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MamaLeen
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MamaLeen
Wow the BADGERING on this thread is so obnoxious. Who cares what anyone else does?!
People who have to repeat over and over how great/long/perfect their marriage is make me wonder what the real story is. If you are secure in your marriage that is great but different strokes for different folks. Why is it so hard to comprehend that not everyone is like "you"?? 
I assume you are speaking about me. Again, I understand others are not like me and are different.
I simply am stating what I feel and what I have heard from other sources (people who do this for a living).
Its not about what you are saying, it is the badgering. When you feel passionate about a specific thread you make yourself the "captain" of that POV. Every time someone posts, one of two things happen. If they agree with you, you applause and tell them how right they are!! If they disagree, you argue until you are blue in the face.
You do this until the BITTER END of the thread. It is exhausting. There comes a time when I think you should agree to disagree and move on. Instead you choose to attack the opposing POV trying to get everyone to agree with you.
I think by now MOST PEOPLE GET IT!! WE HEAR YOU!!! ENOUGH!
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hazeleyes33
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by MamaLeen
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MamaLeen
Wow the BADGERING on this thread is so obnoxious. Who cares what anyone else does?!
People who have to repeat over and over how great/long/perfect their marriage is make me wonder what the real story is. If you are secure in your marriage that is great but different strokes for different folks. Why is it so hard to comprehend that not everyone is like "you"??
I assume you are speaking about me. Again, I understand others are not like me and are different.
I simply am stating what I feel and what I have heard from other sources (people who do this for a living).
Its not about what you are saying, it is the badgering. When you feel passionate about a specific thread you make yourself the "captain" of that POV. Every time someone posts, one of two things happen. If they agree with you, you applause and tell them how right they are!! If they disagree, you argue until you are blue in the face.
You do this until the BITTER END of the thread. It is exhausting. There comes a time when I think you should agree to disagree and move on. Instead you choose to attack the opposing POV trying to get everyone to agree with you.
I think by now MOST PEOPLE GET IT!! WE HEAR YOU!!! ENOUGH!
Thanks for your opinion. Night.
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| Posted 6/7/11 9:12 PM |
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Little-J-Mommy
I'm a Big Brother
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
huh? People who do WHAT for a living?? have date nights?  I don't understand. What sources? Name names please
Doctors regarding putting your children first and your marriage last (or at least the lowest priority for 18 years).
I'm sorry, I am not trying to be rude here, but what kind of Doctors??
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| Posted 6/7/11 9:14 PM |
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MamaLeen
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MamaLeen
Wow the BADGERING on this thread is so obnoxious. Who cares what anyone else does?!
People who have to repeat over and over how great/long/perfect their marriage is make me wonder what the real story is. If you are secure in your marriage that is great but different strokes for different folks. Why is it so hard to comprehend that not everyone is like "you"??
I assume you are speaking about me. Again, I understand others are not like me and are different.
I simply am stating what I feel and what I have heard from other sources (people who do this for a living).
K
Its not about what you are saying, it is the badgering. When you feel passionate about a specific thread you make yourself the "captain" of that POV. Every time someone posts, one of two things happen. If they agree with you, you applause and tell them how right they are!! If they disagree, you argue until you are blue in the face.
You do this until the BITTER END of the thread. It is exhausting. There comes a time when I think you should agree to disagree and move on. Instead you choose to attack the opposing POV trying to get everyone to agree with you.
I think by now MOST PEOPLE GET IT!! WE HEAR YOU!!! ENOUGH!
Thanks for your opinion. Night.
You didn't get any applause Eileen. Guess she didn't agree with you 
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| Posted 6/7/11 9:15 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by MamaLeen
Its not about what you are saying, it is the badgering. When you feel passionate about a specific thread you make yourself the "captain" of that POV. Every time someone posts, one of two things happen. If they agree with you, you applause and tell them how right they are!! If they disagree, you argue until you are blue in the face.
You do this until the BITTER END of the thread. It is exhausting. There comes a time when I think you should agree to disagree and move on. Instead you choose to attack the opposing POV trying to get everyone to agree with you.
I think by now MOST PEOPLE GET IT!! WE HEAR YOU!!! ENOUGH!
ITA.
I don't know about other posts you've responded on but good god, enough already. WE GOT IT!!!!! Usually I don't get annoyed about threads (& maybe it's my preggo hormones) but this one is ridiculous now and annoying. I even agreed with things you've said but ENOUGH!
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| Posted 6/7/11 9:15 PM |
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MamaLeen
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MamaLeen
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MamaLeen
Wow the BADGERING on this thread is so obnoxious. Who cares what anyone else does?!
People who have to repeat over and over how great/long/perfect their marriage is make me wonder what the real story is. If you are secure in your marriage that is great but different strokes for different folks. Why is it so hard to comprehend that not everyone is like "you"??
I assume you are speaking about me. Again, I understand others are not like me and are different.
I simply am stating what I feel and what I have heard from other sources (people who do this for a living).
K
Its not about what you are saying, it is the badgering. When you feel passionate about a specific thread you make yourself the "captain" of that POV. Every time someone posts, one of two things happen. If they agree with you, you applause and tell them how right they are!! If they disagree, you argue until you are blue in the face.
You do this until the BITTER END of the thread. It is exhausting. There comes a time when I think you should agree to disagree and move on. Instead you choose to attack the opposing POV trying to get everyone to agree with you.
I think by now MOST PEOPLE GET IT!! WE HEAR YOU!!! ENOUGH!
Thanks for your opinion. Night.
You didn't get any applause Eileen. Guess she didn't agree with you
Darn!
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| Posted 6/7/11 9:23 PM |
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hazeleyes33
LIF Adult
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
huh? People who do WHAT for a living?? have date nights? I don't understand. What sources? Name names please
Doctors regarding putting your children first and your marriage last (or at least the lowest priority for 18 years).
I'm sorry, I am not trying to be rude here, but what kind of Doctors??
There are many books on this.
Message edited 6/7/2011 9:29:08 PM.
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| Posted 6/7/11 9:25 PM |
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Since DS was born 20 months ago we've never gone out just me and DH. I dont mind. We both work full time so we like the family time. But now that hes older we may start to go out to dinner more often just me and DH after DS goes to bed.
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| Posted 6/7/11 9:28 PM |
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Little-J-Mommy
I'm a Big Brother
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
huh? People who do WHAT for a living?? have date nights? I don't understand. What sources? Name names please
Doctors regarding putting your children first and your marriage last (or at least the lowest priority for 18 years).
I'm sorry, I am not trying to be rude here, but what kind of Doctors??
There are many books on this.
You're not making any sense. You started out saying that you've been told by "people who do this for a living", specifically by "doctors" and now you're saying there are books on it. I'm just trying to understand where this is coming from?
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| Posted 6/7/11 9:36 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
huh? People who do WHAT for a living?? have date nights? I don't understand. What sources? Name names please
Doctors regarding putting your children first and your marriage last (or at least the lowest priority for 18 years).
I'm sorry, I am not trying to be rude here, but what kind of Doctors??
There are many books on this.
You're not making any sense. You started out saying that you've been told by "people who do this for a living", specifically by "doctors" and now you're saying there are books on it. I'm just trying to understand where this is coming from?
You can just google putting marriage first before children.
Message edited 6/7/2011 9:43:59 PM.
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HeathKernandez
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
huh? People who do WHAT for a living?? have date nights? I don't understand. What sources? Name names please
Doctors regarding putting your children first and your marriage last (or at least the lowest priority for 18 years).
I'm sorry, I am not trying to be rude here, but what kind of Doctors??
There are many books on this.
You're not making any sense. You started out saying that you've been told by "people who do this for a living", specifically by "doctors" and now you're saying there are books on it. I'm just trying to understand where this is coming from?
You can just google ptting marriage first before children.
please stop replying. please... for the love of ME.
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pnbplus1
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
huh? People who do WHAT for a living?? have date nights? I don't understand. What sources? Name names please
Doctors regarding putting your children first and your marriage last (or at least the lowest priority for 18 years).
I'm sorry, I am not trying to be rude here, but what kind of Doctors??
There are many books on this.
Ok, but you were asked what doctors. Funny because I am a clinical psychologist and as such a doctor (one of those doctors trained to comment on an issue such as this) and I can't say that I have counseled my patients to go out and leave their children with a babysitter. If anything the hierarchy once you have children changes to become children 1st, your marriage 2nd, and then the rest to follow. Prior to children the marriage is always 1st, then all other relationships follow.
And, putting your children 1st does not equate to putting your marriage last. Marriage is 2nd, unless of course you live in a vacuum and have no other relationships. In that case you'd actually be right, marriage would be last.
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saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
At least once a month. We go to concerts, dinner, whathaveyou. My mom or mil watches our kids. But i see noting wrong with using non-family babysitters. Or going out more then once a month. Or just hanging out at home, any time together is better then not at all. Do what works for you, not LIF.
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by saraH
Do what works for you, not LIF.
ITA!!!
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| Posted 6/7/11 9:47 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by pnbplus1
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
huh? People who do WHAT for a living?? have date nights? I don't understand. What sources? Name names please
Doctors regarding putting your children first and your marriage last (or at least the lowest priority for 18 years).
I'm sorry, I am not trying to be rude here, but what kind of Doctors??
There are many books on this.
Ok, but you were asked what doctors. Funny because I am a clinical psychologist and as such a doctor (one of those doctors trained to comment on an issue such as this) and I can't say that I have counseled my patients to go out and leave their children with a babysitter. If anything the hierarchy once you have children changes to become children 1st, your marriage 2nd, and then the rest to follow. Prior to children the marriage is always 1st, then all other relationships follow.
And, putting your children 1st does not equate to putting your marriage last. Marriage is 2nd, unless of course you live in a vacuum and have no other relationships. In that case you'd actually be right, marriage would be last.
Again, I have heard many times the order should be:
Yourself
Your spouse
Your children
Here is one explanation:
http://www.cafemom.com/group/416/forums/read/13560868/What_it_means_to_put_yourself_your_marriage_first
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Porrruss
Nya nya nya
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
What about:
1.LIF
2.FB
3.DH
4.kids
5.dog
The poor effing dog always loses.
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| Posted 6/7/11 9:56 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by pnbplus1
I can't say that I have counseled my patients to go out and leave their children with a babysitter. If anything the hierarchy once you have children changes to become children 1st, your marriage 2nd, and then the rest to follow. Prior to children the marriage is always 1st, then all other relationships follow.
And, putting your children 1st does not equate to putting your marriage last. Marriage is 2nd, unless of course you live in a vacuum and have no other relationships. In that case you'd actually be right, marriage would be last.
What excellent points. ITA.
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BellaRock
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by Porrruss
What about:
1.LIF
2.FB
3.DH
4.kids
5.dog
The poor effing dog always loses.
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| Posted 6/7/11 10:06 PM |
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BellaRock
I am all the Me I will ever Be
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by MamaLeen
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MamaLeen
Wow the BADGERING on this thread is so obnoxious. Who cares what anyone else does?!
People who have to repeat over and over how great/long/perfect their marriage is make me wonder what the real story is. If you are secure in your marriage that is great but different strokes for different folks. Why is it so hard to comprehend that not everyone is like "you"??
I assume you are speaking about me. Again, I understand others are not like me and are different.
I simply am stating what I feel and what I have heard from other sources (people who do this for a living).
Its not about what you are saying, it is the badgering. When you feel passionate about a specific thread you make yourself the "captain" of that POV. Every time someone posts, one of two things happen. If they agree with you, you applause and tell them how right they are!! If they disagree, you argue until you are blue in the face.
You do this until the BITTER END of the thread. It is exhausting. There comes a time when I think you should agree to disagree and move on. Instead you choose to attack the opposing POV trying to get everyone to agree with you.
I think by now MOST PEOPLE GET IT!! WE HEAR YOU!!! ENOUGH!
Can I just declare right now that I love you?
Wanna leave our kids with sitters and go on a date night?
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| Posted 6/7/11 10:08 PM |
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katiebug
I'll love you for always
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
In the Catholic church you are taught, Faith, Marriage, Children, in that priority. Hazel might be coming off a bit strong but she is not totally out of left field. I have been told the same by professionals as well. I personally put my marriage first.
Anyhow stepping out of this, because I don't care at all if people go out or not. I know what works for me and my family.
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monkeybride
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
I haven't read through all of this but DH and I don't go out often enough and our marriage suffers for it. It's not for lack of wanting to. It's often time and babysitting but we just started using a teenage babysitter so that we can get out more often w/o children.
My therapist doesn't tell me to put my children first. How can you not put your marriage first and expect it to last? 
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PreshusSmurf
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by BellaRock
Posted by Porrruss
What about:
1.LIF
2.FB
3.DH
4.kids
5.dog
The poor effing dog always loses.
At least the dog made the list.
The cat didn't even make the list!!!
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| Posted 6/7/11 10:26 PM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by pnbplus1
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
huh? People who do WHAT for a living?? have date nights? I don't understand. What sources? Name names please
Doctors regarding putting your children first and your marriage last (or at least the lowest priority for 18 years).
I'm sorry, I am not trying to be rude here, but what kind of Doctors??
There are many books on this.
Ok, but you were asked what doctors. Funny because I am a clinical psychologist and as such a doctor (one of those doctors trained to comment on an issue such as this) and I can't say that I have counseled my patients to go out and leave their children with a babysitter. If anything the hierarchy once you have children changes to become children 1st, your marriage 2nd, and then the rest to follow. Prior to children the marriage is always 1st, then all other relationships follow.
And, putting your children 1st does not equate to putting your marriage last. Marriage is 2nd, unless of course you live in a vacuum and have no other relationships. In that case you'd actually be right, marriage would be last.
Thank you. I'm a licensed Mental Health Counselor and was looking for a more definitive answer other than google it. I was asking YOU Hazel where YOU specifically had heard this and what you were referring to. I am quite aware that there are books out there supporting your argument. I'm sure there are just as many supporting the opposing view. There are books supporting most points of view out there...doesn't mean I agree with them all. You are out here brow beating the masses to agree with you, citing "sources" and "doctors" but when called out on it, you direct me to google "books". Just wanted you to see how ridiculous you're being.
Sorry HK...my last post, sorry. 
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LittleBlueBug
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
NEVER wasn't a choice on your poll.
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KNic19
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
We go once a month, minimum. My parents come over and kick us out of the house 
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