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how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
That's annoying--I agree with trying to do the fence sooner.
I wonder if they put it there because of your swing set. Maybe they got tired of hearing their kids ask to go on that?
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
Posted by MarisaK
Well, can I ask, why are you always telling her no?
I have a zero tolerance policy w/ trampolines. (HUGE ones that you can fall off of and break your neck, not those little things that are seemingly harmless) I have no issue w/ telling my boys no when it comes to the trampoline. I don't care where we are, who we're with .......it's not happening.
Does she just want to play w/ the neighbor's kids? I don't see what the problem is w/ that - she's in out in the yard, they're out in the yard, trampoline or not, they can still see each other if you don't have a privacy fence, it seems totally normal to me that they'd ask to play w/ each other ............
The only reason I tell her No is cause as soon as we step foot outside there kids run to the fence and ask if they can come over or if riley can go there I'm not comfortable with her over there cause there yard isn't fenced and I hate having them at my house cause they don't listen. They do play at the fence together but the whole time they are asking me for a drink, food etc. The parents will be outside and say nothing which drives me crazy!!!! If they were good kids I would have no problem having them over I have two kids of my own that I need to watch I'm also not supervision yours in your own yard while you are doing yard work. I bring a drink or snack out for my daughters there they are right at the fence can you get me some too most of the time I do but enough is enough I finally had to tell them go ask your mom and dad.
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
Yes perfect example we set up the kiddie pool for my kids I hear the girls talking then my daughter ask me can ava come over I said not today mommy and daddy are relaxing you can play thru the fence. she tells her not today she goes to her mom Riley mom said I can come over. I finally had to tell my daughter last night only her mom and I will discuss playdates.
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
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Posted by MarisaK
Well, can I ask, why are you always telling her no?
I have a zero tolerance policy w/ trampolines. (HUGE ones that you can fall off of and break your neck, not those little things that are seemingly harmless) I have no issue w/ telling my boys no when it comes to the trampoline. I don't care where we are, who we're with .......it's not happening.
Does she just want to play w/ the neighbor's kids? I don't see what the problem is w/ that - she's in out in the yard, they're out in the yard, trampoline or not, they can still see each other if you don't have a privacy fence, it seems totally normal to me that they'd ask to play w/ each other ............
The only reason I tell her No is cause as soon as we step foot outside there kids run to the fence and ask if they can come over or if riley can go there I'm not comfortable with her over there cause there yard isn't fenced and I hate having them at my house cause they don't listen. They do play at the fence together but the whole time they are asking me for a drink, food etc. The parents will be outside and say nothing which drives me crazy!!!! If they were good kids I would have no problem having them over I have two kids of my own that I need to watch I'm also not supervision yours in your own yard while you are doing yard work. I bring a drink or snack out for my daughters there they are right at the fence can you get me some too most of the time I do but enough is enough I finally had to tell them go ask your mom and dad.
I am really having a hard time understanding this whole scenario.
They aren't bad kids for asking for snack and drinks...that is what kids do. They just sound like little girls that want to play with your little girls. If you plan on staying there for awhile, I think you might have to loosen up a little bit and I don't mean that in a snarky way. As a parent, I'm glad that my kids enjoy playing with the neighbors kids. I have set limits and they can't always come over and play but I do have playdates. I also really enjoy my neighbors and their company as I have gotten to know them.
I just don't understand why you wouldn't want to encourage a good friendship with the kids. I get that maybe yours are too young (?) but they won't always be and you may find some good things about having a give and take with your next door neighbors.
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
you are too nice  if the children are constantly asking you for food and if they are not obeying your rules (about not coming over) you need to have a firm conversation with the parents.
Doesn't seem like there is a relationship there so no harm no foul. Make your life easier and just have the conversation, laying out what bothers you and try to come up with a solution.
I find it very strange that they are asking you for food while their parents are sitting right there?
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
I definitely don't think the kids are "jerks" - they just sound like kids!
Kids are always asking to use our plasma cars and ride on toys or asking for snacks when they see my kids eating. I'm crazy about food because my son has food allergies so I always make sure to ask the parents first.
My son is 4.5 and knows not to ask anyone else for food (because of his allergies) and as wild as he is, we only have to tell him "no" 1x and that's enough. I would talk to your kids and explain that they can't have playdates or go on the trampoline... it shouldn't have to be an everyday conversation. If you don't want them to be friendly with the neighbor's kids (although I'm not really sure I understand why), then you need to explain that firmly and concretely so it doesn't keep coming up. If that doesn't work, talk to the parents.
I don't think they put up the trampoline to spite you. You have something for your kids and they have something for theirs.
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
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Posted by MarisaK
Well, can I ask, why are you always telling her no?
I have a zero tolerance policy w/ trampolines. (HUGE ones that you can fall off of and break your neck, not those little things that are seemingly harmless) I have no issue w/ telling my boys no when it comes to the trampoline. I don't care where we are, who we're with .......it's not happening.
Does she just want to play w/ the neighbor's kids? I don't see what the problem is w/ that - she's in out in the yard, they're out in the yard, trampoline or not, they can still see each other if you don't have a privacy fence, it seems totally normal to me that they'd ask to play w/ each other ............
The only reason I tell her No is cause as soon as we step foot outside there kids run to the fence and ask if they can come over or if riley can go there I'm not comfortable with her over there cause there yard isn't fenced and I hate having them at my house cause they don't listen. They do play at the fence together but the whole time they are asking me for a drink, food etc. The parents will be outside and say nothing which drives me crazy!!!! If they were good kids I would have no problem having them over I have two kids of my own that I need to watch I'm also not supervision yours in your own yard while you are doing yard work. I bring a drink or snack out for my daughters there they are right at the fence can you get me some too most of the time I do but enough is enough I finally had to tell them go ask your mom and dad.
I am really having a hard time understanding this whole scenario.
They aren't bad kids for asking for snack and drinks...that is what kids do. They just sound like little girls that want to play with your little girls. If you plan on staying there for awhile, I think you might have to loosen up a little bit and I don't mean that in a snarky way. As a parent, I'm glad that my kids enjoy playing with the neighbors kids. I have set limits and they can't always come over and play but I do have playdates. I also really enjoy my neighbors and their company as I have gotten to know them.
I just don't understand why you wouldn't want to encourage a good friendship with the kids. I get that maybe yours are too young (?) but they won't always be and you may find some good things about having a give and take with your next door neighbors.
Ok you are taking this the wrong way of course I want my children to be friends and they are we have lived next store to them for the past 4 years. Like I have said we like them parents included. My issue that I'm having and its getting worse is everytime I give something to my kids or do something I have her asking for it or asking me to get it for her. I always give them snacks or drinks but after the 2nd or 3rd time in a row time to ask your parents to get it for you. Mind you they are sitting on there deck watching them. while I'm chasing around a 15 month old and playing with my 5 year old.
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
Posted by schmora15
That's annoying--I agree with trying to do the fence sooner.
I wonder if they put it there because of your swing set. Maybe they got tired of hearing their kids ask to go on that?
No our swingset has been there for the past 3 years. its funny cause as soon as we go inside they do also as soon as we come out they come out.Some times it would be nice to be able to just play with my kids or have playdates with other friends and not get questioned on every little thing we are doing the whole time outside. I just came on to vent it might sound really dumb to others and I get it but I also don't think I am be unreasonable.
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
I am anti-trampoline. Our next door neighbor got one. The novelty wears off.
Last summer, I would hear jumping and screeching constantly. Now it is never used along with their swing set that is never used. We don't have either in our backyard.
We have wooden fences though so we can't visibly see it.
My kids know that it is not ours and we can't just go onto other people's property. they used to ask if they could play if the neighbors had kids over and I also said no. there has not been much drama over it. the neighbors are a little older though and our schedules are different.
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
Does this make you feel better?
That said, Hopefully it's short lived if not, there's not much you can do. I agree its mean to tease your daughter. AJ has the same issue with the fact I won't let her play on our driveway (which is steep) but her bestie across the street can (because hers is flat) and I won't let her cross the street by herself (because hello, she's 5)
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
Nothing you can do, it's on their property and within their rights. Put up a different fence
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
Ok you are taking this the wrong way of course I want my children to be friends and they are we have lived next store to them for the past 4 years. Like I have said we like them parents included. My issue that I'm having and its getting worse is everytime I give something to my kids or do something I have her asking for it or asking me to get it for her. I always give them snacks or drinks but after the 2nd or 3rd time in a row time to ask your parents to get it for you. Mind you they are sitting on there deck watching them. while I'm chasing around a 15 month old and playing with my 5 year old.
You are just going to have to be the one that sets limits and says no...go ask your mom...etc. There were always those kids growing up that wanted to use the bathroom or a snack and our moms would say no. I would just redirect them to their parents and tell your dd that they will ask their parents for snacks. As for playdates...invite yourself over to their house...when their kids ask to come to your house...say not now but we would love to come over and play at your house..go ask your mom. I bet they start paying more attention.
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
I would put the PVC fence at the top of my list for house improvements.
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
What kind of store is it? Is it a trampoline store?
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
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What kind of store is it? Is it a trampoline store?
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
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Posted by CookiePuss
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Posted by MarisaK
Well, can I ask, why are you always telling her no?
I have a zero tolerance policy w/ trampolines. (HUGE ones that you can fall off of and break your neck, not those little things that are seemingly harmless) I have no issue w/ telling my boys no when it comes to the trampoline. I don't care where we are, who we're with .......it's not happening.
Does she just want to play w/ the neighbor's kids? I don't see what the problem is w/ that - she's in out in the yard, they're out in the yard, trampoline or not, they can still see each other if you don't have a privacy fence, it seems totally normal to me that they'd ask to play w/ each other ............
The only reason I tell her No is cause as soon as we step foot outside there kids run to the fence and ask if they can come over or if riley can go there I'm not comfortable with her over there cause there yard isn't fenced and I hate having them at my house cause they don't listen. They do play at the fence together but the whole time they are asking me for a drink, food etc. The parents will be outside and say nothing which drives me crazy!!!! If they were good kids I would have no problem having them over I have two kids of my own that I need to watch I'm also not supervision yours in your own yard while you are doing yard work. I bring a drink or snack out for my daughters there they are right at the fence can you get me some too most of the time I do but enough is enough I finally had to tell them go ask your mom and dad.
I am really having a hard time understanding this whole scenario.
They aren't bad kids for asking for snack and drinks...that is what kids do. They just sound like little girls that want to play with your little girls. If you plan on staying there for awhile, I think you might have to loosen up a little bit and I don't mean that in a snarky way. As a parent, I'm glad that my kids enjoy playing with the neighbors kids. I have set limits and they can't always come over and play but I do have playdates. I also really enjoy my neighbors and their company as I have gotten to know them.
I just don't understand why you wouldn't want to encourage a good friendship with the kids. I get that maybe yours are too young (?) but they won't always be and you may find some good things about having a give and take with your next door neighbors.
Ok you are taking this the wrong way of course I want my children to be friends and they are we have lived next store to them for the past 4 years. Like I have said we like them parents included. My issue that I'm having and its getting worse is everytime I give something to my kids or do something I have her asking for it or asking me to get it for her. I always give them snacks or drinks but after the 2nd or 3rd time in a row time to ask your parents to get it for you. Mind you they are sitting on there deck watching them. while I'm chasing around a 15 month old and playing with my 5 year old.
Your problem is the parents ...........you need a privacy fence. I stand by my original suggestion, move it up to the top of your house 'to do' list
I don't thnk they're 'just being kids' constantly asking youi for food/drinks/toys etc - I thought they were just wanting to play with your kids ........kids are capable of good manners, even at a very young age. IF their parents teach them to be polite. Obviously, that is not the case with your neighbors.
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
leyland cypress grow at least 2 feet a year
bye bye neighbor!
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
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Posted by NaturalMom
What kind of store is it? Is it a trampoline store?
FTW  I didn't even notice!
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
Posted by maymama
Posted by LemonHead
Posted by NaturalMom
What kind of store is it? Is it a trampoline store?
FTW I didn't even notice!
LOL. It was bothering me since I first read the title but I didn't want to stay anything.
LOL
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
Posted by CookiePuss
Ok you are taking this the wrong way of course I want my children to be friends and they are we have lived next store to them for the past 4 years. Like I have said we like them parents included. My issue that I'm having and its getting worse is everytime I give something to my kids or do something I have her asking for it or asking me to get it for her. I always give them snacks or drinks but after the 2nd or 3rd time in a row time to ask your parents to get it for you. Mind you they are sitting on there deck watching them. while I'm chasing around a 15 month old and playing with my 5 year old.
You are just going to have to be the one that sets limits and says no...go ask your mom...etc. There were always those kids growing up that wanted to use the bathroom or a snack and our moms would say no. I would just redirect them to their parents and tell your dd that they will ask their parents for snacks. As for playdates...invite yourself over to their house...when their kids ask to come to your house...say not now but we would love to come over and play at your house..go ask your mom. I bet they start paying more attention.
Yes that is what we have been doing go ask your parents
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
Posted by MarisaK
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Posted by MarisaK
Well, can I ask, why are you always telling her no?
I have a zero tolerance policy w/ trampolines. (HUGE ones that you can fall off of and break your neck, not those little things that are seemingly harmless) I have no issue w/ telling my boys no when it comes to the trampoline. I don't care where we are, who we're with .......it's not happening.
Does she just want to play w/ the neighbor's kids? I don't see what the problem is w/ that - she's in out in the yard, they're out in the yard, trampoline or not, they can still see each other if you don't have a privacy fence, it seems totally normal to me that they'd ask to play w/ each other ............
The only reason I tell her No is cause as soon as we step foot outside there kids run to the fence and ask if they can come over or if riley can go there I'm not comfortable with her over there cause there yard isn't fenced and I hate having them at my house cause they don't listen. They do play at the fence together but the whole time they are asking me for a drink, food etc. The parents will be outside and say nothing which drives me crazy!!!! If they were good kids I would have no problem having them over I have two kids of my own that I need to watch I'm also not supervision yours in your own yard while you are doing yard work. I bring a drink or snack out for my daughters there they are right at the fence can you get me some too most of the time I do but enough is enough I finally had to tell them go ask your mom and dad.
I am really having a hard time understanding this whole scenario.
They aren't bad kids for asking for snack and drinks...that is what kids do. They just sound like little girls that want to play with your little girls. If you plan on staying there for awhile, I think you might have to loosen up a little bit and I don't mean that in a snarky way. As a parent, I'm glad that my kids enjoy playing with the neighbors kids. I have set limits and they can't always come over and play but I do have playdates. I also really enjoy my neighbors and their company as I have gotten to know them.
I just don't understand why you wouldn't want to encourage a good friendship with the kids. I get that maybe yours are too young (?) but they won't always be and you may find some good things about having a give and take with your next door neighbors.
Ok you are taking this the wrong way of course I want my children to be friends and they are we have lived next store to them for the past 4 years. Like I have said we like them parents included. My issue that I'm having and its getting worse is everytime I give something to my kids or do something I have her asking for it or asking me to get it for her. I always give them snacks or drinks but after the 2nd or 3rd time in a row time to ask your parents to get it for you. Mind you they are sitting on there deck watching them. while I'm chasing around a 15 month old and playing with my 5 year old.
Your problem is the parents ...........you need a privacy fence. I stand by my original suggestion, move it up to the top of your house 'to do' list
I don't thnk they're 'just being kids' constantly asking youi for food/drinks/toys etc - I thought they were just wanting to play with your kids ........kids are capable of good manners, even at a very young age. IF their parents teach them to be polite. Obviously, that is not the case with your neighbors.
Yes exactly which is why everyday now its getting worse and worse and I keep teaching my daughters be polite if they are eating don't yell to them when they are finished they will come down and talk to you etc. Yes the fence is on the list we know that!!
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Re: how do you deal with a next store neighbor putting up a trampoline
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by maymama
Posted by LemonHead
Posted by NaturalMom
What kind of store is it? Is it a trampoline store?
FTW I didn't even notice!
LOL. It was bothering me since I first read the title but I didn't want to stay anything.
LOL
LOL Door sorry I was typing in such a rush!! Thanks for spotting that I have no problem laughing at myself!
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Re: how do you deal with a next Door neighbor putting up a trampoline
Posted by NoStressMom
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by maymama
Posted by LemonHead
Posted by NaturalMom
What kind of store is it? Is it a trampoline store?
FTW I didn't even notice!
LOL. It was bothering me since I first read the title but I didn't want to stay anything.
LOL
LOL Door sorry I was typing in such a rush!! Thanks for spotting that I have no problem laughing at myself!
I get it! LOL
What kills me is when I am reading a book and see something like that.
I mean arent' they supposed to have editors?
I was reading this weekend and I saw:
"All of the sudden, he came running up the driveway"
Ummm...it's "All of A sudden...."
Drives me nuts.
Maybe I missed my calling in life. I need to be an editor!
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Re: how do you deal with a next Door neighbor putting up a trampoline
Posted by Pinkisles
IMO it's' their property, their trampoline, their choice. Sorry.
yep I also agree with this!
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Re: how do you deal with a next Door neighbor putting up a trampoline
Get a fence, that's all you can do
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