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Mariabella
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
Posted by MarisaK
I never thought I was going to have some enlightened feeling -
We knew we didn't want Sean to be an only child, we didn't want them to be TOO far apart, so we started trying
But we're pretty practical planners - lol
This. Also we had the kinda of get it over with attitude. DS and DD are 3 years apart.
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Adriana
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
Posted by Bearcat
Sometime a couple of months ago I just knew. The desire has been increasing exponentially as the weeks go by. DD is 16 mos old. We will be waiting another several months for a number of reasons. But I do feel like I went from "ehhhh" to "OMG I NEED ANOTHER BABY NOWWWWWWWWWW." I am sure it doesn't work that way for everyone though! 
this!
Lately DD (who just turned 19 months) looks more and more like a lil' girl and less like a baby...i'm just starting to miss having a lil' baby to take care off...
that and literally yesterday I found out that my friend is preggers...which makes this the SEVENTH person I know that will have a baby this year! 
I just got the itch bad-hit me from one day to the next  
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Mrs-D-Girl
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
Posted by NervousNell
I never got that feeling.
I waited for it.
I waited for it
I looked around corners for it.
It just never came.
I might be missing some important woman gene that makes most people want more than one child.
I serioulsy think that sometimes.
So I kept waiting for it.
But it never came.
All I felt was complete. Like there was nothing more that needed to be added to my life.
So I guess that is how I knew I was one and done.
This is so me as well 
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buttercup
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
my dd is 15 months old.. if you would have asked me last year this time.. i'd would be like "no thanks".. but now I'm more open to the idea of another child, but not right away. I'm enjoying DD and her baby/toddler ways way too much to fully dedicate myself to a newborn. To me, I want to know that DD can understand why mommy can't do certain things with her if and when it does happen.
So for now.. we are content with our one munchkin. If another child is meant of us, then great, otherwise I don't think I will ever feel like I missed out, and hopefully DD won't feel like she missed out on a sibling.
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
Ours was mostly a financial decision. We wanted to make sure we were able to afford 2 children and we did not want 2 in daycare at the same time.
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Goobster
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
My DD is 4 and I still don't get that feeling. I was never a baby person to begin with and am glad to be out of the baby stage. Not sure what will happen.
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JenBenMen
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
After DS#1 was 1 year old....thats when I knew I was ready
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FlowerWife
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
I wish I had the answer, but I feel the way you do. I can't even think of another baby and my dd is 22 months old!!! I don't have time on my side and don't want to wait too long, however I have no desire for another baby right now. I sometimes wonder "will I know when I'm ready", will I ever be ready. It's confusing. Sometimes I question whether I'm one and done because I'm completely happy and my life feels full with just my dd.
Best advice I can give is revisit this in the future. Don't think about it right now, especially since your dd is only 5 months old. At that point I was trying to get into the grove of being a first time parent; it was all new to me so the last thing on my mind was another. Don't ever feel you are alone feeling this way!!!!
couldn't have said it better myself. DD is 21m and im back and forth all the time. DH really isnt ready at all. DDs birth was traumatic and almost killed me and took many many months to recover. everything in our lives took a toll. i initially wanted to space them out by a few years so since she'll be 2 soon i keep thinking that i'll revisit it again when she's 3 if i dont get the itch or have an "oops" before then. it took 18m to conceive the first time so part of me feels like i should start thinking about it sooner in case it takes a while but we are really just not there yet. i know if DH was totally on board, I probably would be too but in all truth we aren't quite financially ready for that and i have a hard enough time going to work every day and leaving one behind - i honestly can't imagine leaving a 3m old behind as well. so for now DD can be an only child. if it works out that we never have any more, i think i would be a little sad, but i also think i could learn to live with it. in my heart i want another but part of me feels no time will be right and i don't want to split my time with another child right now. so ill continue to wait it out and see when and if it ever feels right for both me and DH.
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
My DD is 11 months, and I just started to feel that urge to be pregnant again and give DD a sibling. She loves babies and kids so I feel she would be a great big sister. We will probably try after the summer:)
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PrettyPeonies
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how do you know you are ready?
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Lauren82
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
I remember sitting in the hospital with my DD and talking to DH about having another...we knew we weren't ready, but we knew we would have more. I think for us we were "ready" when things were in place emotionally and financially...with our second we got pregnant again at 9 months pp, then we waited a lot longer for our third...I think I just knew it was a good time for us and it seemed right.
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sleepie76
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
Different factors played into my decision :
- always wanted more than 1
- wanted them close in age, so I could have a third ( I was set on having 3 kids)
- had past experiences with M/C's
When I was pregnant, we said we would start trying when she was 6 months (assuming it would take time to conceive).
At 6 months, I was not ready
At 8 months, I said lets give it a go. Prego On the first & only try.
If I had known then what I know now, I would have waited a little longer. But I love that they are close in age & you never know how long getting pregnant can take.
- I can tell you now, I have the complete opposite feeling... I KNOW I am NOT ready for another one. Maybe never will be....
I think there are 3 feelings that go along with it :
Completely on board
Open to the idea...
Definitely not
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babyface10
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
I told my DH in the hospital after 36 hours of labor and an emergency C that i was ready for #2. He laughed and said lets see how we get on with one 1st. 
DS was the best thing that ever happened to us. We already had a strong relationship but we bacame even closer after DS. DS was a very good, quiet, pleasant child, Great sleeper etc. So it took only until DS was 3 months to convince DH to try for #2. Got Pregnant 1st go again. our Kids will be 13 months apart.
I just hope this baby is as good as DS. But we will be taking a break of at least 1 year before going for #3.
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Melmel821
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Re: how do you know you are ready?
Thanks ladies. It’s just something I’ve been thinking about a lot. I work nights and I’m exhausted. I’ll be up with DD all day then work a 12 hour shift. When I’m not working I go to her if she wakes during the night. I think I thought of this because a nurse I work with is about to pop and she looks so exhausted. My pregnancy was easy but I remember the MS and fatigue and can’t imagine being with DD and then functioning as a nurse all night.
I never felt incomplete before baby. I was quite content and then I was ready for a baby and we conceived quickly so I never had an incomplete feeling.
DH was an only child and he definitely wants to have more because of that fact. I on the other hand feel like I will be O.K. with one. I had a tough time with depression and anxiety during and after pregnancy. While pregnant I was planning to leave after DD was born. Like I was really thinking about all the steps to move out of state and leave DH and DD. And PPD was pretty rough too. So pregnancy and the newborn phase aren’t really appealing to me.
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