Re: GTG poll---IF grads related..

I haven't commented on this thread yet, but I just wanted to say that I am very happy to see this was an intelligent discussion and did not lead to any drama.
I am a little surprised at the results, although I totally understand how people feel the way they do. I guess like some of the others here, I am just not as sensitive as some around pregnant women.

I too was a little shocked to see the number of responses on the poll. Even with IF lurkers it seems a high number. I would also hope that people not planning on attending the GTG didn't vote because that might skew the results in a way that don't show the feelings of the people who will be attending. Although, as was mentioned, if one person feels uncomfortable, then that is enough.

Re: GTG poll---IF grads related..

Posted by MrsRivera

Posted by melijane

I am torn on this(I will not be going because I live out of state besides for the other reasons mentioned) I can totally see everyone's point. I also know that this board was a HUGE part of my life for so long and offered such great support that it is kind of hurtful that someone wouldn't want me around...Just being honest here.

I still come on the IF board because I feel I have a lot of knowledge to share and I do consistently answer questions. If any of us could control who got PG and who didn't I am SURE that we would all wish it could be everyone...and one day hopefully it will be. I do have some friends I have made on this board. We did get together after I found out and that was great. I don't even know what I'm trying to say here, but I guess I can see MrsRivera's point a little bit(not about homebuying vs. IVF but the beginning of her post) Either way I hope you all have a GREAT time and meet some new and old friends.

The last thing I want to do is to upset anyone through my presence at a GTG. I am not a mean person, and I never intended to seem that way.

I'm just wondering where the line is drawn. Someday, we will be TTC #2, and here I'll be again...why? Because I'll never TRULY be an IF graduate--IF will always control my ability to conceive. So, let's say that next year, after having this baby, I want to TTC right away. Will I be welcomed then, because I'm "back in the struggle"? Or will I be excluded because, even though I'm back in the struggle, I won the battle one time?

Again, my purpose is not to upset anyone. I disappeared from the IF board for awhile, because I didn't know if my presence here was upsetting to anyone. Then a member of the board FM'd me, wanting to know why I had disappeared. I'm not sure I know what's the right thing to do anymore.

Re: GTG poll---IF grads related..

This was a great thread, lots of good discussion going on. I am one of those that will be attending and I said that I was fine w/ grads attending. They have offered a lot of great experience and advice for as long as I've been lurking and posting. However after reading through the thread and I guess just my feelings as of late, I feel as though it would probably make me sad to see the bellys and hear about pregnancy. I hope the grads understand and feel lucky that they aren't still in our position.