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Bridex100
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
I was out with my gfs tonight and saw my friend's husband out with another woman. It looked like they were on a date. Before I was married with kids, I had dinner with guy friends solo all the time. After I got married and had kids, I never went out one on one. Sure, there are group work functions and occasional work lunches but I never went out solo to dinner at 8-9pm.
Just curious how often do you or your spouse go out to dinner solo with the opposite sex?
I don't plan on saying anything to the friend since she is a newer friend. It could be his sister, old college buddy..who knows.
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ANewDayHasCome
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Umm never
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:31 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
My dh has never been out with another woman alone for dinner. I would have no problem with him going with a group of colleagues or friends for dinner, or drinks, but alone with a woman, at would give me pause.
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:32 PM |
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Lucky09
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Never dinner, but I often have lunch with my boss, who is male.
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:33 PM |
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drpepper318
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Never (except with my brother). Lunch occasionally with a male coworker.
DH never either.
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:37 PM |
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ElizaRags35
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Only with my dad lol. DH never as far as I know unless he goes to lunch with his female coworker.
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:40 PM |
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LuckyStar
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
I go out with 2 male friends in particular all the time. They're both gay so obviously not of any concern to DH!
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:40 PM |
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Never.
Would never happen on either end.
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:44 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by drpepper318
Never (except with my brother). Lunch occasionally with a male coworker.
DH never either.
Yes, the only person I go out with is my brother too. I forgot about him.
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:46 PM |
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blu6385
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
I don't but simply because I don't have any guy friends in which I would go out with and DH doesn't really have any girl friends he would. well there is at least one she was in our wedding and if he went out with just her I wouldn't care
Honestly though if I did have a good guy friend that I would want to go out with dinner with I would expect DH to be ok with it and vice versa.
I never understood why this would be an unacceptable action unless you do not trust your SO.
I know I have heard it gives them unnecessary opportunity but I cant buy into this either if you SO is going to cheat they are going to cheat. them going or not going out to dinner with a friend of the opposite sex isn't going to change that.
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:48 PM |
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KarenK122
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
For a work event, I think we both have but never as a "lets just hang out". It could have been a relative though. I remember going out with my dad once when I was in my early twenties and everyone was looking at us like we were on a date lol.
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:48 PM |
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bunnyluck
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
I don't see the big deal. If youre being appropriate who cares? I just had dinner with my boss. My DH and I both grab lunch with friends sometimes. I had plans to meet a college friend for dinner yesterday as we were both away on business in the same city at the same hotel.
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| Posted 9/16/15 11:55 PM |
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Message edited 9/17/2015 12:05:23 AM.
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| Posted 9/17/15 12:02 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by EatingMyVeggies
Posted by blu6385
I don't but simply because I don't have any guy friends in which I would go out with and DH doesn't really have any girl friends he would. well there is at least one she was in our wedding and if he went out with just her I wouldn't care
Honestly though if I did have a good guy friend that I would want to go out with dinner with I would expect DH to be ok with it and vice versa.
I never understood why this would be an unacceptable action unless you do not trust your SO.
I know I have heard it gives them unnecessary opportunity but I cant buy into this either if you SO is going to cheat they are going to cheat. them going or not going out to dinner with a friend of the opposite sex isn't going to change that.
I am jaded because I think one person always must have a little something for their friend. Time is valuable these days, it's a luxury..and to spend it alone with someone other than your partner gives me pause.
I knew a guy who had a girlfriend. She was cool with him going out with girls as friends. He would go to movies, dinner, with his friend. He never cheated on his gf. But they eventually broke up (not on same page about things) and guess who his new gf is now? His forner "friend." I'm sure he or she (or both) had it cross their minds when they were just hanging out alone as friends.
I simply don't think it's healthy for a relationship most of the time. I can't speak for all, of course. It wouldn't bode well with mine.
Does it happen all the time? Does it mean someone always has a hankering for someone else? No. But I think it happens a lot. Or it puts you in a situation where you start to wonder.
I'm glad my SO is similar to me and neither of us would be comfy with that. We rather spend our down time together - not out to dinner with a "friend."
My views have changed over time on many things and I think this is one. I've become more old school in my
Old age. :)
But you do what works for you & your relationship.
i get every one has a comfort level but for me I still think it boils down to trust; if you trust them there should be nothing uncomfortable about it.
But I know for others they will say it really isn't about trust.
Also I go out with friends quite often (granted they are all girls) and DH will do things like fishing which he loves by himself which I think is great for our relationship.
But like you said what works for one relationship will not work for others!
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| Posted 9/17/15 12:11 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by bunnyluck
I don't see the big deal. If youre being appropriate who cares? I just had dinner with my boss. My DH and I both grab lunch with friends sometimes. I had plans to meet a college friend for dinner yesterday as we were both away on business in the same city at the same hotel.
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| Posted 9/17/15 12:11 AM |
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MrsG823
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
I have a few male friends that I go out with solo several times a year--they have been friends for many years and DH doesn't care.
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| Posted 9/17/15 12:35 AM |
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LiveItUp
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Never, but I don't have any close male friends.
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| Posted 9/17/15 4:00 AM |
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islandersgirl74
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Never for either of us.
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| Posted 9/17/15 5:50 AM |
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by islandersgirl74
Never for either of us.
same
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| Posted 9/17/15 6:13 AM |
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stinger
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Never. I don't have guy friends and SO doesn't have girl friends. If we did I think both of us would invite the other. His coworker asked him out to dinner because she was moving and leaving the company. I didn't like it and he didn't go!
As for the OP it could have been his sister or cousin and it could have been a gay woman!
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| Posted 9/17/15 6:40 AM |
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stinger
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by blu6385
Posted by bunnyluck
I don't see the big deal. If youre being appropriate who cares? I just had dinner with my boss. My DH and I both grab lunch with friends sometimes. I had plans to meet a college friend for dinner yesterday as we were both away on business in the same city at the same hotel.
The big deal to me is their could be attraction and you don't know. I think it's best to avoid putting ourselves in situations that could turn into something.
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| Posted 9/17/15 6:41 AM |
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evrythng4areason
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Never
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| Posted 9/17/15 7:11 AM |
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sunnyplus3
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
My business partner is male. He's about 15 years older than me. We are both very happily married.
We travel alone together and eat dinner out together at least twice a month.
I'm sure if we saw someone that knew one of our spouses they could be suspicious that we were up to something.
My female cousin worked for me DH for a while, they would go out for lunch alone all the time.
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| Posted 9/17/15 7:31 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Never, ever.
ETA - If either of us have the ability to get away from the kids and have dinner out the LAST thing we'd want is to have dinner with anyone else other than each other. Kid free time is a very valuable thing these days, I wouldn't waste that with someone else when I could have alone time with my DH. 
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| Posted 9/17/15 7:46 AM |
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StaceyWill
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Umm never
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