Re: How often, if ever, do you stay overnight away from the kids?

Re: How often, if ever, do you stay overnight away from the kids?

I haven't yet, DD is 5 months, but I have a bachelorette upstate in March for a spa weekend and another in August for a weekend in New Orleans and I will be attending both.

I will miss DD but looking foward to some girl time like the old days lol

Re: How often, if ever, do you stay overnight away from the kids?

My parents take James about one weekend a month. We love it, they love it and he loves it. It's a win-win all around.

In the next few weeks, we have some things going on, so he'll be sleeping out a little more than normal - it's beyond our control. Tomorrow night, next Friday night, and the weekend of the 20th for the whole weekend.

Re: How often, if ever, do you stay overnight away from the kids?

Re: How often, if ever, do you stay overnight away from the kids?

Re: How often, if ever, do you stay overnight away from the kids?

DS is almost 22 months and I haven't spent a night away from him yet. Nothing has ever come up where I had to leave him at home with DH for the night or with anyone else. We have gone out a number of times once he's in bed or right before his bedtime, but my mom or MIL have watched him for us and we are back in a few hours.

I'm guessing the first time I'll spend a night away from him (or rather a couple/few nights away) is when I give birth to his baby sister this Spring.

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DD's is just shy of a year and I've left her twice. Once for wedding—Dh and I both went and left DD with my parents. She was 7 months. And the second time, I went to visit a friend out of state with my girlfriends. My best friends are all spread out, so a girl's night usually requires an overnight. DH took care of DD and was all for me going. He thought I could use the break. I don't mind the occasional overnight because DH is very capable of watching DD and our parents are so excited for sleepovers and I know she's in good hands.

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I never have but I would if there was something that I needed/wanted to do for a friend's wedding.

You are leaving them with their dad.

Go for it!

Re: How often, if ever, do you stay overnight away from the kids?

My kids are only 4 months old, and I can totally relate to "missing the old me" I have gone thru major changes since their conception, including becoming a SAHM - HARD! and so so different from my old life But I get anxiety leaving them, even with DH They are still so little, and I think our month in the NICU changed me forever and has made me super overprotective. Plus, we do not have anyone we feel comfortable leaving them with, its not exactly like people are jumping to take care of infant twins!!!

One of my good friends just got engaged and I will be in the wedding. She has gone to 6 of our groups bachelorette parties, including mine. All were away, Miami, Vegas, LA, so no matter where she picks, I must go. I WILL NOT be "that girl" and say I can't. I will go, and DH will watch the boys. I know it will be good for me, but
Im sure I will be popping some xanax

Go, enjoy, im sure your DH will do just fine! You survive when he has to go away!!

Re: How often, if ever, do you stay overnight away from the kids?

Ds is 2 and we have done 2 over night trips. One was for a wedding and one went to AC for the night.

We are actually going next weekend on a over night getaway.


The 2 times we left him I felt very guilty.

Re: How often, if ever, do you stay overnight away from the kids?

All the time?!

Feels like it.

At 7m I left her so I could interview in Texas
By 1yr we left her at my aunts for weekends (kinda never stopped that train really)
At 2yrs I went to Dallas for work for nearly a week
At 3yrs it was Chicago again for a week.
Most likely in the Spring it will be Nashville.

Yes, its work, but I have friends just about everywhere so its never *JUST* work. I met friends in Dallas for drinks and dinner. Got together with one in Chicago then took a person I met there out with my coworker for the whole trip, wining an dining – 3 gals taking the town. I know people in Nashville, too and plan to get together with them in the Spring.

Hubby handles it well. He’s even got the pigtail thing down. He’s such a trooper. I call nightly and talk to my ‘best friend’ and its about a 20min call then I go out to dinner or whatever. I always make time to check in and probably once or twice in the day I’ll ask how her morning or night went to my husband.

I don’t have ‘gal’ pals to hang out with like that. But I do have guy pals which makes things a little more complicated. Not sure the world in general is politically correct enough to accept a wife/mother leaving her child behind to go hang out with some old college buddies in Dallas for a weekend. Tho, I sure wish it wasn’t such a big deal. Ha!



ETA: as far as BOTH of us leaving her. We would NEVER leave her in another city. Ever (to date). She stays with my aunt for the summer (she’s home on weekends) she’s actually at my aunt’s now since school is out and home on weekends. But as soon as she’s out that door, we feel guilty. The house is so quiet. I miss her.

Yes, we go and see a movie or have dinner things we can’t do when she’s with us. We run errands and clean up the house. Basically we keep busy as heck because if I’m just sitting around bored the guilt is unbearable. Yes, I’ll sit and play video games too but I’m not a 10 hour marathon kind of a gal. Since most games I play or M for Mature and usually involve blood and violence if not almost ALL have corpses of some type or decay (zombies or otherwise) Jim prefers I play when she’s not around or asleep.

But I’m too much of a wuss to actually have him and I LEAVE her in a town while we traveled. Never gonna happen. I have a fear of us dying while we’re gone or her getting hurt and we can’t get to her in time. Nope. Its just not worth it to me. My brain plays too many scenarios. Besides we LOVE to travel but there’s no where I can go that I wouldn’t want her to come with me and experience. If I had more warning, I’d have taken them with me to Chicago. I am already hoping to take them to Nashville.

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Re: How often, if ever, do you stay overnight away from the kids?

DD is 19 months and I have gone on two business trips without her and one where she and DH came with me. DH and I went to Fire Island for one night alone this summer and well...now she's going to be a big sister! lol.

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At this point, I'm not ready to leave her overnight. She is 3 1/2 months.

I am going to my BF's bacherolette party for the weekend in the Hamptons in May and that will probably be the first time I leave her overnight. I know my husband will be fine with her, I just don't want to go overnight anywhere without her! I'm definitely not the norm though.

If you and DH are fine with it, I'd go to both events.

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DS#1 is 3 and the only nights I have spent away were when I was in the hospital recovering from a c-section with DS#2. All of our vactions we always take with the kids so we have yet to get away just DH and I, so we do see this happening in the near future