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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
Posted by CSK
The amount they charge extra if its 1 kid isn't that large.
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Just addressing this, I am having my son's party this weekend and each kid over my max is $45. So yeah. No.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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I would ask her if the siblings name was on the invitation??
You would seriously do this????
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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I would just say sorry, the place allows for only 15 guests and we are at the limit.
Yes, it doesn't need to be more complicated than this.
Yup, and I might also say that she is welcome to drop the invited child off if she has childcare issues. (of course if you are okay with that)
I think this is a good idea. Where is the party?
Completely agree.
When one of my children is invited to a party, if I don’t have anyone to watch my other child, I simply decline the invitation and my invited child doesn’t go. I never ask to bring my 2nd child.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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I would ask her if the siblings name was on the invitation??
You would seriously do this????
I don't think anyone would have the stones to do this in real life to be honest.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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I would ask her if the siblings name was on the invitation??
You would seriously do this????
The topic was how to nicely say no - so I do not think OP would take this advice.
I can't imagine anyone being so rude!
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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I would ask her if the siblings name was on the invitation??
You would seriously do this????
The topic was how to nicely say no - so I do not think OP would take this advice.
I can't imagine anyone being so rude!
I definitely wouldn't lol. I dont think the poster who suggested it would either-- I'm guessing she was trying to make a point that it was rude of the person to ask in the first place.
I told the parent that we were at the maximum for our package and id be happy to have the child dropped off if they feel comfortable. I feel badly but I have never even spoke to the parents - if it was someone I was friendly with that might be a different story. But I cut off friends in order to keep to our package size so allowing siblings to attend doesnt sit too well with me - as all these costs just add up.
I really agree with those who posted that its unfair to make the invitee's problem now the host's problem. That is right on point.
Thanks for everyones insight!
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
Posted by Katareen
What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
This is why I only had one kid to avoid this. j/k 
Like other said - just say you are at max capacity for your party. Then you put it back on her to decline or see if she can find childcare.
How old is your child? Trying to guess of maybe the kid is even too old for the party and the mom just wants to bring them but they wont participate or even want to.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
Posted by Sash
This is why I only had one kid to avoid this. j/k
Like other said - just say you are at max capacity for your party. Then you put it back on her to decline or see if she can find childcare.
How old is your child? Trying to guess of maybe the kid is even too old for the party and the mom just wants to bring them but they wont participate or even want to.
I used to have a party every year ! My husband on the other hand i think never had one . My family loves parties lol
Thanks- I had updated in a previous post. I told the parent we were at our package limit so as you said its up to them now to decide what to do.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
Posted by NervousNell
I would say something like- "oh, i'm so sorry but we are at the max limit that the place can accommodate for guests. If you need to bring the older sibling, they will not be able to participate."
So if they want to bring the older child, they will have to have them sit there with an ipad or a book or something. I have had people do that. The older kid didn't participate in the party
Agree with this. Then it's their call on what they want to do.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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Don’t go into detail, just say I’m so sorry we are at the max number of kids.
This is why I hate birthday parties. I don’t understand the mentality of guests making their problem the hosts problem. If you don’t have childcare you decline or find someone to take your kid, or drop off. Asking if you can bring a sibling just throws the problem into someone else’s lap. If I were you I would just say fine bring the kid, but I would be annoyed, not about the money, about the fact that it has to be my issue to solve.
I agree. And as they get older it’s just not fair for the birthday child or the guest that is constantly forced to drag along their younger sibling. Kids should be able to do their own thing with their own friends once in a while.
It’s also not a terrible thing to teach your kids that this party is for your sister/brother’s friend and you will go to other parties for your friends.
You're a party host, you're not here to teach hard life lessons to other people's kids.
Yes their own parents should be teaching them. But apparently don’t feel the need to so they just throw the burden at the party host and let them be the bad guy.
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How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
yeah, it's weird when this happens and it happens a lot.
I had someone show up with the sibling and I didn't know. I offered for them to play. She said I could just pay, I said no I would add him. But in the end he wanted his ipad lol.
Other times, I have been told to bring the siblings.
Other, just accepted my no answer lol
It really is up to you. I hate being put in the situation though.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
Well where I grew up in BK and Queens, we didn't and it definitely wasn't the norm.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
I remember having bowling parties, plaster craft and rolling skating was the big one! Everyone had the roller skating parties and I think I had like 3 of mine there LOL
We also did a house party where a woman came and made bracelets with us.
This was in the 80s
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
I remember having bowling parties, plaster craft and rolling skating was the big one! Everyone had the roller skating parties and I think I had like 3 of mine there LOL
We also did a house party where a woman came and made bracelets with us.
This was in the 80s
I had a couple of roller skating parties in the 80s. It was definitely drop-off, only my mom & aunt stayed. I don't even think my brother came! There were some neighbor kids that had siblings I was friendly with, but if they came, it was b/c my mom told me I had to invite them!
The only parties I remember going to that werne't at a house were roller skating or bowling.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
I remember having bowling parties, plaster craft and rolling skating was the big one! Everyone had the roller skating parties and I think I had like 3 of mine there LOL
We also did a house party where a woman came and made bracelets with us.
This was in the 80s
I had a couple of roller skating parties in the 80s. It was definitely drop-off, only my mom & aunt stayed. I don't even think my brother came! There were some neighbor kids that had siblings I was friendly with, but if they came, it was b/c my mom told me I had to invite them!
The only parties I remember going to that werne't at a house were roller skating or bowling.
I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural / demographics thing. I am also talking about the 80s
This was all new to us and became a thing in my family when our generation started having kids. I’m one of the few cousins who don’t do classmate parties, or bday parties yearly for my son.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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I would ask her if the siblings name was on the invitation??
You would seriously do this????
The topic was how to nicely say no - so I do not think OP would take this advice.
I can't imagine anyone being so rude!
But you know what? Asking to bring an uninvited kid to a party is equally as rude. She's putting the OP on the spot and that's wrong.
I have 3 kids. I do whatever I can to make sure the other 2 are handled while I take the other to a party. I would never put a parent in this position. If it's really a child care issue, either send the kid with a friend or drop the kid off. That's that.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
I remember having bowling parties, plaster craft and rolling skating was the big one! Everyone had the roller skating parties and I think I had like 3 of mine there LOL
We also did a house party where a woman came and made bracelets with us.
This was in the 80s
I had a couple of roller skating parties in the 80s. It was definitely drop-off, only my mom & aunt stayed. I don't even think my brother came! There were some neighbor kids that had siblings I was friendly with, but if they came, it was b/c my mom told me I had to invite them!
The only parties I remember going to that werne't at a house were roller skating or bowling.
I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural / demographics thing. I am also talking about the 80s
This was all new to us and became a thing in my family when our generation started having kids. I’m one of the few cousins who don’t do classmate parties, or bday parties yearly for my son.
I had a party every year in the late 80’s/early 90’s and there were definitely siblings there because I’ve seen the pictures. Granted, these weren’t super expensive parties- bowling, ceramics, Burger King. I can’t imagine my mom telling anyone they couldn’t bring a sibling, and my mom generally sucks as a person
TBH, these responses make me kind of sad. I would never want my DD to not have a friend celebrate her birthday with her because their parents couldn’t find a sitter. And I would never make a sibling (a child!) feel unwelcome. Not to mention I would never be rude to a parent who had no one to watch their kid. I’m sure they feel awkward enough having to ask and then on top of it feel bad if their child has to miss the party.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
I remember having bowling parties, plaster craft and rolling skating was the big one! Everyone had the roller skating parties and I think I had like 3 of mine there LOL
We also did a house party where a woman came and made bracelets with us.
This was in the 80s
I had a couple of roller skating parties in the 80s. It was definitely drop-off, only my mom & aunt stayed. I don't even think my brother came! There were some neighbor kids that had siblings I was friendly with, but if they came, it was b/c my mom told me I had to invite them!
The only parties I remember going to that werne't at a house were roller skating or bowling.
I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural / demographics thing. I am also talking about the 80s
This was all new to us and became a thing in my family when our generation started having kids. I’m one of the few cousins who don’t do classmate parties, or bday parties yearly for my son.
I had a party every year in the late 80’s/early 90’s and there were definitely siblings there because I’ve seen the pictures. Granted, these weren’t super expensive parties- bowling, ceramics, Burger King. I can’t imagine my mom telling anyone they couldn’t bring a sibling, and my mom generally sucks as a person
TBH, these responses make me kind of sad. I would never want my DD to not have a friend celebrate her birthday with her because their parents couldn’t find a sitter. And I would never make a sibling (a child!) feel unwelcome. Not to mention I would never be rude to a parent who had no one to watch their kid. I’m sure they feel awkward enough having to ask and then on top of it feel bad if their child has to miss the party.
I tend to agree. I see how excited DD gets to have all her friends at her parties. If someone was between not coming or bringing a sibling- bring them.
She only has a party once a year. It's a big deal to her - and to me because I see how happy it makes her.
An extra $25 is not going to make or break me.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
I remember having bowling parties, plaster craft and rolling skating was the big one! Everyone had the roller skating parties and I think I had like 3 of mine there LOL
We also did a house party where a woman came and made bracelets with us.
This was in the 80s
I had a couple of roller skating parties in the 80s. It was definitely drop-off, only my mom & aunt stayed. I don't even think my brother came! There were some neighbor kids that had siblings I was friendly with, but if they came, it was b/c my mom told me I had to invite them!
The only parties I remember going to that werne't at a house were roller skating or bowling.
I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural / demographics thing. I am also talking about the 80s
This was all new to us and became a thing in my family when our generation started having kids. I’m one of the few cousins who don’t do classmate parties, or bday parties yearly for my son.
I had a party every year in the late 80’s/early 90’s and there were definitely siblings there because I’ve seen the pictures. Granted, these weren’t super expensive parties- bowling, ceramics, Burger King. I can’t imagine my mom telling anyone they couldn’t bring a sibling, and my mom generally sucks as a person
TBH, these responses make me kind of sad. I would never want my DD to not have a friend celebrate her birthday with her because their parents couldn’t find a sitter. And I would never make a sibling (a child!) feel unwelcome. Not to mention I would never be rude to a parent who had no one to watch their kid. I’m sure they feel awkward enough having to ask and then on top of it feel bad if their child has to miss the party.
I always wanted a McDonald’s party lol. I should do one as an adult.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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Posted by Katareen
What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
I remember having bowling parties, plaster craft and rolling skating was the big one! Everyone had the roller skating parties and I think I had like 3 of mine there LOL
We also did a house party where a woman came and made bracelets with us.
This was in the 80s
I had a couple of roller skating parties in the 80s. It was definitely drop-off, only my mom & aunt stayed. I don't even think my brother came! There were some neighbor kids that had siblings I was friendly with, but if they came, it was b/c my mom told me I had to invite them!
The only parties I remember going to that werne't at a house were roller skating or bowling.
I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural / demographics thing. I am also talking about the 80s
This was all new to us and became a thing in my family when our generation started having kids. I’m one of the few cousins who don’t do classmate parties, or bday parties yearly for my son.
I had a party every year in the late 80’s/early 90’s and there were definitely siblings there because I’ve seen the pictures. Granted, these weren’t super expensive parties- bowling, ceramics, Burger King. I can’t imagine my mom telling anyone they couldn’t bring a sibling, and my mom generally sucks as a person
TBH, these responses make me kind of sad. I would never want my DD to not have a friend celebrate her birthday with her because their parents couldn’t find a sitter. And I would never make a sibling (a child!) feel unwelcome. Not to mention I would never be rude to a parent who had no one to watch their kid. I’m sure they feel awkward enough having to ask and then on top of it feel bad if their child has to miss the party.
This is my philosophy too. Nor would I never want anyone to have to find childcare or even pay for childcare so their other child can attend The party.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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I always wanted a McDonald’s party lol. I should do one as an adult.
Apprently they made a really good birthday cake. Not sure if they still do, but a friend of mine used to get one as an adult every year.
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
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What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
I remember having bowling parties, plaster craft and rolling skating was the big one! Everyone had the roller skating parties and I think I had like 3 of mine there LOL
We also did a house party where a woman came and made bracelets with us.
This was in the 80s
I had a couple of roller skating parties in the 80s. It was definitely drop-off, only my mom & aunt stayed. I don't even think my brother came! There were some neighbor kids that had siblings I was friendly with, but if they came, it was b/c my mom told me I had to invite them!
The only parties I remember going to that werne't at a house were roller skating or bowling.
I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural / demographics thing. I am also talking about the 80s
This was all new to us and became a thing in my family when our generation started having kids. I’m one of the few cousins who don’t do classmate parties, or bday parties yearly for my son.
I had a party every year in the late 80’s/early 90’s and there were definitely siblings there because I’ve seen the pictures. Granted, these weren’t super expensive parties- bowling, ceramics, Burger King. I can’t imagine my mom telling anyone they couldn’t bring a sibling, and my mom generally sucks as a person
TBH, these responses make me kind of sad. I would never want my DD to not have a friend celebrate her birthday with her because their parents couldn’t find a sitter. And I would never make a sibling (a child!) feel unwelcome. Not to mention I would never be rude to a parent who had no one to watch their kid. I’m sure they feel awkward enough having to ask and then on top of it feel bad if their child has to miss the party.
This is my philosophy too. Nor would I never want anyone to have to find childcare or even pay for childcare so their other child can attend The party.
Just out of curiosity if say your child's entire class of 20 kids needed to have their siblings along for the party in order to come you would really be ok for paying for double or triple the amount of kids you invited?
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Re: How to nicely say no..... birthday party etiquette
Posted by Budjeg11
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What did people do 30 years ago? I’m pretty sure I never ever participated in parties that my brother or sister were invited to.
30 years ago, bday parties were at school or home with a cake. Back then it wasn't the norm to have a bday party every year at a place for a child.
I think I only had 2 big parties as a kid and they were house parties. lol.
We definitely had parties outside of the house...Plastercraft, rollerskating, there was an arcade you could rent out. Maybe people were just more comfortable dropping their kids off? We never had random siblings. Hell sometimes I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s birthday party!
I remember having bowling parties, plaster craft and rolling skating was the big one! Everyone had the roller skating parties and I think I had like 3 of mine there LOL
We also did a house party where a woman came and made bracelets with us.
This was in the 80s
I had a couple of roller skating parties in the 80s. It was definitely drop-off, only my mom & aunt stayed. I don't even think my brother came! There were some neighbor kids that had siblings I was friendly with, but if they came, it was b/c my mom told me I had to invite them!
The only parties I remember going to that werne't at a house were roller skating or bowling.
I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural / demographics thing. I am also talking about the 80s
This was all new to us and became a thing in my family when our generation started having kids. I’m one of the few cousins who don’t do classmate parties, or bday parties yearly for my son.
I had a party every year in the late 80’s/early 90’s and there were definitely siblings there because I’ve seen the pictures. Granted, these weren’t super expensive parties- bowling, ceramics, Burger King. I can’t imagine my mom telling anyone they couldn’t bring a sibling, and my mom generally sucks as a person
TBH, these responses make me kind of sad. I would never want my DD to not have a friend celebrate her birthday with her because their parents couldn’t find a sitter. And I would never make a sibling (a child!) feel unwelcome. Not to mention I would never be rude to a parent who had no one to watch their kid. I’m sure they feel awkward enough having to ask and then on top of it feel bad if their child has to miss the party.
This is my philosophy too. Nor would I never want anyone to have to find childcare or even pay for childcare so their other child can attend The party.
Just out of curiosity if say your child's entire class of 20 kids needed to have their siblings along for the party in order to come you would really be ok for paying for double or triple the amount of kids you invited?
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