Honest Opinions, potty training related & preschool...

DS is still in potty training a little over a month now. He will go no problem with #1 at home and in school. #2 is still an issue but is getting better as far as telling me *sometimes* when he has to go. More times he will go in his underwear then go to the potty to have me throw it in the potty and clean him and put on new underwear. So this is what I'm doing at home.

Today he has a #2 accident in school.They were on top of him like I asked them to be and they did ask him if he had to go and he said no 10 minutes later he did #2 in the underwear. I'm considering this strike 1 for #2 accident at school. At strike 3 he'll go back into pullups. BUT is this the right decision to make? Should I just be prepare the school with extra underwear? I don't care that they throw the dirty ones out. What do I do, what would you do? I was told the school was going to help me with potty training but if they are quick to say maybe he should go back into pullup until he's consistent how is that helping him right? My son will be turning 3 in 6 weeks.

Edit: just want to add when I talked to my DS about doing #2 in underwear. He had a huge smile on his face and said Yeah and got new underwear! It sounds like a combination of being lazy and scared. How do I break that? Sometimes I lie to him and tell him mommy doesn't have any more underwear so no poopy in underwear and then he'll tell me to go buy diapers!

Message edited 9/24/2010 12:25:08 PM.

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oopps.. sorry I just outed myself.. I posted as the wrong "person"..

Message edited 9/24/2010 12:26:00 PM.

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OK this is what I wanted to say:

I wouldn't put him back in pull ups b/c it would just delay training... DD trained pretty quickly in pre-school.. and it was her teacher that took her out of pull-ups and pushed her.. not to mention, being around the other kids is a great example and I am sure he'll get it rather quickly.. one accident really isn't HUGE- they're used to it..

I'd just stock them up w/ underwear.

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I would go to pullups.

Josh had no issue peeing on potty.
poop was a different ballgame all together.
pull up or not, every kid has their price, you have to find out what your son's is to get him to go.

took me 8 months! good luck!

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As a 3 yr. old Prek teacher I will say NO MORE PULL UPS! I feel that is totally regressing if your child has already started to wear underwear. Pull ups are diapers with a different name. You're basically giving them permission to go potty in the diaper when you put them on. I know it completely stinks to have them do #2 in their underwear but how are you going to move forward and teach them if you put them back in the pull ups?? It may be easier for the adults but it surely does not help the child. I would make it very inconvinient for him when he does #2 in his underwear. Have him do all the clean up himself, takinga clothes off, wipe himself (even if he doesn't do a great job, you can always finish it at the end) and re dress himself. And tell him if you go #2 in the potty you won't have to do all this work to clean yourself up! I think after a few weeks he will not like it and get the hint. I have a few children in my class with the same issue and I would LOVE to just put a pull up on them but I would be doing them a great disservice! Good luck, this is certainly a tough issue to deal with!

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His prek teacher told me on day (after I told her he's not 100% with #2) let's see how it goes...on his 2nd or 3rd #2 accident she recommended me to consider pull ups until he becomes more consistent. This really sucks. If I had a prek teacher like you I wouldn't have this on my mind so much and making it a big deal. I just feel like the class he's in is quick to put him back in pull ups.

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Again just want to add that the director of this school said they would absolutely help me with PT. So if he's in pull ups how will they help?

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I would not go back to pull ups. The previous posters are right - you need the support of his teacher and she is just doing what is easy for her. Have you tried using a reward chart? What we did was get stickers, prizes, and small cookies. At first everything in the potty got every reward, tons of praise and me jumping up and down being as enthusiastic as possible. Once we filled the pee chart (about a week) he got a huge prize. Then we moved on to a poop chart with smaller prizes for each time he did it. We are now moving on to multiple poops in the potty = a prize.
Eventually - am guessing another month we will be done with prizes.

At first DS had accidents. When it got messy and I stuck him in the shower to clean him off he was upset. I think that experience made him realize what he had to do. I keep my eye on him. He has been potty trained for about a month now. He seems to understand that he has to go, but will hold it in until he must go. I need to figure out how to help him figure out when he needs to go so it is not every other day and he is uncomfortable.