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Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
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NervousNell
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
 Do you and I share a child?
I think they may be long lost sisters!
All I can say is- girls are NOT easy!
Be careful what you wish for! 
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Jugglemom
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by NervousNell
Do you and I share a child?
I think they may be long lost sisters!
All I can say is- girls are NOT easy!
Be careful what you wish for!
That is really funny! But I do not think it is a boy/girl thing just a personality thing. My DD was always easy going and still is for the most part (of course she has her moments) - In 6 years she has NEVER had a tantrun. My DS has been challenging from day 1! I love him dearly but but he is very high maintenance.
To the OP, I know how you must feel as I think I would feel the same way.
 My MIL had 3 boys and she confesses that although she adores her sons she still wishes she could have had a girl. Luckily, hey are close to DD and she is definitely a grandpa's girl!
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| Posted 11/30/12 12:11 PM |
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Babylove10
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
I have two amazing sweet little boys who are happy and healthly. They are my world. My oldest just turned two and is becoming such a momma's boy. I do want a girl but having such great little boys and raising them to be great men is going to be such a wonderful journey. I want a girl for dresses, bows, and barbie dolls. We are going to dance with our sons at their weddings and know these men are who they are because we raised them. I can't imagine anything more special than that.
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| Posted 11/30/12 2:05 PM |
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Ann456
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
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Thank you so much everyone, for your posts, fms, advice, experiences and more than anything, your sensitivity.
I cannot express enough that this is NOT about my boys, who are the loves of my life. It is a separate emotion. I wouldn't trade them for a million girls and part of the reason I cant express these feelings to ppl I know, is I would never want this to get back to them and to think they werent wanted/or were a 2nd choice. To be clear. we always wanted 3, regardless of gender.. so even if the first 2 were one of each, we would be trying for a 3rd. I would never treat a child differently or love a baby less bc of gender.
Posting about this and reading everyones responses has been more therapeutic than I ever couldve imagined. Thank you for making me feel like less of a terrible person.
We are able to control so much of the important decisions in our lives.. where we will live, who we will marry, what we will do for a living. Having a crack at mother/daughter relationship, esp once I lose my mother one day, is something I so badly want in my life but unfortunately there is basically nothing I can do to make it happen. Feel free to post your tricks if you conceived a girl after 2 boys though ;)
I know I am blessed to have created life twice already. Like I said, I am not a new poster and I am well aware of some of the heart-wrenching journeys women have been on here in the hope of having a child. This is part of the reason I hesitated before posting. I know that if conceiving #3 happens for us, I will be filled with joy regardless of gender. I think will always yearn for a daughter.. I guess we have no choice but wait to see how our family makeup turns out!
Thank you again. Its so nice to know I am not alone.
You mention having control over some many things in our lives .... seems like you were lucky and should continue to feel that way. DH and I have not had much control over our jobs ... we were both in and out of work for a while that we had to put off having children for a couple of years after me getting married at 32. We were lucky at first shot with me getting PG with DS at 38. How I got my girl ... IVF .. thanks to health insurance, that we are savers and transferring her because she was a a grade "8A" embryo. I kind of hoped for a girl but given my age I was hoping for healthy at first. I am so lucky ... I have seem so many women not be able to have kids. Healthy first and foremost ... then gender:)
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| Posted 12/1/12 10:00 PM |
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Ann456
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Re: Having a hard time.. Hoping for a daughter one day
Posted by Jugglemom
Posted by NervousNell
Do you and I share a child?
I think they may be long lost sisters!
All I can say is- girls are NOT easy!
Be careful what you wish for!
That is really funny! But I do not think it is a boy/girl thing just a personality thing. My DD was always easy going and still is for the most part (of course she has her moments) - In 6 years she has NEVER had a tantrun. My DS has been challenging from day 1! I love him dearly but but he is very high maintenance.
To the OP, I know how you must feel as I think I would feel the same way.
My MIL had 3 boys and she confesses that although she adores her sons she still wishes she could have had a girl. Luckily, hey are close to DD and she is definitely a grandpa's girl!
I agree .. .I never thought boys could be so fun loving like my DS ... I come from a family of three girls. Your video ... yeh ... my son has gotten like that even worse ....kicking and screaming etc.
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