For those who have 2 same sex kids and want no more-how do you handle the Qs?

I'm due anyday now but I am already getting the questions...We are and have a dd already. We are set on two no matter what sex, but people of course still ask "well if it is another dd, will you have 3?"Some people go on and on about how imperfect we would be... What is your response without being long winded. I don't like explaining myself to anyone and despise the fact that people already will assume that we are not "complete" unless we now have a ds. Thanks for your help!

Re: For those who have 2 same sex kids and want no more-how do you handle the Qs?

I just brush people like that off. I have 2 girls and I get the same questions - even from strangers all the time!

I just learned that if its not that question being asked it will be another and I try not to let things get to me.

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I have DS and am pregnant with twin boys. It was a major struggle for use to get pregnant and it makes me nuts when people say that I will or ask if I will go for a fourth to have a girl. I am ecstatic to have more boys and just reply with something like, "My son is my best friend and I cannot wait to have more boys." If they press on, I just try to blow them off. People should mind their own business!!!! Hang in there!

Re: For those who have 2 same sex kids and want no more-how do you handle the Qs?

I just tell people that I love my boys. And having a 3rd just isn't even a blip on my radar.

Re: For those who have 2 same sex kids and want no more-how do you handle the Qs?

... and if you have one of each, strangers will decide for you that you're done having DC, even if you and DH fully intend on having more... you can never win....

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I can never understand these questions.

I WANTED a second boy so badly, not because i loved having a boy but more for the fact that i really wanted johnny to have a brother. I just envisioned two little boys playing, growing up to be buddies etc..

And now that we talk about having a third people will ask us if we are "going for the girl". Honestly? NO! I have always wanted a bunch of kids regardless of gender. If we have a girl, great. If we have a third boy, great. I tell people that I just want a healthy child, gender does not matter to us. It's sad though that it matters to so many others.

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I tend to ignore those comments. The only one who really said anything was, surprise, surprise, my MIL.

DD #2 was 3 months old when she started with #3.
She claims she is happy with her 2 girls, but I thnk she wants a boy.

Which is ironic because she has 3 boys and was going on and on about how she knew DD #1 was going to be a boy. Now that I have 2 girls, she wants a boy.

I tell her she has 2 other kids that can give her grandchildren. One is in a long term relationship with no ring is sight, and the other is single. So that didn't exactly cheer her up.

Sorry for the rant, guess that's been on my mind for a while.

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Re: For those who have 2 same sex kids and want no more-how do you handle the Qs?

I would just say "we are extremely fortunate and happy with what we have."

Re: For those who have 2 same sex kids and want no more-how do you handle the Qs?

I love that I have 2 girls (if I had a boy first I would have wanted another boy) while it is nice to have one of each - I think the bond of sisters or brothers has a chance of being stronger. So when people ask me I just say I'm very happy to have 2 girls and that if I had a boy it would throw off the balance and I'm done.

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annoys the crap out me when people say so that means ur going for a 3rd to get ur girl.. UH NO. While all i wanted was a healthy baby when i found out i was preg with #2 i was hoping it was a boy bc the boys will be 17 months apart and grow up together. i was beyond thrilled when i found out the baby was healthy and a boy.

I always said im done after #2 comes and 100% honestly meant it then and still mean it now.

when people have b@lls to say that to me i have the b@lls to say that im completly done and my family is complete with my 2 boys. they usually dont reply back and never bring it up again...

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Re: For those who have 2 same sex kids and want no more-how do you handle the Qs?

I wanted 2 of the same, and got just that. I am blessed and that is what I would tell people. Most people around me knew what it took to have a 2nd baby for us, so I never got too many questions about it.

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I just say our family is complete

The only one that makes a comment is my MIL. She calls families that have one of each "the perfect family"

We have two wonderful boys and I feel very blessed. I dreamed of being a Mom of two- never cared about the gender.

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When people make the inevitable comments about "going for the girl" I tell them quite firmly that *I* am girl enough for any family.
And my boys (both kids and DH) happily tell people that I am their princess and I am just fine with that!

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I get it ALL the time, I have 2 boys. the worst is my DH really wants a third (he wants a girl too) and he is driving me NUTS. I don't care when strangers say it, but when I have my mom, DH , sister saying it's tough.

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I have the perfect family.

I don't care that I have two boys. I love it, and I love them with all my heart.

When we go for a third I will shut anyone down right away who makes any "Girl" comments. We just want another child. We don't care if it's a boy or a girl.

ETA: When we found out my first was a boy my mom used to make comments that she wanted me to have a girl someday. Now, two grandsons later, she said she would be thrilled for another little boy. She never knew she could be such a good boy grandmother. Jack bakes with her as Tyler is right there along side watching.

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Re: For those who have 2 same sex kids and want no more-how do you handle the Qs?

I am PG with my second boy and people have already asked me if we are going to "try for a girl".

We are undecided as to #3 but I tell people that if we decide we want a third, it will be because we want a baby, not because we want a girl!

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Posted by GoldenRod

... and if you have one of each, strangers will decide for you that you're done having DC, even if you and DH fully intend on having more... you can never win....

Re: For those who have 2 same sex kids and want no more-how do you handle the Qs?

I am due w/ #2 in May and it's another boy -

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I tell people I'll have a 3rd under 2 conditions:

1. They write me a blank check to cover the cost of the 3rd child for the rest of his or her life -

2. They take over as God for the day and guarantee me a HEALTHY girl

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imperfect? Really?
They really said that?
Who says that???

as long as your children are healthy, then you have a perfect family.
Tell whoever to go play in traffic.

Re: For those who have 2 same sex kids and want no more-how do you handle the Qs?

before being a mom, ive been guilty of asking those questions. i always thought a family would be incomplete without one of each. now that i have DS, if my next one is a boy i will be just as happy as if hes a girl. and i would be done at 2. i think people just dont get it until theyre there.

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I have 2 boys and a girl and I always hear "awww you got your girl". I always respond with I would have been just as happy if she was another boy!.

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I have one son and two step sons. I'm pg with my DC#2 and DH's 4th. EVERYONE makes girl comments. Everyone is waiting for a girl. I just want a healthy, happy baby. I truly don't care if it is girl or boy. Worst part is that my DH really wants a girl. I'm so anxious over this... DH of course wants health and happy first and foremost, but would be really happy if it is a girl.

To answer your question, I would say my family is complete or I am truly blessed with my boys.