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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Theresa05
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
it is the way for CERTAIN people (not me, dd was in her crib at 5 weeks)
but why do people have to justify their decisions, for THEIR family to you or anyone????????????????
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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ok so when does the baby go into their own room?
Never?
Nope, not until college
I am not going to even debate that with you..
people want to sleep with their kids with their husband thats their choice but when is it time for them to go back into their own bed? how do they know the boundry? I know there is no more wild sex if the kid is in the bed..
BORINGGGGGGGGGGG
Well obviously I don’t buy into the whole “gotta set a boundary that excludes my child from my bed” mentality. A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready. I don’t think it’s beneficial to try to force independence on an inherently dependent being. As I said above DS will move to his room when co-sleeping no longer works and he will always be welcome back in our bed if he’s going through a rough time and needs support.
As for sex -- it's really not that complicated. For me, it's easy because DS goes to sleep in his crib. Other people just find alternative locations -- doesn't sound boring to me.
So your saying my Sofia won't be well adjusted if she doesn't sleep in my bed? UH ***
O M G, when did she say that???????
...ever hear "live and let live"?
Everyones baby will be fine...they are LIF babies ...AND ...they are the best babies....WELL best looking that is  
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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Posted by Theresa05
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
it is the way for CERTAIN people (not me, dd was in her crib at 5 weeks)
but why do people have to justify their decisions, for THEIR family to you or anyone????????????????
I am asking a question? is cosleep the way? I mean how did this even come about since it seems to be sorta a "new" thing.. Justify Please.. I am asking a reasonable thing here..
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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Posted by Theresa05
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
it is the way for CERTAIN people (not me, dd was in her crib at 5 weeks)
but why do people have to justify their decisions, for THEIR family to you or anyone????????????????
I am asking a question? is cosleep the way? I mean how did this even come about since it seems to be sorta a "new" thing.. Justify Please.. I am asking a reasonable thing here..
and I am trying to get you to understand that while co-sleeping may not be the way for you or I, obviously, for many families it is.....
period, it does not affect my life in ANY way of someone else wants to co-sleep
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Theresa05
I am a new mother, new to all of this horse ****.. so its interesting to me to see what one says vs another..
I am 31 and back in My DAY as a kid we didn't "COSLEEP".. We all turned out fine and well adjusted whatever the **** that means, so I question everything.. its my nature..
I don't get why people say its good and others say its bad..
I want to know what the Ped's say..
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
Why do they make formula or bottles if BF is "the way" "The way" is whatever works for you and your family and there isn't a wrong or a right.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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Posted by Theresa05
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
it is the way for CERTAIN people (not me, dd was in her crib at 5 weeks)
but why do people have to justify their decisions, for THEIR family to you or anyone????????????????
I am asking a question? is cosleep the way? I mean how did this even come about since it seems to be sorta a "new" thing.. Justify Please.. I am asking a reasonable thing here..
It's a "new" thing to you because you are a new parent. Surely you hadn't heard of it prior to becoming a parent because there was no interest in knowing about it
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Theresa05
I am a new mother, new to all of this horse ****.. so its interesting to me to see what one says vs another..
I am 31 and back in My DAY as a kid we didn't "COSLEEP".. We all turned out fine and well adjusted whatever the **** that means, so I question everything.. its my nature..
I don't get why people say its good and others say its bad..
I want to know what the Ped's say..
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
Wow, gotta say you read my post in a really defensive way. I'm not saying anything about kids who don't co-sleep. I'm saying well-adjusted kids will sleep on their own whether or not they were put in cribs as infants or if they slept with their parents as infants.
As for not understanding why some people do things that other people don't -- well welcome to parenthood. We all do what we think is best for our children in our situations. It's fine for you to choose not to co-sleep -- it's fine for me to choose to do so -- doesn't make one right or one wrong. What's not fine is to condemn or act dergatory toward a practice that you have not researched or don't understand.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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Posted by Theresa05
I am a new mother, new to all of this horse ****.. so its interesting to me to see what one says vs another..
I am 31 and back in My DAY as a kid we didn't "COSLEEP".. We all turned out fine and well adjusted whatever the **** that means, so I question everything.. its my nature..
I don't get why people say its good and others say its bad..
I want to know what the Ped's say..
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
Why do they make formula or bottles if BF is "the way" "The way" is whatever works for you and your family and there isn't a wrong or a right.
ok but is "BF" the way? what if you don't produce milk? What if your baby doesn't latch what if they have reflux and need a nipple?
I just want to know what the pros are vs cons since I find this cosleep interesting
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Theresa05
I just want to know what the pros are vs cons since I find this cosleep interesting
then go online and do some research....
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
No one is judging and I don't understand why this is turning into a debate! A questions was asked and I am curious as to why some co-sleep, reason behind it. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am just curious as to why some do it voluntarily. I know some who have DC sleep with them because they just wont accept the crib...
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Theresa05
No one is judging and I don't understand why this is turning into a debate! A questions was asked and I am curious as to why some co-sleep, reason behind it. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am just curious as to why some do it voluntarily. I know some who have DC sleep with them because they just wont accept the crib...
Thats good enough reason to me for that parent to make "THEIR" decision to Co-Sleep.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Theresa05
No one is judging and I don't understand why this is turning into a debate! A questions was asked and I am curious as to why some co-sleep, reason behind it. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am just curious as to why some do it voluntarily. I know some who have DC sleep with them because they just wont accept the crib...
I think it was explained beautifully why some people co-sleep in this thread...because it works for them and their family 
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Theresa05
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Posted by Theresa05
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
it is the way for CERTAIN people (not me, dd was in her crib at 5 weeks)
but why do people have to justify their decisions, for THEIR family to you or anyone????????????????
I am asking a question? is cosleep the way? I mean how did this even come about since it seems to be sorta a "new" thing.. Justify Please.. I am asking a reasonable thing here..
mothers have been sleeping with their infants since the beginning of time, and it's still the main way children are put to sleep in many societies - just not ours. in recent years there has been a revival of co-sleeping as part of the "attachment parenting" method. if you google "dr. sears" you can learn more about it, since he is a main figure behind that method.
i don't co-sleep with ds all night for lots of reasons, but mainly because i am WAY too nervous and because dh and i have made our bed our own private spot.
but i do love the closeness of sleeping with ds... i find it to be one of the most bonding things i do with him, more bonding than nursing ever was for me. so i do it early every morning when i sleep very lightly. we cuddle and snooze together in the guest room. i take ALL pillows, top sheets, and covers off the bed, though to minimize any risk of suffocation.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Theresa05
No one is judging and I don't understand why this is turning into a debate! A questions was asked and I am curious as to why some co-sleep, reason behind it. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am just curious as to why some do it voluntarily. I know some who have DC sleep with them because they just wont accept the crib...
Gotta say I really don't think you have been reading the previous posts if you missed where people told you the benefits they receive from co-sleeping. Some of your posts have come across as attacking, which might not have been your intent, but when you use all caps and use ***** for expletives it's easy to read your posts as attacks.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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Posted by Theresa05
Posted by stephanief
Posted by Theresa05
I mean why do they even make cribs and toddler beds if COSLEEP is the way?
it is the way for CERTAIN people (not me, dd was in her crib at 5 weeks)
but why do people have to justify their decisions, for THEIR family to you or anyone????????????????
I am asking a question? is cosleep the way? I mean how did this even come about since it seems to be sorta a "new" thing.. Justify Please.. I am asking a reasonable thing here..
mothers have been sleeping with their infants since the beginning of time, and it's still the main way children are put to sleep in many societies - just not ours. in recent years there has been a revival of co-sleeping as part of the "attachment parenting" method. if you google "dr. sears" you can learn more about it, since he is a main figure behind that method.
i don't co-sleep with ds all night for lots of reasons, but mainly because i am WAY too nervous and because dh and i have made our bed our own private spot.
but i do love the closeness of sleeping with ds... i find it to be one of the most bonding things i do with him, more bonding than nursing ever was for me. so i do it early every morning when i sleep very lightly. we cuddle and snooze together in the guest room. i take ALL pillows, top sheets, and covers off the bed, though to minimize any risk of suffocation.
Thank you so much for being sweet about the way that you responded for Theresa to find out about it. I know her a long time, and while it may seem that she is being defensive... she is honestly asking questions, and everyone is jumping down her throat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is at work right now, and just trying to find out the pros vs. cons without having to spend time doing serious research which could compromise her work...
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready. I don’t think it’s beneficial to try to force independence on an inherently dependent being.
If all your child knows it to sleep with mommy and daddy, how will they become well adjusted? My son took to the crib, we didn't force him in his own room or force him to be independent.
ETA: I am not questioning those who co-sleep. I am just curious as to the reasons behind it
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To answer your question...
Personally where the kid sleeps has NOTHING To do with being well adjusted. For me its a cultural thing. I grew up this way and when the time came I wanted my own space and I got it. This is my 2nd child and if she is anything like her sister I will be thrilled. My oldest makes friends extremely quickly, is a great student, has minamal brat moments so obviously the cosleeping didnt have an effect. She sleeps in her own room now and when she wants to cuddle she can without fear that mommy and daddy will say no. My hubby and I have a fab intimate life--
P.S Cosleeping works but if it didnt somebody will be in their crib QUICK lol
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by sometimesmommy
Posted by Sweets13
Posted by Dragonfly75
A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready. I don’t think it’s beneficial to try to force independence on an inherently dependent being.
If all your child knows it to sleep with mommy and daddy, how will they become well adjusted? My son took to the crib, we didn't force him in his own room or force him to be independent.
ETA: I am not questioning those who co-sleep. I am just curious as to the reasons behind it
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To answer your question...
Personally where the kid sleeps has NOTHING To do with being well adjusted. For me its a cultural thing. I grew up this way and when the time came I wanted my own space and I got it. This is my 2nd child and if she is anything like her sister I will be thrilled. My oldest makes friends extremely quickly, is a great student, has minamal brat moments so obviously the cosleeping didnt have an effect. She sleeps in her own room now and when she wants to cuddle she can without fear that mommy and daddy will say no. My hubby and I have a fab intimate life--
I asked my question because Dragonfly said "A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready".
Again, not judging or saying my way is better than yours. We all do what we feel is right for our children~
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Sweets13
Posted by sometimesmommy
Posted by Sweets13
Posted by Dragonfly75
A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready. I don’t think it’s beneficial to try to force independence on an inherently dependent being.
If all your child knows it to sleep with mommy and daddy, how will they become well adjusted? My son took to the crib, we didn't force him in his own room or force him to be independent.
ETA: I am not questioning those who co-sleep. I am just curious as to the reasons behind it
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To answer your question...
Personally where the kid sleeps has NOTHING To do with being well adjusted. For me its a cultural thing. I grew up this way and when the time came I wanted my own space and I got it. This is my 2nd child and if she is anything like her sister I will be thrilled. My oldest makes friends extremely quickly, is a great student, has minamal brat moments so obviously the cosleeping didnt have an effect. She sleeps in her own room now and when she wants to cuddle she can without fear that mommy and daddy will say no. My hubby and I have a fab intimate life--
I asked my question because Dragonfly said "A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready".
my well adjusted child was ready at 5 weeks to sleep in her crib 
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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Posted by sometimesmommy
Posted by Sweets13
Posted by Dragonfly75
A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready. I don’t think it’s beneficial to try to force independence on an inherently dependent being.
If all your child knows it to sleep with mommy and daddy, how will they become well adjusted? My son took to the crib, we didn't force him in his own room or force him to be independent.
ETA: I am not questioning those who co-sleep. I am just curious as to the reasons behind it
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To answer your question...
Personally where the kid sleeps has NOTHING To do with being well adjusted. For me its a cultural thing. I grew up this way and when the time came I wanted my own space and I got it. This is my 2nd child and if she is anything like her sister I will be thrilled. My oldest makes friends extremely quickly, is a great student, has minamal brat moments so obviously the cosleeping didnt have an effect. She sleeps in her own room now and when she wants to cuddle she can without fear that mommy and daddy will say no. My hubby and I have a fab intimate life--
I asked my question because Dragonfly said "A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready".
I was responding to the question about when you move a co-sleeping child out of your room -- not saying there's anything wrong with putting a child in a crib from day one if that's what works for your family.
I think a child is well-adjusted when he gets oodles of love and support from mommy and daddy -- I don't think sleeping alone in a crib is necassary to creating a well-adjusted child.
ETA: but I don't think putting your child in a crib will make him maladjusted, either.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by Dragonfly75
Posted by Sweets13
Posted by sometimesmommy
Posted by Sweets13
Posted by Dragonfly75
A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready. I don’t think it’s beneficial to try to force independence on an inherently dependent being.
If all your child knows it to sleep with mommy and daddy, how will they become well adjusted? My son took to the crib, we didn't force him in his own room or force him to be independent.
ETA: I am not questioning those who co-sleep. I am just curious as to the reasons behind it
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To answer your question...
Personally where the kid sleeps has NOTHING To do with being well adjusted. For me its a cultural thing. I grew up this way and when the time came I wanted my own space and I got it. This is my 2nd child and if she is anything like her sister I will be thrilled. My oldest makes friends extremely quickly, is a great student, has minamal brat moments so obviously the cosleeping didnt have an effect. She sleeps in her own room now and when she wants to cuddle she can without fear that mommy and daddy will say no. My hubby and I have a fab intimate life--
I asked my question because Dragonfly said "A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready".
I was responding to the question about when you move a co-sleeping child out of your room -- not saying there's anything wrong with putting a child in a crib from day one if that's what works for your family.
I think a child is well-adjusted when he gets oodles of love and support from mommy and daddy -- I don't think sleeping alone in a crib is necassary to creating a well-adjusted child.
I dont think you even needed to explain that. It was obvious that you were talking about a child who co-sleeps.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
I think it is really hard for people that don't do it to understand.
And to say it is better for bonding and for a child to be well-adjusted is wrong. Sorry.
Sometimes I feel it is more for the parents then the children.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by PrincessP
Posted by Dragonfly75
Posted by Sweets13
Posted by sometimesmommy
Posted by Sweets13
Posted by Dragonfly75
A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready. I don’t think it’s beneficial to try to force independence on an inherently dependent being.
If all your child knows it to sleep with mommy and daddy, how will they become well adjusted? My son took to the crib, we didn't force him in his own room or force him to be independent.
ETA: I am not questioning those who co-sleep. I am just curious as to the reasons behind it
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To answer your question...
Personally where the kid sleeps has NOTHING To do with being well adjusted. For me its a cultural thing. I grew up this way and when the time came I wanted my own space and I got it. This is my 2nd child and if she is anything like her sister I will be thrilled. My oldest makes friends extremely quickly, is a great student, has minamal brat moments so obviously the cosleeping didnt have an effect. She sleeps in her own room now and when she wants to cuddle she can without fear that mommy and daddy will say no. My hubby and I have a fab intimate life--
I asked my question because Dragonfly said "A well adjusted child will sleep in his room when he’s ready".
I was responding to the question about when you move a co-sleeping child out of your room -- not saying there's anything wrong with putting a child in a crib from day one if that's what works for your family.
I think a child is well-adjusted when he gets oodles of love and support from mommy and daddy -- I don't think sleeping alone in a crib is necassary to creating a well-adjusted child.
I dont think you even needed to explain that. It was obvious that you were talking about a child who co-sleeps.
I appreciate her explanation....So thank you Dragonfly
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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And to say it is better for bonding and for a child to be well-adjusted is wrong. Sorry.
Sometimes I feel it is more for the parents then the children.
That's fine that that's your opinion, but I feel differently. The research I've done has led me to a different conclusion.
Please understand I never said co-sleeping was necessary to make a well adjusted child -- that was one person's defensive remark to a comment I made about how all well-adjusted children will eventually sleep on their own in their own time. There are many ways to bond -- co-sleeping is one of them. But you don't have to co-sleep in order to bond with your child.
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
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Posted by 5ofClubs
And to say it is better for bonding and for a child to be well-adjusted is wrong. Sorry.
Sometimes I feel it is more for the parents then the children.
That's fine that that's your opinion, but I feel differently. The research I've done has led me to a different conclusion.
Please understand I never said co-sleeping was necessary to make a well adjusted child -- that was one person's defensive remark to a comment I made about how all well-adjusted children will eventually sleep on their own in their own time. There are many ways to bond -- co-sleeping is one of them. But you don't have to co-sleep in order to bond with your child.
Ok Thanks. I got so confused with all the posts at one point
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Re: How many of you sleep with your infants?
Posted by 5ofClubs
I think it is really hard for people that don't do it to understand.
And to say it is better for bonding and for a child to be well-adjusted is wrong. Sorry.
Sometimes I feel it is more for the parents then the children.
honestly, i don't think anyone is saying that co-sleeping is better for bonding, or that if you don't co-sleep your child won't be well-adjusted.
much of this thread feels like one miscommunication after another, imho.
i don't get the sense that anyone is trying to make their parenting style out to be the better way.
i truly believe that what is "best" for bonding and for producing a well-adjusted child is what makes parents the most comfortable and happy. and that is a little different in every family. there is no right or wrong here.
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