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Have a dilemma - need advice...
I'm starting a new job at the end of March. I have been in my current job for 4 years.
When there is bad weather, I usually stay home and work there - but with my new job, I won't be able to do that.
Because of where I live, the roads get really bad on days like this. Treachorously bad.
I will not feel comfortable driving on icy or really bad snowy roads - especially driving with Cailen.
How do you think my new job is going to react if I told them on a day like today that I'm not able to come in?
I'm hoping since it will be the end of March when I begin, I won't have to worry about it for almost a year, and by then they will already know how i work, not take any days off, and maybe let something like this go - but I'm worried that this might happen my 1st week or something starting with them...
What do you think - do you think they'd understand not coming in on a day like today? I would be doing evaluations, so I'd assume that soomeone bringing their kid in for an evaluation might also want to cancel on a day like today...
I asked DH, and he's no help - he's like, "I don't know how they'd think!
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dm24angel
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
I think they would understand....and think of it this way, its almost March, the chances of another heavy snow are rae, or maybe very little, so the chances are low and next yr you would have been there already a yr and likely they would be more lenient.
Im the same way, was in a bad accident yrs ago in the snow and will NOT drive in it since....b/c its usually someone elses fault, you cant control other peoples driving in this....
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Is your boss a mother? I found the ones that were always understood, those who werent didnt.
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Posted by dm24angel
I think they would understand....and think of it this way, its almost March, the chances of another heavy snow are rae, or maybe very little, so the chances are low and next yr you would have been there already a yr and likely they would be more lenient.
Im the same way, was in a bad accident yrs ago in the snow and will NOT drive in it since....b/c its usually someone elses fault, you cant control other peoples driving in this....
See - thats what I was thinking - and since I was pregnant last year, I would always think that no job was worth me getting into an accident and something happening - so even if they were p*ssed, I'd rather that than something happen to my little Cailen!!!!
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Posted by BabySammie
Is your boss a mother? I found the ones that were always understood, those who werent didnt.
Yes, she is!
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
I would think they would be understanding because of the nature of what you're doing. Most people would cancel on a day like today (unless it's a home visit)
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by BabySammie
Is your boss a mother? I found the ones that were always understood, those who werent didnt.
Yes, she is!
But, I would say it could go either way. I know some moms are out to prove that motherhood didn't lessen their game so they overcompensate.
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lilacwine
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Voice of HR here...
I think any manager would want you to make your best effort to meet your commitments and work on a day you're scheduled to work or use paid time off if you don't make it in.
It also depends on what the norms are in your new office. My current office, nearly everyone calls in if there's one flake. My last job had zero tolerance -- we all made it in even when the governor declared a state of emergency. Perhaps that's why I'm the only one in my office today!
Be creative -- maybe you can carpool with a co-worker, take public transportation, re-schedule your evaluations, etc.
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LJSMommy
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
In MY profession, there is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE to not be at work due to bad weather. Plus we usually end up having to drive around for the work day.
Now, of course I live on the south shore, no hills like you have, so I can't imagine the conditions yuo might have to deal with.
That being said, I would love to work somewhere that had some tolerance for it..........and hopefully after some time at your new place they will be understanding & maybe....who knows..............they already do have that policy!! Don't stress it now!
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| Posted 2/22/08 7:54 AM |
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Posted by BabySammie
Is your boss a mother? I found the ones that were always understood, those who werent didnt.
ITA or for the most part, understand more. I wouldn't worry though, you have a entire year to show them how fabulous you are!
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Posted by lilacwine
Voice of HR here...
I think any manager would want you to make your best effort to meet your commitments and work on a day you're scheduled to work or use paid time off if you don't make it in.
It also depends on what the norms are in your new office. My current office, nearly everyone calls in if there's one flake. My last job had zero tolerance -- we all made it in even when the governor declared a state of emergency. Perhaps that's why I'm the only one in my office today!
Be creative -- maybe you can carpool with a co-worker, take public transportation, re-schedule your evaluations, etc.
Remember - I have a child that uses a car seat and needs to be dropped off at daycare - and I wouldn't even know anything about public transportation in Northport! 
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Fortunately, I have yet to work in a place where if you called in they gave a major hard time.
I do however put pressure on myself to go into work, but that's a different story ;).
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MissJones
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
First of all, where you live is very hilly and the side roads can be packed with snow while main roads are find. If I knew a storm was coming, I used to have to park at the bottom of our road and walk up. Made things easier in terms of not sliding down a hill. Just a thought.
HOWEVER, being that it IS almost March, the chances that you'd have to do it are one, MAYBE two times. It's not like you would be doing it 5 times a month (although now that I say it, we'll be having Nor'Easters every week!).Being realistic, we don't get snow like this very often. In a good year, maybe once. In a fun for students and teachers year, maybe 3 times.
I think you've proven yourself and WILL prove yourself even further. Can you speak to your boss about this concern and let her know that should we get another wallop that you would not come in?
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Posted by lilacwine
Voice of HR here...
I think any manager would want you to make your best effort to meet your commitments and work on a day you're scheduled to work or use paid time off if you don't make it in.
It also depends on what the norms are in your new office. My current office, nearly everyone calls in if there's one flake. My last job had zero tolerance -- we all made it in even when the governor declared a state of emergency. Perhaps that's why I'm the only one in my office today!
Be creative -- maybe you can carpool with a co-worker, take public transportation, re-schedule your evaluations, etc.
agreed - most jobs will expect you to come in or at least make the effort
True - no job is worth putting yourself or your child at risk - but with that mindset, you accept the risk that your perception could suffer as a result
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Christine
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
My company is understanding as long as you have paid time off accrued. An unpaid day (for any reason) very early on the job would be frowned upon.
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bikramaddict
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
i think they'd understand. your safety comes first.
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Why are you worrying about something that likely will not happen?
You can't possibly project what will be. End of March are slim to none chances that it will snow.
Next year is next year. You have no idea what next year brings.
Just trying to give some perspective.
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Posted by lilacwine
It also depends on what the norms are in your new office.
ITA that it depends on the norms in your office. EVERYONE at DH's office is in today, though I am one of 5 people in my office (normally 12 people). Though we did make fun of everyone who didn't come in and call them wusses!
My last job was incredibly unsympathetic, and said if you live too far or in a rough area, maybe you should move.
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Posted by Blu-ize
Why are you worrying about something that likely will not happen?
Have you been speaking to my DH - because Worry is my middle name!!! My friends used to call me Mr. worry - its so bad - it's from being raised by a paranoid mom who would think of every worst case scenario.... 
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by Blu-ize
Why are you worrying about something that likely will not happen?
Have you been speaking to my DH - because Worry is my middle name!!! My friends used to call me Mr. worry - its so bad - it's from being raised by a paranoid mom who would think of every worst case scenario....
the reason I say this to you is that I am just like you.
It took a lot of therapy for me to get through this kind of stuff. It's not worth it..it's out of your control. Let it go..be free...
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
I think you just have to ask. If they say no, then you either have to take a day of vacation or come in, and that's your call based on the exactly how bad it is that day. I hope they work with you!!
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by Blu-ize
Why are you worrying about something that likely will not happen?
Have you been speaking to my DH - because Worry is my middle name!!! My friends used to call me Mr. worry - its so bad - it's from being raised by a paranoid mom who would think of every worst case scenario....
the reason I say this to you is that I am just like you.
It took a lot of therapy for me to get through this kind of stuff. It's not worth it..it's out of your control. Let it go..be free...
Want to faint? I am a 150% BETTER - I am MELLOW compared to how i used to be - thank God - as a mom, I would have been sent to the loony bin about 9 months ago!!!
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Re: Have a dilemma - need advice...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by Blu-ize
Why are you worrying about something that likely will not happen?
Have you been speaking to my DH - because Worry is my middle name!!! My friends used to call me Mr. worry - its so bad - it's from being raised by a paranoid mom who would think of every worst case scenario....
the reason I say this to you is that I am just like you.
It took a lot of therapy for me to get through this kind of stuff. It's not worth it..it's out of your control. Let it go..be free...
Want to faint? I am a 150% BETTER - I am MELLOW compared to how i used to be - thank God - as a mom, I would have been sent to the loony bin about 9 months ago!!!
I still have the tendencies, they will never go away, but it took a long time to get through it.
You'll be fine. I have all kinds of visualization and relaxation techniques to help me when I get out of control.
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