for those with one baby more fussy than the other..

does anyone ever feel guilty bc u r always with one more

dd is just a calm cool baby..she can entertain herself,put herself to sleep etc

ds on the other hand is fussier and needs more attention most of the time and when i am trying to calm him she will sit in her bouncy sit or on the play mat and laugh to herself

i look at her and she smiles but i feel bad like i never get to just be with her

idk,i know she wont remember bc she is 15 weeks old but i feel bad

i swear my hormones are worse now than when i was pregnant

Message edited 3/21/2013 11:56:41 PM.

Re: for those with one baby more fussy than ythe other..

no advice but i often feel the same

for those with one baby more fussy than ythe other..

yup! one of my boys is more content, entertains himself, finishes bottles quickly....the other needs to be held more, needs someone near him, is a bad eater and takes forever on bottles. i feel so bad when im holding the one and the other is just smiling at me and laughing. its hard to juggle both of them!

Re: for those with one baby more fussy than ythe other..

ALL THE TIME. My daughter is chill as all get out and my son is more, well vocal about his displeasures lol.

When my DS started teething we thought he had acid reflux or something because he was so horribly upset all the time, and didn't even realized that my DD had her two bottom teeth till they popped up because she was exactly the same as always.

I try to take extra time to cuddle the less fussy one when the other is content here and there though that guilt is still there (though she is happy as a clam). I also figure as time goes on, she will need me more for other things and he won't and in the end it will even out, but it is definitely tough!

Re: for those with one baby more fussy than ythe other..

So glad you posted this because I feel the same way!! One is so easy!! The other wants to be held and cuddled all the time.. I don't mind it I Just wish I had enough arms to do it with both.
The "complainer" sleeps a lot more so I try to make up for it with the calm twin when the other one is sleeping.

Re: for those with one baby more fussy than ythe other..

Yes my baby A has always needed more time and attention, since birth. Now at 18 months she is still that way. I have found that I have made up the time with baby B while baby A is in time out. Lol. I completely understand your mommy guilt.

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All the time. But my once chill baby (twin 2) now demands attn, whines, tries to get out of her bouncer and my stinker (twin 1) has chilled out. I always needed to rock 1 to sleep but now she goes to sleep fine. 2 had reflux and needed attn that way but would (and still will) sit on her activity mat for an hour just chilling. 1 rarely does that. But 1 often demands that you hat with her. So I guess they are both demanding lol. They are twins. It's normal. But I do still feel bad.

for those with one baby more fussy than the other..

One of my girls is definitely the squeakier wheel.

My biggest problem was that the needier one would only go to me where my mellow one was content on her own or with her dad. At one point because DH always had the mellow one she started to only want him. She would cry for him when she was sick or hurt or needed something. She started to reject me. Which broke my heart in a million pieces, so I started going out of my way a lot more for her. I always felt bad before but I was so exhausted and my squeaky girl was so draining that I allowed the easier one to self sooth. They were like night and day.

Once my easier girl started exclusively seeking out my husband I realized I had to work harder on our relationship. Now she comes to me and wants me so everything is better :O) She is also a real hell raiser. She is so confident, a big explorer and really stubborn LOL

I love them both so much it is so hard to be in two places at once.

Message edited 3/22/2013 9:39:19 AM.

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My DS (Baby A) has always been the fussier one. He has always been like this and he is 18 months. He needs to cuddled a lot more then my DD. He is very sensitive. My DD is such a pleasure and when she was an infant I felt so guilty that I she wasn't getting enough attention. Now, that they are 18 months I try to do different activities with each of them by themselves, so they both know that they are so special and loved.

for those with one baby more fussy than the other..

same here. my son is definitely a more needy baby....my daughter is a breeze. all i will say is that it will all even out. dont beat yourself up over it. with twins, you are in survival mode! just do what you need to get through the day. hugs!