Re: How do you feel when you get invited to a wedding with "Black tie optional"

How do you feel when you get invited to a wedding with

I don't mind id it's black tie optional. For our wedding we said "black tie invited".

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optional is optional. i dont feel anything. i use it as an excuse to wear one of my long BM dresses.

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I love it. I love to get dressed up. I have BTO at my wedding mainy because I wanted to convey esp to DH's famiy that it was a forma event. DH used to wear a tux for those occasiona but he grew out of the one he bought when we were younger, so now it's a dark suit

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It must be a newer trend, because I've never been invited to a wedding with this dress code (I'm married almost 12 years). Personally, I don't like it. Being from NY and having my whole family from the tri-state area, it was a given that dresses and suits are required for formal affairs like weddings. I personally think its a little pretentious and I would be uncomfortable even suggesting to my guests that they incur additional costs. If black ties were required, I'd either decline or reduce my gift.

How do you feel when you get invited to a wedding with

My Wedding is "Black Tie", basically means for men; if you have a Tux you are welcome to wear it, if not a dark suit with a white shirt and black tie (looks like a Tux).
Woman can now get as dressed up as they want and I know my crowd likes to get dressed up.
It all depends on your audience as to what is "appropriate" to put on the invitation.
I love getting all dressed up for celebrations like weddings so I wanted that for my own.

How do you feel when you get invited to a wedding with

Dh would be in a dark suit and I would be in a long dess if I could find one if not a black cocktail dress.

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I like playing dress up so I go for the whole 9 yards. Unless he was in the bridal party, DH wears a black suit...he's not one to carry off the formal look so doesn't own a tux.

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I don't feel anything, good or bad. Getting dressed up is fun.

But I am reminded of a time I went to a wedding that was black tie optional and I thought it was interesting that every single woman on the bride's side was in a black dress - one of those women started talking to me in the ladies room and asked, "Isn't this a great theme, everyone in all black?"

I just smiled and nodded.

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Ive been to quite a few black tie optional events and love it. No one dresses up anymore! So when we get an invitation that says this, dh wears a tux and I wear a gown.

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I would get dressed up and Dh would either rent a tux or a wear a dark suit.

I have never been invited to one but, I tend to think when people put it on the invite it is to deal with unruly guests that show up in flip flops.... That isn't DH or I so I don't think we undress for weddings anyway.

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I don't think DH would care either way. To him, a tux and a suit are the same. He has both so he'd wear a tux.

I have so many black dresses. I would probably go out to see if I find a new dress I like. If not, I'd choose from my many black cocktail dresses.

I feel more stress if it is a casual outdoor wedding. I can't always find a dress I like.

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We don't mind it at all. Our wedding was black tie optional, I didn't know people were bothered by this. I wear what I'd wear to any wedding, although I might wear a floor length gown if I were close to the people getting married. DH owns tuxs because we got to a lot of black tie events so he'll usually wear it. If he didn't own one, he'd just wear a dark suit.

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We wear the same thing we would wear to any formal event: DH in a dark suit and me in a formal cocktail dress usually. We have MILs bff's daughter's wedding next weekend and MIL wants me in a gown and DH in a tux which to me is annoying because we don't own those things. I have been invited where they say "Black Tie Preferred" which IMO is a bit of a burden, again because my DH doesn't own a tux and I don't own a gown! Our wedding said "Black Tie Welcome" which I liked because I thought it conveyed the formality of the affair without (hopefully) making anyone feel like they needed a specific outfit.

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Honestly - I think its insulting.

Either the Wedding is a Black Tie affair, or it's not.

to me, Black Tie 'Optional' says please come dressed appropriately for this event - I am ALWAYS dressed appropriately. I think any Wedding on a Friday/Saturday night is assumed to be a formal affair. (unless you're on a beach or something)

If an event is TRULY a 'black tie' event it's a VERY formal, VERY 'fancy' event

I know I'm internalizing, b/c if I'm being honest, I think that unfortunately MANY people need to told to dress appropriately for a Wedding - as in, put on your big boy pants and wear a jacket and a tie. - but many people don't dress appropriately, so, while I think it's kind of lame, I totally understand why someone would put that on the invite -

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