Friendship Q

Did you ever have a friendship that ended, you KNEW that it needed to end, but still miss them from time to time

Are friendships always worth a 2nd, 3rd, 20th chance?

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Sometimes, yes they are worth a 20th chance. Only you know for sure if it's worth it or if it just means more abuse for you.

And yes, I had to end a friendship and still miss her quite a bit.

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Totally. I have one friend who used to make me totally insane, but I really, really regret not giving it more effort. In hindsight too I saw some things in my behavior that I feel very badly about.

I wish I had the nerve to get in touch with her. I think I will always really regret letting the friendship go because even though she made me nuts she was always there with support when needed.

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Posted by Redhead

Did you ever have a friendship that ended, you KNEW that it needed to end, but still miss them from time to time

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Me and Felicia went through it sounds almost the same thing and i feel the same way she does about it.

While i do believe some friendships are worth another chance (if that person tells you they changed), i don't think mine is. Sad but true.

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Ive had the same type of friendship and it was from childhood. I have the same exact feelings that you have described. (should I give her another chance, shes hurt me but we've been friends for so long, can we be friends again with all the hurt etc...) What I have done is let it play out the way its supposed to. Forget the grudges, bad feelings etc... If you feel you might want this person back in your life, then chance it. I definitely would not do the "lets talk about all the bad things". Go into it positvely. I am again not friends with this childhood friend. Its probably about 3 years now. She did not come to my wedding. We probably miss one another alot but life has a funny way of working. Friends come and they go. If your friendship is meant to happen again, it will. If in the future it goes sour again, then its just the way it played out.

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I never had to end a friendship. I have lost touch with friends but when I do talk to them we usually pick up right where we left off.

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The timing on this post couldn't be better. I was hanging ornaments on my tree last week, missing my friend that I had a falling out with ... She had given me this Lenox Santa in a hot air balloon as a reminder of a trip we went on...

I'm not sure if I should reach out to her again, but I do miss her. I'm just not sure if it's worth the upheaval in my life.

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I used to think that it didn't matter. A friend was a friend no matter what. Well, I learned my lesson. I will never allow someone to do to me what my ex-friends did. I got hurt the first time, dropped their a$$, then gave another person a chance and got screwed even worse...............if she came back into my life the answer would be.......'GO TO HELL'.

Just my opinion of course.

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Posted by Redhead

Did you ever have a friendship that ended, you KNEW that it needed to end, but still miss them from time to time

Are friendships always worth a 2nd, 3rd, 20th chance?

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It is just ...when you haven't talked to them in a while...all the hurt and anger seems to disappear and i have been remembering the good times...

But i am pretty sure that the old issues will come back...

But that hasn't stopped me from missing her

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Posted by Redhead

It is just ...when you haven't talked to them in a while...all the hurt and anger seems to disappear and i have been remembering the good times...

But i am pretty sure that the old issues will come back...

But that hasn't stopped me from missing her

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Posted by Redhead

It is just ...when you haven't talked to them in a while...all the hurt and anger seems to disappear and i have been remembering the good times...

But i am pretty sure that the old issues will come back...

But that hasn't stopped me from missing her

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Posted by neeniebean86

Posted by Redhead

It is just ...when you haven't talked to them in a while...all the hurt and anger seems to disappear and i have been remembering the good times...

But i am pretty sure that the old issues will come back...

But that hasn't stopped me from missing her

time definitely heals alot of wounds, But, i look at friendships like relationships. Some Ex's are Ex's for a reason... and the relationship was just not meant to last. Things always look better when you look back on them, buts thats because the sting is gone, but honestly, i feel like rekindling the friendship could be great at first, but once that comfort level sets in again, the can of worms will inevitabley be opened.

it's sad, but i feel like different people are meant for different periods in your life, and sometimes its just better to leave the past in the past.

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Posted by Redhead

It is just ...when you haven't talked to them in a while...all the hurt and anger seems to disappear and i have been remembering the good times...

But i am pretty sure that the old issues will come back...

But that hasn't stopped me from missing her

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Yes, I do but the drama and stress that it brought was too insane...ending it was for the best...for both parties involved....my motto never look back at what could have been, life is too short for could or would haves...move on...NEXT!!!

Just value your true friends, if you lucky enough to have one.

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Posted by neeniebean86

different people are meant for different periods in your life, and sometimes its just better to leave the past in the past.

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Posted by baghag

Posted by neeniebean86

different people are meant for different periods in your life, and sometimes its just better to leave the past in the past.

This has been true for me too.

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Posted by neeniebean86

Posted by Redhead

It is just ...when you haven't talked to them in a while...all the hurt and anger seems to disappear and i have been remembering the good times...

But i am pretty sure that the old issues will come back...

But that hasn't stopped me from missing her

time definitely heals alot of wounds, But, i look at friendships like relationships. Some Ex's are Ex's for a reason... and the relationship was just not meant to last. Things always look better when you look back on them, buts thats because the sting is gone, but honestly, i feel like rekindling the friendship could be great at first, but once that comfort level sets in again, the can of worms will inevitabley be opened.

it's sad, but i feel like different people are meant for different periods in your life, and sometimes its just better to leave the past in the past.

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I completely agree that friendships are worth additional chances. However - have you gone down that road yet with this person? I did have a friend that just wore me out time after time s u c k i n g all the life out of me. It just became too much. And I miss the heck out of her. But I will not call this friend again because I realize what I am welcoming back into my life. And the fact that this particular friendship was given about 50 chances over 15 years. Done, game over.

Neenie made a very good point in her post, but I truly feel that if you are missing her and can deal with whatever she brings back into your life, I say call her.

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Yes....i have told her how i felt in the past. She of course said she would change. But things never did.
Yes i miss her but i don't know if it is enough that i want to go through the BS again

Message edited 1/4/2006 7:08:32 AM.

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Posted by neeniebean86

Posted by Redhead

It is just ...when you haven't talked to them in a while...all the hurt and anger seems to disappear and i have been remembering the good times...

But i am pretty sure that the old issues will come back...

But that hasn't stopped me from missing her

time definitely heals alot of wounds, But, i look at friendships like relationships. Some Ex's are Ex's for a reason... and the relationship was just not meant to last. Things always look better when you look back on them, buts thats because the sting is gone, but honestly, i feel like rekindling the friendship could be great at first, but once that comfort level sets in again, the can of worms will inevitabley be opened.

it's sad, but i feel like different people are meant for different periods in your life, and sometimes its just better to leave the past in the past.

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I had a friendship that was pretty toxic. She was never there for me. I knew for a long time that it needed to end. For me it was just too hard to end it. I kept giving her another chance only to be let down. The final straw for me was when she left my wedding before I even cut the cake without saying goodbye to me---and she was a bridesmaid.
I do miss her sometimes. I miss all the fun we used to have before she changed. I then remind myself of what the last couple of years of our friendship were like. It gets easier.

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Sometimes they are but there are plenty of people I was friends with and over time I just stopped calling and I do miss them But I also have met allot more new friends who take the time and call or drop an e-mail.

Denise

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i am torn