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hazeleyes33
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by 2PreciousBlessings
No need to argue ladies....Do what is best for you and your family. If you are happy and content with your situation then no need to be defensive or having to explain yourself to anyone.
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hazeleyes33
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
I ALSO think the age of the children make a difference on how often you go out (especially if you don't have a regular sitter lined up).
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| Posted 6/7/11 2:26 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Wow - I had no idea there was drama on here when I responded.
DH and I like to go out to dinner every other week or so but we will also have date nights at home. Order Chinese and sit outside. Things like that. I don't think you need to go out to have a date night.
But, I do think it's great for any marriage to get out. My parents love to babysit for us. I almost always put the kids to bed first so my parents relax and watch a movie, and the boys don't even know we're gone. Win win for everyone.
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| Posted 6/7/11 2:33 PM |
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Bella01
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
I don't leave my DD unless we are invited to a function where she is not invited. Otherwise, we will take my DD everywhere we go. My date with my DH is every night is in front of the TV when DD goes to sleep! 
Message edited 6/7/2011 4:51:19 PM.
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| Posted 6/7/11 2:40 PM |
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HeyJude
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Message edited 6/4/2012 10:30:26 AM.
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| Posted 6/7/11 2:48 PM |
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Ophelia
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remember, when Gulliver traveled....
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by 2PreciousBlessings
No need to argue ladies....Do what is best for you and your family. If you are happy and content with your situation then no need to be defensive or having to explain yourself to anyone.
normally I would agree with you but sometimes you it's impossible.
if there was no need to argue, people wouldn't have been questioning the motives and actions of other families in the first place...then ITA'ing and with those that ITA with them....then  with anyone who doesn't.
speaking from my experience on this thread, of course.
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| Posted 6/7/11 2:56 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
I agree with 2preciousblessings but Hazel if you are clapping about not arguing, I'm not sure why you keep responding to people that don't agree with you?? 
& for the record I've actually agreed with a lot of things you said but I don't care what others do, so I'm not sure why we have to keep going in circles. Goobster does it her way, you do it yours.
This post is getting silly.
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| Posted 6/7/11 2:57 PM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
That is why I am saying that we all do not need to argue...live and let live. Do what's best for us and our families. No need to explain ourselves, getting defensive, or questioning other people choices as long as we are happy with our choices.
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| Posted 6/7/11 3:00 PM |
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cjik
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Okay, I'm replying late and I haven't seen the comments, but I can guess what the gist of them is/was.
Anyway, DH and I get out for a date night about every 2-3 months. We pay a babysitter, so this is why we don't do it more often.
Later this month, we are both taking a week off. We have no vacation plans, but will do some day trips with DS. That said, we are also sending him to daycare 2 days that week so we have a day to do stuff and a day alone together. So we are THOSE parents.
Honestly, I think you need to do what works for you as a couple and for your family. There are parents who spend very little time with their kids, and there are some who could probably use a break.
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| Posted 6/7/11 3:44 PM |
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Ophelia
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remember, when Gulliver traveled....
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by cjik
Okay, I'm replying late and I haven't seen the comments, but I can guess what the gist of them is/was.
Anyway, DH and I get out for a date night about every 2-3 months. We pay a babysitter, so this is why we don't do it more often.
Later this month, we are both taking a week off. We have no vacation plans, but will do some day trips with DS. That said, we are also sending him to daycare 2 days that week so we have a day to do stuff and a day alone together. So we are THOSE parents.
Honestly, I think you need to do what works for you as a couple and for your family. There are parents who spend very little time with their kids, and there are some who could probably use a break.
don't worry  today the people who DON'T leave their kids are getting their arses handed to them, not those who do.
you aren't "those" parents....you are HEALTHY.  
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| Posted 6/7/11 3:46 PM |
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Linda1003
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by cjik
Okay, I'm replying late and I haven't seen the comments, but I can guess what the gist of them is/was.
Anyway, DH and I get out for a date night about every 2-3 months. We pay a babysitter, so this is why we don't do it more often.
Later this month, we are both taking a week off. We have no vacation plans, but will do some day trips with DS. That said, we are also sending him to daycare 2 days that week so we have a day to do stuff and a day alone together. So we are THOSE parents.
Honestly, I think you need to do what works for you as a couple and for your family. There are parents who spend very little time with their kids, and there are some who could probably use a break.
don't worry today the people who DON'T leave their kids are getting their arses handed to them, not those who do.
you aren't "those" parents....you are HEALTHY.
AND THE WIND BLOWS THE OTHER WAY TODAY!! incredible!!!
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| Posted 6/7/11 3:49 PM |
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codybear
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
usually about twice a month, sometimes less. More in the winter because my parents live out near us those 6 months. The other 6 months our nanny will watch her if we go out. We also try to get away at least one or weekend, sometimes two, a year just us.
Time away makes me a better wife and mother.
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| Posted 6/7/11 4:07 PM |
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jacksmom09
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Honestly, we don't get out that much.. 
I try and get a sitter for at least 1x a month.. so, since DS has been born, maybe 3-4 times (he will be two) we also live OOS from family and friends, so sometimes it's tough.
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| Posted 6/7/11 4:10 PM |
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MrsRitaB
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by HeathKernandez
just want to add... it is VERY important to DATE YOUR SPOUSE...
Many marriages fall apart when the kids are "grown & gone" because couples do not take the time out to DATE each other...
could not agree more
dh and i plan to go out as much as possible - as money would allow
we have a ginormous family and will have many babysitters. I have no problem leaving DD to go out with dh
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| Posted 6/7/11 4:15 PM |
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cjik
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by cjik
Okay, I'm replying late and I haven't seen the comments, but I can guess what the gist of them is/was.
Anyway, DH and I get out for a date night about every 2-3 months. We pay a babysitter, so this is why we don't do it more often.
Later this month, we are both taking a week off. We have no vacation plans, but will do some day trips with DS. That said, we are also sending him to daycare 2 days that week so we have a day to do stuff and a day alone together. So we are THOSE parents.
Honestly, I think you need to do what works for you as a couple and for your family. There are parents who spend very little time with their kids, and there are some who could probably use a break.
don't worry today the people who DON'T leave their kids are getting their arses handed to them, not those who do.
you aren't "those" parents....you are HEALTHY.
Too funny! I just read over some of the posts, and yes, the wind did shift this time.
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| Posted 6/7/11 4:18 PM |
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pickles16
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by Goobster
See that's why we all differ and can't compare. I personally don't believe in the it takes a village to raise a child and would never want that for my child, as IMO she is my responsibility and no one else's (including grandparents). That's where all of our different mindsets come from on how we answer this OP.
ITA!! But even though my family and dh family believe in it takes a village to raise child....it does not mean that we do not think our kids are OUR Responsibilities...It means that we all help each other out when it is necessary and if any of the kids are misbehaving we also scolds them as well. No one in our families walks away from their responsibilities we just rally together AS family in everything we do.
I see what you are saying and that's great to have a family like that. But I know a few people who had children and were probably NOT ready, but expect their parents to pick up the slack and help raise the child. I always joke with DH and say they want a village to raise their DC. It's like they want the benefits of having a child but also want everything else too (playtime, date time, me time, etc). If they want to get a babysitter, then fine, more power to them. But to put that on family/parents/esp older parents is simply unfair. Not talking about you but the few i know in my life...
To me, I didn't expect to have my cake and eat it too when I had my DC. I expected to make many sacrifices and to me, a luxury like a dinner/drink/date night is one of them. Again thats just me.
THIS, while we are ppl that tend to like to go out once in a while without DD, we did basically EVERYTHING we wanted to do and experience before DD. Both sets of parents work and work long hours and never expected them to be there for us and raise our kids...my grandmother was older and helped raise me but both our sets of parents are relatively young and while they help out TREMENDOUSLY I don't expect them to...DH is also anal and doesn't want to leave DD with a babysitter We used to go out Friday-Sunday night before DD, I think we've gone out one or two Saturday nights in the past month or so....but I knew this going in to parenting that sacrafices had to be made...but on the other hand I do think it's beneficial to go out once in a blue moon without the kids. I feel like our relationship needs it from time to time!
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| Posted 6/7/11 4:36 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by pickles16
Posted by Goobster
See that's why we all differ and can't compare. I personally don't believe in the it takes a village to raise a child and would never want that for my child, as IMO she is my responsibility and no one else's (including grandparents). That's where all of our different mindsets come from on how we answer this OP.
ITA!! But even though my family and dh family believe in it takes a village to raise child....it does not mean that we do not think our kids are OUR Responsibilities...It means that we all help each other out when it is necessary and if any of the kids are misbehaving we also scolds them as well. No one in our families walks away from their responsibilities we just rally together AS family in everything we do.
I see what you are saying and that's great to have a family like that. But I know a few people who had children and were probably NOT ready, but expect their parents to pick up the slack and help raise the child. I always joke with DH and say they want a village to raise their DC. It's like they want the benefits of having a child but also want everything else too (playtime, date time, me time, etc). If they want to get a babysitter, then fine, more power to them. But to put that on family/parents/esp older parents is simply unfair. Not talking about you but the few i know in my life...
To me, I didn't expect to have my cake and eat it too when I had my DC. I expected to make many sacrifices and to me, a luxury like a dinner/drink/date night is one of them. Again thats just me.
THIS, while we are ppl that tend to like to go out once in a while without DD, we did basically EVERYTHING we wanted to do and experience before DD. Both sets of parents work and work long hours and never expected them to be there for us and raise our kids...my grandmother was older and helped raise me but both our sets of parents are relatively young and while they help out TREMENDOUSLY I don't expect them to...DH is also anal and doesn't want to leave DD with a babysitter We used to go out Friday-Sunday night before DD, I think we've gone out one or two Saturday nights in the past month or so....but I knew this going in to parenting that sacrafices had to be made...but on the other hand I do think it's beneficial to go out once in a blue moon without the kids. I feel like our relationship needs it from time to time!
Funny as I believe that parents need time to go out alone BUT I think we have gone out LESS than most people who say they stay home most of the time with their kids-lol!!
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| Posted 6/7/11 4:44 PM |
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twinkletoes807
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
My DH and I work opposite schedules so we only see each other on weekends. Then on weekends, we are running around with our hair on fire. So, we would love to get out more often with just the two of us but the reality is that we have a date night once every 3-4 months. If we're lucky. And in total, we have 5 kids. So, I would do a date night as much as possible if you can, and not feel one ounce of guilt! You and DH need this time together- alone! 
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| Posted 6/7/11 4:50 PM |
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MamaLeen
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Wow the BADGERING on this thread is so obnoxious. Who cares what anyone else does?!
People who have to repeat over and over how great/long/perfect their marriage is make me wonder what the real story is. If you are secure in your marriage that is great but different strokes for different folks. Why is it so hard to comprehend that not everyone is like "you"??
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| Posted 6/7/11 5:04 PM |
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chikita315
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
The term date night, do I actually have to go out with MY dh?
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| Posted 6/7/11 5:15 PM |
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maymama
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by chikita315
The term date night, do I actually have to go out with MY dh?
i like how you think 
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| Posted 6/7/11 5:19 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by MamaLeen
Wow the BADGERING on this thread is so obnoxious. Who cares what anyone else does?!
People who have to repeat over and over how great/long/perfect their marriage is make me wonder what the real story is. If you are secure in your marriage that is great but different strokes for different folks. Why is it so hard to comprehend that not everyone is like "you"??
I assume you are speaking about me. Again, I understand others are not like me and are different.
I simply am stating what I feel and what I have heard from other sources (people who do this for a living).
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| Posted 6/7/11 8:15 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
I have great IL's so we go out every weekend!
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| Posted 6/7/11 8:33 PM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MamaLeen
Wow the BADGERING on this thread is so obnoxious. Who cares what anyone else does?!
People who have to repeat over and over how great/long/perfect their marriage is make me wonder what the real story is. If you are secure in your marriage that is great but different strokes for different folks. Why is it so hard to comprehend that not everyone is like "you"??
I assume you are speaking about me. Again, I understand others are not like me and are different.
I simply am stating what I feel and what I have heard from other sources (people who do this for a living).
huh? People who do WHAT for a living?? have date nights? I don't understand. What sources? Name names please
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| Posted 6/7/11 8:58 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: How often do you & DH go out?
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by MamaLeen
Wow the BADGERING on this thread is so obnoxious. Who cares what anyone else does?!
People who have to repeat over and over how great/long/perfect their marriage is make me wonder what the real story is. If you are secure in your marriage that is great but different strokes for different folks. Why is it so hard to comprehend that not everyone is like "you"??
I assume you are speaking about me. Again, I understand others are not like me and are different.
I simply am stating what I feel and what I have heard from other sources (people who do this for a living).
huh? People who do WHAT for a living?? have date nights? I don't understand. What sources? Name names please
Doctors regarding putting your children first and your marriage last (or at least the lowest priority for 18 years).
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