time mommy
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
Posted by tiki03
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Kitkat
To me, it was a surprise at 20 weeks instead of 40 weeks and then when you get to 40 weeks, it's the surprise of what the baby looks like. The whole experience, especially for your very first baby - is amazing no matter what. We felt we bonded with her before, referring to her by name, etc. and when she came out, it was just amazing.
I totally agree
I totally agree also.
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btrflygrl
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
Even knowing the sex of both our babies...meeting DD for the first time was so amazing.
I cried like a baby and then to see DH holding her, the way he looked at her.....
finding out she was a girl did NOT lessen any of the moment.
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monkeybride
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
For me finding out helped me bond with my baby more. It felt more real to me once I knew it was a she and I could go out and shop for her instead of waiting. I also got to make her a room exactly how I wanted. DH wanted to be surprised but that wasn't an option. 
As for the "wow" factor at birth honestly I can't imagine it could have been any better had I not known what I was having. Finally having her out and breathing and crying and being able to hold her is the most amazing feeling of all and it's almost surreal so to me it was just as big of a surprise to finally be a real live mom.
I'm sure it's fun not knowing and you get a little extra fun at that moment but for me I wouldn't change a thing. I loved knowing and it really helped me.
As for gifts we did get a lot of clothes but mostly from the grandma's. We got just about everything we needed off our registry. People didn't buy clothes instead.
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AlohaMa
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
I had NO regrets finding out. I loved the surprise at 20 weeks and it gave me an opportunity to "know" them better - they already had such personalities. It's a totally personal choice so whatever you decide, you won't be disappointed!
Yes, we got a ton of "boyish" clothes - blues and greens galore!
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I am glad we found out. Seeing the baby right after she was born was still special and a surprise- she looked NOTHING like what I'd been imagining- I thought she'd be bald with light eyes, and she had a full head of really dark, thick hair and these gorgeous, dark blue eyes. She was much more beautiful than I'd ever imagined.
We did get a lot of pink, but we also got a good deal of things in other colors- some people made an effort to get things in green, yellow, peach, etc. and MIL and my mom both got quite a few things before we knew the sex.
I also think finding out kind of revitalized our excitement- not that we never felt unexcited, but it felt "new" again, and we made a day of getting the Level II- we then went to lunch, and registered and shopped.
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alex7-2
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
Posted by BlessedMommy
It's still a miracle either way Personally I don't feel like it took any excitement away from the birth.
i agree 100%..i found out that i was having a girl..it was so exciting to talk about her with my dh during the rest of my pregnancy..i am pg with my 2nd child and we decided to not find out what we are having..we were excited before and i know we will be just as excited now..just doing things a little different.
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MatteosMom
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
We found out ahead of time, it was still amazing and a huge surprise....to see your baby, see what he or she looks like, so many surprises! I did get boy clothes at the shower, but I still got LOTS of other gifts that we needed. I don't think I got more clothes b/c we knew the sex. If someone is going to buy clothes, they'll do it regardless, but maybe get gender neutral clothes if they don't know the sex. So just more yellow and green instead of blue or pink!
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ddunne2
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
With Jack we didn't find out and with Molly we did. Still both surprises but in a different way. With Jack it was like "who is this baby going to be?"...with Molly it was the excitement and fun and surprise of waiting to meet the person who kinda had an identity already. Does that make sense?
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SoinLove
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
We found out with both kids and it didn't take away from the joy and amazing feeling we felt when meeting either of them for the first time at all!
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| Posted 4/25/07 3:51 PM |
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christy
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
Thank you so much for your responses. It is a hard decision, and I am glad to hear all sides. 
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Re: Finding out the sex of baby
Posted by Kitkat
To me, it was a surprise at 20 weeks instead of 40 weeks and then when you get to 40 weeks, it's the surprise of what the baby looks like. The whole experience, especially for your very first baby - is amazing no matter what. We felt we bonded with her before, referring to her by name, etc. and when she came out, it was just amazing.
We felt the same way. I actually received hardly any cloths but the cloths I did get was boyish.
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