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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Moehick
Co sleeping is not for us......BUT I am not in anyone elses bedroom so if people want to co sleep with their children until the age of 1, 3 or 18.....go ahead...it really is NO ONE'S business but your own
Same sentiments here....
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by 5ofClubs
Nope. Never will and honestly don't understand why people do.
Sorry.
Those that do, do find DC to be clingy or independent?
What is your reason for doing this? Just curious.
I did with both of my kids.
Both of my kids are very independent. My younger son moreso than my older one.
I did it because I loved to have my infants near me and because it just felt right.
Both of my kids - thankfully - survived infancy and are now socially adept, healthy and happy kids at 6 and 4 years old! I don't know if co-sleeping helped them become the great kids they are or if it didn't. But I know that we enjoyed it.
And it didn't kill intimacy with my husband. We found ways.
I don't think co-sleeping is for everyone, but it was the absolute right choice for our family. As I said earlier - if I have another child I would probably be a little more careful and buy a side co-sleeper. This is because I have gained a substantial amount of weight and I simply would not feel comfortable having an infant in bed with me.
ETA: Forgot to mention that I am 38 years old and I was a co-sleeper. I slept with my parents as an infant.
Message edited 3/26/2008 8:33:53 PM.
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Dani922
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Deedlebug126
We co-sleep with DD from about 3am on. She sleeps on my side and cradled in my arm. I do not move at all when she sleeps like this.[/QUOTE
That's exactly how I slept with DD when she was small. She was cradled in my arm. It would have taken effort to pull my arm out from under her to roll over on her or I would've felt if she ever rolled off.
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| Posted 3/26/08 8:41 PM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Diana1215
Let me ask you this ? for all the co-sleepers.
My son goes to bed at 6:30 - then I fold the laundry - put things away - clean the room - shower - etc - all in my room. I'll even read a magazine in bed before I fall asleep to unwind.
Do you just not go into your room at this point? Do you have the side bars up so that the child does not roll off the bed when you are not there? Now that Jack is crawling - I can't so much as leave him on the bed to shut the closet door without him moving to the side almost falling off.
Just curious how it works.
To each his own - for me, my room is my place to unwind at the end of a long day. For me and my DH only (oh - and the dog too!  )
i do the same....work all day--take care of DS and then need my alone time
I think he is more comfy in his crib anyway
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| Posted 3/26/08 8:43 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Theresa05
I am a new mother, new to all of this horse ****.. so its interesting to me to see what one says vs another..
I am 31 and back in My DAY as a kid we didn't "COSLEEP".. We all turned out fine and well adjusted whatever the **** that means, so I question everything.. its my nature..
I don't get why people say its good and others say its bad..
I want to know what the Ped's say..
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
My son was 3.5 when he decided he wanted to cosleep. I fought it until my pediatrician asked what my problem is with it. He will not stay forever, lets hope ped is right!
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| Posted 3/26/08 9:22 PM |
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Charly
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
We can't. My DH and I barely sleep comfortably in our Queen. He's a very sound sleeper and literally lifts his entire body up and then slams it down every time he "rolls" over. (I use the term "rolls" lightly ) I barely survive, I couldn't imagine an infant.
It just doesn't work for us. Thankfully DD took to her crib since her first night home. When she was younger I would I bring her in the guest bed with me when she's not feeling well and needs to cuddle, but other than that she's in her crib (esp. now that she can roll out of the bed!!).
Honestly she asks for her crib. She likes it there (and I'm happy about it)
To each their own...what works for one doesn't always work for another. As long as you are safe do what works!
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| Posted 3/26/08 9:28 PM |
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
I've never done it for a few reasons.
1.) Too afraid one of us will roll on top of him and hurt or smother him. I have also heard stories and yes, they are rare, but I wouldn't want to be that one person it happened to.
2.) I know too many people who are still trying to get their 3, 5 or 7 year old out of their bed and aren't getting a decent night's sleep. I just didn't want to deal with this problem later on down the road.
3.) I barely got a decent night's rest when he was in the bassinet in our room. I woke up with every little noise and every time he turned over. I just don't think we would get enough sleep.
4.) we also have time together at night in bed that is intimate but not alway sexual - we talk a lot in bed before we actually go to sleep. I probably wouldn't do this if the baby was in our bed and I would miss this time with DH.
But I do agree with Moe, that it is your business. If it works for you and your family, that's great. Most of the world does sleep this way, our society mainly is the one that doesn't.
ETA: I didn't breast feed after about a week. I could see having a different perspective on it if I were BFing.....
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lbelle821
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
DS has slept in his crib from day one. A permanent co-sleeping arrangement wouldn't work for us. Thankfully it really wasn't an issue because he took to his crib really well.
However, I can see why parents choose to co-sleep. I admit that although I love to have that "me" and "we" time there are many nights where I miss my son and want to cuddle up next to him but can't because he is in his crib.
I won't say that he's never slept in our bed. Each time he is sick he sleeps in our bed (which is often). I just like the idea of being there when he needs his nose wiped and soothing him when he has a coughing fit. Also, on the weekends when he wakes up at 6am he has his bottle in our bed and then goes back to sleep in our bed for about an hour. On those days I actually sleep curled up in an L closer to the foot of the bed and my head is near his waste. he sleeps in my spot. So he has plenty of room and I can still protect him from rolling.
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| Posted 3/26/08 9:50 PM |
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
I've napped with DS in my arms when he was an infant but I was sitting up on the couch and never fell into a deep sleep. I was always too nervous to have him sleep next to us in bed.
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| Posted 3/26/08 9:52 PM |
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
We did it for 6 months until we realized DD was too light of a sleeper and any movement/noise was waking her up. It is way easier when you are BFing to have the baby in the room with you.
When I had her I made the choice to put her needs before my own for as long as necessary. I will do the same with the next one for as long as needed. Sex was definitely not my #1 priority with a newborn.
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| Posted 3/26/08 10:07 PM |
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juanvi
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
My husband might want to divorce me because sex is the last thing on my list of reasons for not having my DS in my bed. I really value Dragonfly's information, and think rather than only giving her opinion she gives info. backed up by research. That being said, I think it's a personal preference, and all I know is I do it, my parents did it, and I think it's not a big deal.
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Bebalina
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
I wish DS LOVEd his crib... but he sleeps in there for about 4 hrs at nite...and like clock work wakes up the same time eeeeevery night...crying for me, and I'm so tired at that point i put him in bed with me and DH he sleeps in the middle... i give DH his room, but i'm on the edge... thankfully its a King bed. but still...it sux and i hate it... I've tried the wait till he falls asleep again and then carry him back to his crib... he wakes up as soon as I put him down....this his been going on for 3 1/2 months now. ... I dunno what else to do. 
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| Posted 3/26/08 10:47 PM |
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
we started sleeping with DS at 10 mos. (when he was moving around a lot already) he just up and decided he didn't like his crib anymore. we tried the CIO method, and he cried until he vomited. it just didn't feel right to us.
it's more acceptable in my parent's culture, than the american culture, i think. my siblings and i co-slept with my parents, and i don't think i'm clingy--
sure, my son likes to be around people, he doesn't like to be left alone, but i don't attribute that to his sleeping habits.
we all get good sleep...it just works for us
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Moehick
Co sleeping is not for us......BUT I am not in anyone elses bedroom so if people want to co sleep with their children until the age of 1, 3 or 18.....go ahead...it really is NO ONE'S business but your own
Yay, loving your work! ITA.
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| Posted 3/27/08 4:56 AM |
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
 To those who were able to discuss something maturely without judging others parenting or bringing vulgarity into the topic at hand..
As I mentioned at the begining of this thread my son is 2.5 and STILL sleeps in my bed...
He is very independent and is/was never clingly.
My sex life is just fine, and Im sorry if those who think having sex any other place than the bedroom is boring- I disagree.
For me the benefits to co-sleeping were the extra "bonding" time, knowing that he was safe right next to me, and just the warmth/comfort of being able to snuggle up together as a family. I tried CIO method, and while it worked- it only worked for a short period of time and IMO only taught my son that I wouldnt be there for him if he cried/needed me (again- this is MY OPINION FOR MY CHILD)
Co-sleeping has been around forever- I co-slept with my parents, and I am very well adjusted and self sufficient (and not to mention no longer sleeping in my parents bed).
We are all grown intelligent women, you'd think by now we'd realize that there isnt "ONE WAY"- there is no "ONE ANSWER"-
Each and every families "way" is different. At what point are we going to stop judging eachother?
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Diane
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
I would be too scared that I would smother them.
Plus we want our boys to be able to fall alseep on THEIR own.
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| Posted 3/27/08 7:31 AM |
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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Posted by Theresa05
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
it is the way for CERTAIN people (not me, dd was in her crib at 5 weeks)
but why do people have to justify their decisions, for THEIR family to you or anyone????????????????
I am asking a question? is cosleep the way? I mean how did this even come about since it seems to be sorta a "new" thing.. Justify Please.. I am asking a reasonable thing here..
mothers have been sleeping with their infants since the beginning of time, and it's still the main way children are put to sleep in many societies - just not ours. in recent years there has been a revival of co-sleeping as part of the "attachment parenting" method. if you google "dr. sears" you can learn more about it, since he is a main figure behind that method.
i don't co-sleep with ds all night for lots of reasons, but mainly because i am WAY too nervous and because dh and i have made our bed our own private spot.
but i do love the closeness of sleeping with ds... i find it to be one of the most bonding things i do with him, more bonding than nursing ever was for me. so i do it early every morning when i sleep very lightly. we cuddle and snooze together in the guest room. i take ALL pillows, top sheets, and covers off the bed, though to minimize any risk of suffocation.
Thank you so much for being sweet about the way that you responded for Theresa to find out about it. I know her a long time, and while it may seem that she is being defensive... she is honestly asking questions, and everyone is jumping down her throat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is at work right now, and just trying to find out the pros vs. cons without having to spend time doing serious research which could compromise her work...
you know what I thank u too...
I dkwhy some can ask questions and debate a answer and some cannot ask anything. It seems to matter sometimes on who is asking and the question it is...
The question is from someone who does not do it and doesn't understand the reasoning behind it is all...
This forum is all about questions, answers and opinions-everyone is entitled to a opinion.
I was curious myself how everyone has relations if they co-sleep.
We should all have the live and let live attitude it should apply to every topic asked--not just some,
Ii like everyones opinion and I look at all aspects...its good to know things.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Princessmaris
At what point are we going to stop judging eachother?
I don't think anyone was really judging anyone...for the people like me that do not do it and decided a long time ago that we wouldn't, we wanted to know why and what are the reasons that some families do. Thats all
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| Posted 3/27/08 7:57 AM |
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Marcie
Posted by Princessmaris
At what point are we going to stop judging eachother?
I don't think anyone was really judging anyone...for the people like me that do not do it and decided a long time ago that we wouldn't, we wanted to know why and what are the reasons that some families do. Thats all
Some asked inncocently- some called it horse sh!t-
IMO thats being judgemental...
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Princessmaris
Posted by Marcie
Posted by Princessmaris
At what point are we going to stop judging eachother?
I don't think anyone was really judging anyone...for the people like me that do not do it and decided a long time ago that we wouldn't, we wanted to know why and what are the reasons that some families do. Thats all
Some asked inncocently- some called it horse sh!t-
IMO thats being judgemental...
hahaah you girls all crack me the heck up..
Horse **** was meant in the terms of all of MOTHERHOOD.. HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Diapers, formula, co sleeping, teething and whatever else comes along with it..
TRUST me if I was being judgemental I would outright say it....so everyone could understand it....
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| Posted 3/27/08 8:23 AM |
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Princessmaris
Some asked inncocently- some called it horse sh!t-
IMO thats being judgemental...
ITA. I think most posters were fine and most of the discussions were fine, but there were definately a few posts that were less than innocent requests for information.
Personally, I don't mind having people question the things I do. I usually have good reasons for doing what I do and I'm happy to share those reasons with anyone who wants to listen and hear another view point. That's what these boards are for.
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| Posted 3/27/08 8:23 AM |
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Marcie
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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Posted by Marcie
Posted by Princessmaris
At what point are we going to stop judging eachother?
I don't think anyone was really judging anyone...for the people like me that do not do it and decided a long time ago that we wouldn't, we wanted to know why and what are the reasons that some families do. Thats all
Some asked inncocently- some called it horse sh!t-
IMO thats being judgemental...
Oh I thought she cleared that up with another post after she said that.
And then cleared it up again today.
But anyway.
Do you mind if I ask a question about co-sleeping?
My question is - if your child goes to bed at say 8:00, do you have to go to bed with them? How does that work?
Or do you lay there until they go to sleep and then get up or do they just go to sleep there on there own? If that is the case, do you have bed rails on your bed?
Sorry for the questions, I have been always curious as to how it works for some mothers, so I figured since it is being discussed, let me ask  
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Marcie
But anyway.
Do you mind if I ask a question about co-sleeping?
My question is - if your child goes to bed at say 8:00, do you have to go to bed with them? How does that work?
Or do you lay there until they go to sleep and then get up or do they just go to sleep there on there own? If that is the case, do you have bed rails on your bed?
Sorry for the questions, I have been always curious as to how it works for some mothers, so I figured since it is being discussed, let me ask
I don't because DS goes down in his crib. I usually rock him a bit and he falls asleep in his crib. He also naps in his crib.
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| Posted 3/27/08 8:30 AM |
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
I attempted cosleeping with DS and then I woke up one night as DH was starting to roll on top of him. DH is such a heavy sleeper he never would have noticed. Way too scary for me. He started going in his crib after that.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
[Do you mind if I ask a question about co-sleeping?
My question is - if your child goes to bed at say 8:00, do you have to go to bed with them? How does that work?
Or do you lay there until they go to sleep and then get up or do they just go to sleep there on there own? If that is the case, do you have bed rails on your bed?
Sorry for the questions, I have been always curious as to how it works for some mothers, so I figured since it is being discussed, let me ask
Rj goes to bed around 7/7:30- Usually I go lay down with him, and lay there until he falls asleep..
Sometimes I fall asleep, sometimes I dont, and at that point I go about my night (hang with DH, put away laundry, dishes- whatever...)
I dont have bed rails- When he was smaller we baricaded the sides with pillows, but now that he is older, he just doesnt fall- he kinda knows (the same way we learn not to fall) otherwise- I would've purchased bed rails...
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