Spinoff When to have sex talk with your kids

Did your parent(s) had the "sex talk" with you and did that affected the time and the how/ with who you first "did it"?

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nope, we're irish LOL. we grew up in a "don't ask, don't tell" and do not discuss anything like that household. we're lucky we got a hug and a kiss from time to time haha!! i always joked that i grew up in a "cold" house. my parents had no clue what to say to us -- they let the little sex ed we got in school do the trick.

i don't think it had any effect on me whatsoever... i would have done what i did, when i 'did it' lol regardless. i also, b/c i was interested in health class, read up on a lot of things about sex, the human body, sexually transmitted diseases, etc on my own - i just found it to be interesting and liked the "knowledge is power" of it all - that way, when i went through life i felt in control and like i knew what i was doing -- lol not meaning IN bed but in "life situations", KWIM??

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We had the sex talk, but more than that, my mom talked to me a lot about self-worth, and about the importance and significance of losing your virginity. Because of her, I made the choice very seriously, and do not regret waiting (not til marriage, but later than I might have!). Many of my friends were having sex in HS, and I think thought less of themselves when they lost in relationships that were not significant. I think something like that effects a woman's long-term self esteem.

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We could ask my parents anything, and I mean anything (my Mom gave me a complete description of a BJ when I asked what it was )

My father also always said to us:

What you are from the top of your head to the bottom of your toes is yours. The way you treat it will be the way other people will treat you.

I was a virgin till I was 21 and I was with him for a year before we DTD. I totally feel it was because of my parents that I chose to wait as long as I did.

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Yes! My mom had the sex talk with me- the biology of it - when I was young.

In my younger teenage years, my dad (who I was very close to) spoke to me about " a girl's reputation" and how is like glass and once tarnished, it can never be repaired.

My parents also spoke to me about how special my virginity was and how I should give it away to someone special.

It did affect me. I lost my virginity while in college to a guy I was in a relationship with.

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Posted by Tilde

Posted by DaniRella

nope, we're irish LOL. we grew up in a "don't ask, don't tell" and do not discuss anything like that household. we're lucky we got a hug and a kiss from time to time haha!! i always joked that i grew up in a "cold" house. my parents had no clue what to say to us -- they let the little sex ed we got in school do the trick.

Ditto. Except replace Irish with Italian Catholics. . .

Although my aunt did pull me to the side one day and she told me "If a boy sees your panties he will think you are disgusting and tell everyone how disgusting you are."

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Nope, my Mom and I didn't have an open relationship at all.....I swear to be the EXACT opposite with my kids

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Yup, my mother told me everything and anything I ever didn't want to know and was very open with my sister and I. It had no effect on when I lost my virginity. None whatsoever. What it DID have an effect on is how I protected myself.

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I was raised by my Dad and he was never comfortable talking about that with me, nor was I comfortable talking to him. I was 16 when my Aunt took me to the doctor and had a talk with me, but I had already "done it." IMO the talk should be done at a fairly young age. It seems kids are sexually active at younger and younger ages. I was young myself, so I want to teach my kids even before then so they're prepared. I don't have kids yet, but I don't think 10 or 11 is too young. Girls begin menstruating that young so it seems like a good age.

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Yes. My mom did the sex talk. Date rape, drugs, etc...

She totally influenced my decisions. But my mom and I are very close even if VERY far in distance.

It did not work with my sister. But both are not close.

So I am not sure it did not have a correlation.

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my mother just told me "don't do it" what "it" was, i didn't know.

later, i was told "i know you did it!" i still didn't know what "it" was.

so yes, it did affect my first time. because i did "it" with someone i didn't care for because i was already "accused" of it.

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No we never talked about it.
I do remember my mom once saying to me "do you have any questions about sex?" and I was like "um, no"... and neither of us brought it up again.

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Nope, never. Still can't talk about sex with my parents. I was mortified to tell my dad I was pregnant, that meant he would know for sure I'd had sex.

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Yes. My parents were totally cool with it and so I was totally cool with it. My family has always had a liberal view on discussing sex. Even today.

I remember when the whole Monica Lewinsky thing came out and everyone was asking, "How are parents going to discuss this with their kids?" And me and my sister were like BTDT.

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My mom never had "THE TALK" with any of her kids.

She was ALWAYS and still is very open about that kind of stuff. She would talk to us all the time about things and as she was talking to us, was teaching us. She didnt state facts or anything like that but we learned anyway from her laid back ways. We were always able to go to her with any questions, at any age and it was never a HUGE deal.

My dad on the other hand, I was embarrassed to even tell him I was pregnant...after 4 years of marriage!! He has never said a word about it to his girls OR his son. He just doesnt go there and I am happy he never did.

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We didn't really have a "talk" per se but sex and stuff was not taboo.

We had sex ed in school and there were assignments that had to be done with our parents which they did very readily or at least it seemed.