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maybebaby
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by tmarie
Ok, so I am not sure what I more shocked about...people lashing out at you because you expressed your feelings of wanting a little girl. Or that there are so many moms on this thread that are going for number 3 or 4. LOL! I am exhausted with 2. I applaud all of you. I will say if I win Powerball, I would consider #3 and a nanny! LOL
I think there is a little piece of "most" of us women who would like one sex over the other. I have one of each and am blessed to have had the experience of the two different sides of the table. When I was preganant with #2, i really didn't mind if it was a another boy or girl. But for many, there is this little thing in you that wants that girl or boy. It doesn't mean that you love the other less.
What I love about this thread is that it is a place for us to chat about how we feel. Your feelings are welcomed here. Don't feel bad.
I don't think anyone lashed out? 
I did comment that a healthy baby by far is most important, and I think its important for that reminder sometimes. That's all. I don't think there is anything wrong with how she's feeling, I do get it..everyone is entitled to their feelings.
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by maybebaby
It's funny though, i feel that so many women have this notion in their head that having a boy is difficult or they won't know what they're doing. But little boys are so sweet. There's just something about them, lol.
This is funny, because I want a boy because I feel boys are easier...I'm not a girlie girl and I always struggled to fit in with girls so I REALLY want a boy to live vicariously through!! haha!!! I have surprised myself recently though, after finding out I was pregnant I have had thoughts of having a girl and it was a very lovely idea!! I will be happy with either but i still desire a son.....
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
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Posted by tmarie
Ok, so I am not sure what I more shocked about...people lashing out at you because you expressed your feelings of wanting a little girl. Or that there are so many moms on this thread that are going for number 3 or 4. LOL! I am exhausted with 2. I applaud all of you. I will say if I win Powerball, I would consider #3 and a nanny! LOL
I think there is a little piece of "most" of us women who would like one sex over the other. I have one of each and am blessed to have had the experience of the two different sides of the table. When I was preganant with #2, i really didn't mind if it was a another boy or girl. But for many, there is this little thing in you that wants that girl or boy. It doesn't mean that you love the other less.
What I love about this thread is that it is a place for us to chat about how we feel. Your feelings are welcomed here. Don't feel bad.
I don't think anyone lashed out?
I did comment that a healthy baby by far is most important, and I think its important for that reminder sometimes. That's all. I don't think there is anything wrong with how she's feeling, I do get it..everyone is entitled to their feelings.
I didnt feel you lashed out on me. I thought your response was harsh, in respectful and honest way, if that makes any sense. I HATE that I feel this way. I expect and almost look for that type of reaction (be grateful for health, etc) bc I KNOW there is truth to it. OF COURSE a child's health trumps all. I THANK GOD for my sons' health. That, I feel, is separate from the emotions I described. I also dont expect someone who has not felt these emotions to truly grasp/understand it.
I want to make something clear - I do NOT want a daughter because I feel it is easier than raising boys. Frankly, my boys are quite easy (knock on wood) compared to some of my friends' daughters. Even if they weren't, im not looking for an "easy" child. More than anything, I am hoping to mimic the mother daughter relationship I have with my mom, and that she had with my grandmother. I value that relationship soo much in my life and I'd like to continue that life circle, so to speak.
Raising these boys has brought me so much joy in my life. I just hope to raise a daughter, too. To teach her the lessons that are specific to the female life experience and to attempt to create a mother/daughter bond (which, in my mind, IS different than the bond between an adult man and his mother).
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by myBoys
I want to make something clear - I do NOT want a daughter because I feel it is easier than raising boys. Frankly, my boys are quite easy (knock on wood) compared to some of my friends' daughters. Even if they weren't, im not looking for an "easy" child. More than anything, I am hoping to mimic the mother daughter relationship I have with my mom, and that she had with my grandmother. I value that relationship soo much in my life and I'd like to continue that life circle, so to speak.
Raising these boys has brought me so much joy in my life. I just hope to raise a daughter, too. To teach her the lessons that are specific to the female life experience and to attempt to create a mother/daughter bond (which, in my mind, IS different than the bond between an adult man and his mother).
I commented earlier too, but I wanted to add one more thing. My parents warned me about having expectations of my own kids, in case I was disappointed. Even if you have a daughter, your bond may not be what you have with your Mom. Just like the Dad who has a son and is crushed when he doesn't turn out to be the athlete he was.
I do think there can be an amazing bond between a parent and a child of the opposite sex. My dad has two younger sisters, but he and my Grandma were the ones who were best friends. They were so much alike, everyone said he was a male version of her: sense of humor, hobbies, etc. She had great relationships with her daughters too, but my Dad was her confidante because they "got" each other. She lived to be 95 years old, and had dementia the last two years and never recognized anyone...except my Dad. Up until the day she passed- his voice and his face she remembered.
Also, I know plenty of women who are closer to their Dads, the father/daughter bond is stronger than the mother/daughter one. Usually due to the personalities of the people.
You never know what life will bring!
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
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I want to make something clear - I do NOT want a daughter because I feel it is easier than raising boys. Frankly, my boys are quite easy (knock on wood) compared to some of my friends' daughters. Even if they weren't, im not looking for an "easy" child. More than anything, I am hoping to mimic the mother daughter relationship I have with my mom, and that she had with my grandmother. I value that relationship soo much in my life and I'd like to continue that life circle, so to speak.
Raising these boys has brought me so much joy in my life. I just hope to raise a daughter, too. To teach her the lessons that are specific to the female life experience and to attempt to create a mother/daughter bond (which, in my mind, IS different than the bond between an adult man and his mother).
My parents warned me about having expectations of my own kids, in case I was disappointed. Even if you have a daughter, your bond may not be what you have with your Mom. Just like the Dad who has a son and is crushed when he doesn't turn out to be the athlete he was.
I would still like the opportunity to see what happens but this is SO true and I remind myself of it often. thank you 
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
I can relate, but just substitute "wanting a girl" with wanting a second child.
I have made my peace with the fact that I won't have one, but that pang still is there when anyone announces a pregnancy. Especially when it's a 3rd or 4th. But, every year the pang gets number and number. I will be 39 tomorrow, so the reality is sinking in deeper.
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by myBoys
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by tmarie
Ok, so I am not sure what I more shocked about...people lashing out at you because you expressed your feelings of wanting a little girl. Or that there are so many moms on this thread that are going for number 3 or 4. LOL! I am exhausted with 2. I applaud all of you. I will say if I win Powerball, I would consider #3 and a nanny! LOL
I think there is a little piece of "most" of us women who would like one sex over the other. I have one of each and am blessed to have had the experience of the two different sides of the table. When I was preganant with #2, i really didn't mind if it was a another boy or girl. But for many, there is this little thing in you that wants that girl or boy. It doesn't mean that you love the other less.
What I love about this thread is that it is a place for us to chat about how we feel. Your feelings are welcomed here. Don't feel bad.
I don't think anyone lashed out?
I did comment that a healthy baby by far is most important, and I think its important for that reminder sometimes. That's all. I don't think there is anything wrong with how she's feeling, I do get it..everyone is entitled to their feelings.
I didnt feel you lashed out on me. I thought your response was harsh, in respectful and honest way, if that makes any sense. I HATE that I feel this way. I expect and almost look for that type of reaction (be grateful for health, etc) bc I KNOW there is truth to it. OF COURSE a child's health trumps all. I THANK GOD for my sons' health. That, I feel, is separate from the emotions I described. I also dont expect someone who has not felt these emotions to truly grasp/understand it.
I want to make something clear - I do NOT want a daughter because I feel it is easier than raising boys. Frankly, my boys are quite easy (knock on wood) compared to some of my friends' daughters. Even if they weren't, im not looking for an "easy" child. More than anything, I am hoping to mimic the mother daughter relationship I have with my mom, and that she had with my grandmother. I value that relationship soo much in my life and I'd like to continue that life circle, so to speak.
Raising these boys has brought me so much joy in my life. I just hope to raise a daughter, too. To teach her the lessons that are specific to the female life experience and to attempt to create a mother/daughter bond (which, in my mind, IS different than the bond between an adult man and his mother).
(((((HUGS)))))) I understand what you're saying about wanting that mother/daughter relationship; it's a different bond, and a very special. Of course the bond you have with your boys is special too. You have a right to your feelings; they aren't wrong. I get that you appreciate and are thankful that you have healthy boys, but you long for that mother/daughter relationship, as I think most woman do.
Good luck to you!! (((HUGS)))
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
I have been on here for years and rarely post. But this time I had to. I had my second son 5 months ago. From the moment I found out it was a boy, during my c-section, I was overwhelmed with such sadness and depression. Since then I have suffered through not bonding with DS2 and severe post partum depression. I have sought help through psychiatrists, psychologists and support groups. I am better. But I don't know if I will ever get over the fact that I will never have the opportunity to raise a daughter. It is a longing I will carry with me forever. I feel it so deep within me that it hurts.
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
I have 2 DS and I always wanted a DD but I knew that my 2nd was a boy even though I was team green. I know that if I have a 3rd it will also be a boy. I am just a boy mommy and I feel that is what I am meant to be. I am glad to have given my first DS a best friend for life (I hope). I am most likely going to have a 3rd and if its another boy (it WILL be!) I will be ok with not having a daughter. I love my boys so much! Hey, at least I dont have to sit through any dance recitals! (That is a huge plus for me!)
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by mom4bz
I have been on here for years and rarely post. But this time I had to. I had my second son 5 months ago. From the moment I found out it was a boy, during my c-section, I was overwhelmed with such sadness and depression. Since then I have suffered through not bonding with DS2 and severe post partum depression. I have sought help through psychiatrists, psychologists and support groups. I am better. But I don't know if I will ever get over the fact that I will never have the opportunity to raise a daughter. It is a longing I will carry with me forever. I feel it so deep within me that it hurts.
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maybebaby
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by myBoys
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Posted by tmarie
Ok, so I am not sure what I more shocked about...people lashing out at you because you expressed your feelings of wanting a little girl. Or that there are so many moms on this thread that are going for number 3 or 4. LOL! I am exhausted with 2. I applaud all of you. I will say if I win Powerball, I would consider #3 and a nanny! LOL
I think there is a little piece of "most" of us women who would like one sex over the other. I have one of each and am blessed to have had the experience of the two different sides of the table. When I was preganant with #2, i really didn't mind if it was a another boy or girl. But for many, there is this little thing in you that wants that girl or boy. It doesn't mean that you love the other less.
What I love about this thread is that it is a place for us to chat about how we feel. Your feelings are welcomed here. Don't feel bad.
I don't think anyone lashed out?
I did comment that a healthy baby by far is most important, and I think its important for that reminder sometimes. That's all. I don't think there is anything wrong with how she's feeling, I do get it..everyone is entitled to their feelings.
I didnt feel you lashed out on me. I thought your response was harsh, in respectful and honest way, if that makes any sense. I HATE that I feel this way. I expect and almost look for that type of reaction (be grateful for health, etc) bc I KNOW there is truth to it. OF COURSE a child's health trumps all. I THANK GOD for my sons' health. That, I feel, is separate from the emotions I described. I also dont expect someone who has not felt these emotions to truly grasp/understand it.
I want to make something clear - I do NOT want a daughter because I feel it is easier than raising boys. Frankly, my boys are quite easy (knock on wood) compared to some of my friends' daughters. Even if they weren't, im not looking for an "easy" child. More than anything, I am hoping to mimic the mother daughter relationship I have with my mom, and that she had with my grandmother. I value that relationship soo much in my life and I'd like to continue that life circle, so to speak.
Raising these boys has brought me so much joy in my life. I just hope to raise a daughter, too. To teach her the lessons that are specific to the female life experience and to attempt to create a mother/daughter bond (which, in my mind, IS different than the bond between an adult man and his mother).
I totally understand your feelings and didn't intend to sound harsh. I'm sorry.
It's hard for me because I have just witnessed so many sad situations. I will never forget being at a wedding...and my friend getting upset over having had her third boy and never having a daughter (she was drinking too much lol) and my other friend who cannot have a baby just sitting there crying and yelling at her to get over herself. It was a mess!!
this isn't to say you shouldn't feel the way you do...you made a lot of sense in what you said, I really do understand. And I know you would never trade your boys...and believe me..I think i would enjoy having a dd as well, i'm sure i would. But I know I don't relate to the exact feelings you are experiencing. Again, sorry if i sounded harsh! I do hope you get your daughter someday!!
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by mom4bz
I have been on here for years and rarely post. But this time I had to. I had my second son 5 months ago. From the moment I found out it was a boy, during my c-section, I was overwhelmed with such sadness and depression. Since then I have suffered through not bonding with DS2 and severe post partum depression. I have sought help through psychiatrists, psychologists and support groups. I am better. But I don't know if I will ever get over the fact that I will never have the opportunity to raise a daughter. It is a longing I will carry with me forever. I feel it so deep within me that it hurts.
I really empathize with you.
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
I feel the way you do very often... I think I have even posted about it in the past. I have 2 DS also, and go back and forth about having a third DC.
One of the bigger reasons I am holding back right now is that I keep asking myself if I would want a #3 if I had a boy and a girl. Honestly, I know the answer is "no" and I wouldn't even be considering a 3rd child.
I grew up with 3 older brothers, very close to my boy cousins, and having just as many guy friends as girl friends so I feel like I am pretty well equipped to raise my boys and have a bond with them. I am not, by any means, an athlete, so that part worries me, but hey, that is why I have DH.
I am starting to come to terms with the idea of never having a daughter. It is hard for me because I love to shop and wear pink, and decorate in shabby chic french toile, lol, but as my DH loves to remind me, my DD may not even like any of those things. She may want to follow my DH's footsteps and be a cop or in the military, and then we would really have nothing in common  . I am also a perfect example of someone that is not that close to their Mom. She lives around the corner, and I see her almost every day, but we are like oil and water. I have my Dad's laid back personality and share many of his interests. My Mom is a high strung, uptight overachiever. She doesn't understand why I don't have more drive, more energy, more passion, more everything, lol.
My younger DS is now 2 and he is my little love muffin. I can't believe I was ever "sad" about having him. I think the mere fact that he is so great is what helped me to get over not having a DD. But it took me awhile to get here.
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by mom4bz
I have been on here for years and rarely post. But this time I had to. I had my second son 5 months ago. From the moment I found out it was a boy, during my c-section, I was overwhelmed with such sadness and depression. Since then I have suffered through not bonding with DS2 and severe post partum depression. I have sought help through psychiatrists, psychologists and support groups. I am better. But I don't know if I will ever get over the fact that I will never have the opportunity to raise a daughter. It is a longing I will carry with me forever. I feel it so deep within me that it hurts.
I hope this thread helped you feel less alone
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by Annie91606
Posted by myBoys
I want to make something clear - I do NOT want a daughter because I feel it is easier than raising boys. Frankly, my boys are quite easy (knock on wood) compared to some of my friends' daughters. Even if they weren't, im not looking for an "easy" child. More than anything, I am hoping to mimic the mother daughter relationship I have with my mom, and that she had with my grandmother. I value that relationship soo much in my life and I'd like to continue that life circle, so to speak.
Raising these boys has brought me so much joy in my life. I just hope to raise a daughter, too. To teach her the lessons that are specific to the female life experience and to attempt to create a mother/daughter bond (which, in my mind, IS different than the bond between an adult man and his mother).
I commented earlier too, but I wanted to add one more thing. My parents warned me about having expectations of my own kids, in case I was disappointed. Even if you have a daughter, your bond may not be what you have with your Mom. Just like the Dad who has a son and is crushed when he doesn't turn out to be the athlete he was.
I do think there can be an amazing bond between a parent and a child of the opposite sex. My dad has two younger sisters, but he and my Grandma were the ones who were best friends. They were so much alike, everyone said he was a male version of her: sense of humor, hobbies, etc. She had great relationships with her daughters too, but my Dad was her confidante because they "got" each other. She lived to be 95 years old, and had dementia the last two years and never recognized anyone...except my Dad. Up until the day she passed- his voice and his face she remembered.
Also, I know plenty of women who are closer to their Dads, the father/daughter bond is stronger than the mother/daughter one. Usually due to the personalities of the people.
You never know what life will bring!
That is a wonderful story as a Mom of two boys! OP-good luck!
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Is anyone the total opposite? I have no desire whatsoever to have a girl. When I was pregnant with my second child, I didn't find out what we were having in case it was a girl. I wanted my first ds to have a brother and that's exactly what he got. I knew I wanted to stop at two kids. I will say my two boys are both very easy going and calm though so I consider myself very lucky.
Op, I'm sorry you feel that way and I kind of get it because I would have been disappointed if the second child was a girl.
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Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
I have to say Im very happy this post did not lead into drama. Did anyone see the recent episode of "The new normal" reminded me of this thread. I dont know how I will feel if I have another boy, I want a girl so badly..its really tough
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
I think what you are going through is understandable. I love DS more than life itself, and would be happy to have another child boy or girl, but I would be lying if I said I wouldn't have some disappointment if the next one was a boy. We have this vision of what we want and its natural to be disappointed if we dont get it. It doesnt mean you love your boys any less, its just a different relationship and a different experience.
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Actually, I confused the first and second post.The second post mentioned that she had mentioned disappointment after a sonogram and she got a 10-page lash out, not the first poster.
Sorry for the confusion
I tried but I can't link this to my previous post. Not that savy, sorry
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by lakadema
Is anyone the total opposite? I have no desire whatsoever to have a girl. When I was pregnant with my second child, I didn't find out what we were having in case it was a girl. I wanted my first ds to have a brother and that's exactly what he got. I knew I wanted to stop at two kids. I will say my two boys are both very easy going and calm though so I consider myself very lucky.
Op, I'm sorry you feel that way and I kind of get it because I would have been disappointed if the second child was a girl.
It's not that I wouldn't welcome a girl, i know I would love either gender the same. But I agree with you, I realllly wanted Johnny to have a baby brother and thats what we got. they are amazing together, the best of friends (most days). not alone!
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
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Posted by lakadema
Is anyone the total opposite? I have no desire whatsoever to have a girl. When I was pregnant with my second child, I didn't find out what we were having in case it was a girl. I wanted my first ds to have a brother and that's exactly what he got. I knew I wanted to stop at two kids. I will say my two boys are both very easy going and calm though so I consider myself very lucky.
Op, I'm sorry you feel that way and I kind of get it because I would have been disappointed if the second child was a girl.
It's not that I wouldn't welcome a girl, i know I would love either gender the same. But I agree with you, I realllly wanted Johnny to have a baby brother and thats what we got. they are amazing together, the best of friends (most days). not alone!
That's another reason I actually wanted another girl.........so Emerson would have a little sister. Between the 4.5 yr age gap and this baby being a boy I really hope they grow up at least somewhat close. She is super excited to have a brother so that's good!!! 
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
I'd be happy to lend you my sweet little girl 
I took this video when I asked DH to watch DD's while I went to the store and he said what's the big deal about taking them?
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
 they def arent easy I was a handful my mom said, still your daughter is super adorable!
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
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Posted by mom4bz
I have been on here for years and rarely post. But this time I had to. I had my second son 5 months ago. From the moment I found out it was a boy, during my c-section, I was overwhelmed with such sadness and depression. Since then I have suffered through not bonding with DS2 and severe post partum depression. I have sought help through psychiatrists, psychologists and support groups. I am better. But I don't know if I will ever get over the fact that I will never have the opportunity to raise a daughter. It is a longing I will carry with me forever. I feel it so deep within me that it hurts.
I hope this thread helped you feel less alone
Thank you so much. It really has!
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
I think its completely normal to feel this way. Many parents experience this. I have a DS. I wanted so badly to hear GIRL at my ultrasound. DH and I only plan to have 2 children.
I love my DS more than life itself and wouldn't trade him for anything. I even like the idea of giving him a brother to play with someday but as I have told DH, I just will never feel complete if I dont have a daughter. It saddens me to think about it.
I never had a mother daughter bond with my mom. I still dont. And I know thats the reason I feel the way I do. Its like I HAVE to make up for what I was missing in my life.  I think its a different kind of bond than what you (in general) have with your son.
Ive been trying to hype myself up with the thought of 2 boys just in case my next one is a boy, just to soften the blow. That sounds awful huh?
Your not alone!
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