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MrsA1012
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How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Once I had narrowed things down to one hall and 1 vendor he went to those meetings. At the point, he did all the negotiations and gave his seal of approval. Also, he told me what he thought of my hair/ makeup trials and gave input on those fronts. I did everything else.
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GioiaMia
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
It was like a big surprise party and he was the guest of honor! 
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| Posted 7/16/12 12:34 PM |
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Cheeks24
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
I found all the vendors to meet with and we both selected who we were working with. I did all the other details. There were certain things I wanted as favors, cake flavors and just asked him if he was okay with them.
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| Posted 7/16/12 12:42 PM |
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MrsFrizzle
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
He shared in virtually every decision with the exception that had anything to do with my dress, look etc. Although he did say he hoped I wasn't wearing a blusher BC he wanted to be able to look directly into my eyes while I walked down the aisle 
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| Posted 7/16/12 12:46 PM |
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alli3131
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Posted by nrthshgrl
I was talking to a friend about it this past weekend. She mentioned that she knows a guy who had such a level of involvement, she was questioning who the bride was.
I was just wondering how much involvement/input did your DH have in wedding planning?
What were the points that were important to him?
My DH was not that involved and thats how we liked it....we cared only about certain things
However we have a family member whose DH was very invloved....down to picking the BM dresses....
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| Posted 7/16/12 12:51 PM |
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Eireann
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Posted by nrthshgrl
That was what the discussion I had was about. The groom insisted on a color palette, bridesmaid dresses, how he wanted the bridal shower to go (he wanted a Jack & Jill shower), etc).
I am pretty sure I wouldn't have gotten that far into a relationship with a man who wanted input into any of those things. Just not my type. 
To answer the original question: I chose all the preliminary vendors and made appts and he came with me to decide/negotiate/sign contracts. He did not register with me--my mom did. As I recall, he did actually pick the favor though...
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| Posted 7/16/12 1:18 PM |
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Chatham-Chick
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
What were the points that were important to him? The budget.
He was involved, but it was more me taking the initiative and him vetoing things. I value his opinion, so it was important to me that he liked everything as well.
He was involved in the sense that he handled all the negotiations/financial aspects of our dealings. The one part he didn't, it cost him because I didn't negotiate at all. 
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| Posted 7/16/12 1:19 PM |
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mrsm-2011
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
He picked the DJ and the cake flavor, that is about it...
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| Posted 7/16/12 1:22 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
We looked at and decided on everything together. He had no say in the Bridesmaids dresses and color though. LOL
That was all me.
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| Posted 7/16/12 1:33 PM |
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Annie91606
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
We picked the venue together. DH had a lot of input on the songs (the band gave us a list beforehand to pick from) and the menu.
My Mom and I planned the rest.
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| Posted 7/16/12 1:42 PM |
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Posted by GioiaMia
It was like a big surprise party and he was the guest of honor!
My husband helped, but mostly because he likes to help me.
The flowers & my dress were proabably the only things he wasn't invoved in at all.
He did actually help with the bridesmaid's dresses, b/c my MOH & I were shopping long distance, and sometimes I just needed to see how a dress looked on a person, so I would try things on myself at David's & he would tell me if I looked silly. In then I picked something out on my own.
The things that mattered to him personally, were not getting ripped off, and making sure nothing was over the top, making sure I didn't go insane, and the carving station.
He was all about the pastrami.
Message edited 7/16/2012 1:45:17 PM.
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Naner325
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
I did most of the research and then would ask his opinion on halls, food, colors. His only request was that he wanted the color orange involved and a variety of beer
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| Posted 7/16/12 1:47 PM |
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moonmist09
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How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
we looked at halls together and went to all of our initials vendor appointments together. we set a budget for each vendor and we tried to stick to it. all the little details in between i took care of but i would always ask for his opinion here and there when necessary. We bsaically wanted the same thing so he knew he could trust me to get what he wanted too.
DH never cared what color i picked for the dresses for the BM's or what color flowers i had. he just didn't care and left that completly up to me.
DH definately did not want to come to my shower with me. he was happy to drop me off and let me have my time in the spotlight. Afterwards, he was like a kid at camp looking through all the gifts we got though
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| Posted 7/16/12 1:48 PM |
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Finally1108
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Posted by PennyCat
My dh shared in the decision making for everything except my dress/hair/makeup I would say he was perfectly involved. I basically came up with the ideas for which halls to look at, bands to see, florists to check out, and he came to everything and we decided on things together.
This
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| Posted 7/16/12 1:50 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
He was involved in the planning - he came to all the appointments he could, I asked his opinion and ran everything past him before making decisions, etc. But he didn't take initiative with the planning and didn't have very strong opinions on most things. The one thing he was most interested in was the food selection.
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| Posted 7/16/12 1:53 PM |
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LoveMyHubby605
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
DH had an opinion on everything 
in theory he was only in charge of the honeymoon but he did get involved. Especially during crunch time. The songs he chose were important to him and he is STILL bitter that they didn't stick to his list since he spent so much time on it. HE also designed our Gobo and is still so proud of it lol. he also did our menus after mine wasn't up to his standards
he didn't trust that the bakery would use the correct shade/width of silver ribbon so we went to michaels and HE picked it out. he chose what kind of flowers went on the cake
I swear he's a straight man
oh and btw he did a fabulous job on the honeymoon
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MichLiz213
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Posted by PennyCat
My dh shared in the decision making for everything except my dress/hair/makeup I would say he was perfectly involved. I basically came up with the ideas for which halls to look at, bands to see, florists to check out, and he came to everything and we decided on things together.
Same here!
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| Posted 7/16/12 4:20 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Posted by GioiaMia
It was like a big surprise party and he was the guest of honor!
This was almost how it was for me!
He had input into the music & the only other important point was bottled beer (which we almost didn't get married over since I was an event director, we always had pilsner glasses).
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| Posted 7/16/12 4:54 PM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Posted by Eireann
Posted by nrthshgrl
That was what the discussion I had was about. The groom insisted on a color palette, bridesmaid dresses, how he wanted the bridal shower to go (he wanted a Jack & Jill shower), etc).
I am pretty sure I wouldn't have gotten that far into a relationship with a man who wanted input into any of those things. Just not my type.
Um, yeah
I picked a hall, he came and saw it and said "Great!" I negotiated the date and $$$.
He picked his tux.
Rings- he told the jeweler, "white gold, thin band" so the jeweler through his in for free.
Music- No Kool and the Gang- "Celebration" upon penalty of death
That's it.
He showed up, said "I Do", ate, drank and later 
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GenLCSW
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Posted by ElizaRags35
DH was the one who contacted the vendors and who negotiated. He came to all appointments and had his input. But, I had the final say in everything lol.
exactly this!!!
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| Posted 7/16/12 6:37 PM |
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springchick
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How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
I narrowed the options of vendors and ideas and he help decide the final option. His only request was chocolate cake which i was happy with that too because i dont like regular yellow cake or red velvet
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| Posted 7/16/12 7:03 PM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
he came to some appointments. that's it.
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| Posted 7/16/12 7:24 PM |
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MrsM429
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
He came to appts with me and researched our HM, but that's about it. He loves to say his contribution was writing the checks
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| Posted 7/16/12 7:27 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Well...I almost picked the hall without him seeing it bc I loved it THAT much but he was involved somewhat. He wanted me to be happy he wasn't into a specific color flower or anything like that, that was all my choice.
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| Posted 7/16/12 7:29 PM |
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gina409
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Re: How much involvement did your DH have in wedding planning?
Posted by AngnShaun
He wanted to make sure there was enough Beer, and that we had bacon wrapped scallops.
That was it.
awesome
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