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ginapie08
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Gina
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How to deal with unsolicited "advice"??
I'm 36 weeks pregnant and i've already had it with all of the unsolicited advice coming from my parents and in-laws.
For example, today my mother and mother in law were helping me organize the baby's room and it came up that I wouldn't be using bumpers because of the risk of SIDS. They acted like I was crazy for doing that and went on to say that they didn't do that with their children and any baby that died like that was probably killed by their parents and didn't die on their own 
I've just had enough with the whole know it all attitude that i'm getting from certain people (some including people that are my age and don't even have children and aren't around babies!) and I would love to know how all of you deal with this...it's really frustrating 
ETA: And what really frustrated me about this advice is that it's all stupid and is based on pure ignorance because they truly don't know what's involved and what should be avoided when raising a baby in this day and age. If it was useful advice i'd probably be a bit more open.
Message edited 4/23/2010 9:49:43 PM.
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Arieschick29
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Re: How to deal with unsolicited "advice"??
I took it with a grain of salt and went with my gut on what was right for myself, DH and our baby.
Everyone has something to say- let them say it and be done with it- I know its easier said than done when you are pregnant, hormonal, and huge but trust your instincts! 
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| Posted 4/23/10 10:13 PM |
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ginapie08
LIF Infant
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Gina
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Re: How to deal with unsolicited "advice"??
Posted by Arieschick29
I took it with a grain of salt and went with my gut on what was right for myself, DH and our baby.
Everyone has something to say- let them say it and be done with it- I know its easier said than done when you are pregnant, hormonal, and huge but trust your instincts!
Yeah, I think the hormones are definitely making it worse! Usually I could just brush things like that off but now I feel like biting someone's head off, lol
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| Posted 4/23/10 10:20 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Leslie
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Re: How to deal with unsolicited "advice"??
I kicked them.
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| Posted 4/23/10 11:22 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: How to deal with unsolicited "advice"??
I said thanks and then promptly ignored them. As for moms, MILS, and grandmas, I said something like oh you know those experts, they come up with something new every day. What once was good is now bad and vice versa. Won't they ever make up their minds. I then changed the subject and did what I wanted to do. HTH And if it didn't Leslie's advice to kick them works well too.
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| Posted 4/23/10 11:38 PM |
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LuvmyShihTzu
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Re: How to deal with unsolicited "advice"??
I just say "Uh huh" and then when they are done forget what they said lol Just ignore it or try to ignore it...everyone really means well, whether they come off as a know-it-all, pushy or genuinely concerned. That's how I feel at least.
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| Posted 4/24/10 8:18 AM |
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azoodie
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Re: How to deal with unsolicited "advice"??
Posted by LuvmyShihTzu
Just ignore it or try to ignore it...everyone really means well, whether they come off as a know-it-all, pushy or genuinely concerned. That's how I feel at least.
Totally.
I listen to everything anyone has to say to me. Sometimes I actually get something out of it believe it or not I think it's hard to take in advice or information when the baby isn't even here yet. I am sure once this LO arrives I will ask a ton of questions and need a lot of advice.
In the end everyone just really means well. Just be polite. It's not worth the argument or the negative energy.
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| Posted 4/24/10 9:07 AM |
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julz33
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julz
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Re: How to deal with unsolicited "advice"??
Ignore them and vent on here!
And its going to get a lot worse once the baby is here! 
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| Posted 4/24/10 9:13 AM |
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ginapie08
LIF Infant
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Gina
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Re: How to deal with unsolicited "advice"??
Posted by julz33
Ignore them and vent on here!
And its going to get a lot worse once the baby is here!
Ugggh
Thanks for all of the advice...at least I know i'm not alone, lol
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| Posted 4/24/10 11:02 AM |
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TnJ2007
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Tricia
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Re: How to deal with unsolicited "advice"??
Posted by Goldi0218
I kicked them.
 thats exactly what i was goin to say!!
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