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Re: Having 2nd child - Guilt

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Just think your 1st is the only one to get that special one on one attention while they are a baby. The siblings that follow will never have that. You are giving them something more than they are losing. It is a blessing if you want another child and are able.

Very true!!!

This is how I feel. My first had special time with me and my second is who i feel guilty to. He didnt have that -- and never will. Even when my second was an infant and needed so much attention my first was in the mix and very demanding. He is the one that owns the room most days and i feel guilty to my second that he is always going along for the ride. Trust me the tables will turn!

Yes! This is how I felt! I remember crying when I was pregnant with my 2nd because I felt guilty my 1st would no longer get all my attention and then I remember crying when I had my 2nd because he was then not getting all of my attention....ahhh motherhood! and hormones lol

YUP -- my second is 16 months and i still cry sometimes that he doesnt have my attention bc the 4 year old is an attention seeker!! Never a dull moment. The good thing is only you will remember any of this. My pediatrician always tells me the first 4 years are practice because they wont remember any of it. lol

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Re: Having 2nd child - Guilt

Not second CHILD guilt (probably helps we’ll have a 5 year age difference) but I do sometimes feel bad that I’m more limited now that I’m around 6 months pregnant. I get tired and winded so easily. Chat Icon and it’s harder for me to go to the park or walk to local stores or restaurants. We usually do a lot together and lately all I wanna do after my DS gets home from school is chill for an hour and start on dinner. In fact, as I’m typing this my eyes are closing