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Budjeg11
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Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Do you bring, or are you expected to bring, alcohol or food with you when attending a birthday party for a child- when you are bringing a gift for the child too?
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Kitten1929
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Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Was this a true BYOB, as in, the hosts had no beverages for adults? They could have decided not to serve alcohol, in which case people may have brought their own. Or maybe people wanted to bring what they were specifically drinking.
Although I always provide food and beverages, I am noticing more people bringing whatever they want. They think they're being helpful.
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MaZz
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Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
I think it's very weird to bring drinks to a bday party. BBQ or any reg get together, sure! Otherwise, no way... Unless the host requests that you bring what you like.
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LovesMike
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Budjeg11
So this weekend - DH and I were at a 1st bday party at a friends house-- this is the second bday party in a few months were I saw guests bringing their own beer etc to the party... this seemed odd to me and I was just wondering if this is the norm.
DH and I always bring drinks to a regular get together, bbq, party etc that friends host .. but I figure when someone throws a bday party for a child, and you are bringing a gift for the child, the host provides all of the food and drink..? Am I in the minority ?
I find this odd for an event like a child's birthday party. We have a friend who throws their daughter a huge bday party every year. They do not serve alcohol at the party because, in their family, they don't think children should be in the presence of adults consuming alcohol. It's usually an outdoor bbq type party too. We respect their wishes, of course!
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Our circle always HAS alcohol at the kids parties (if they're home or in the park or someplace appropriate to have alcohol) but I wouldn't bring it the way I would to a normal BBQ or something......
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by MarisaK
Our circle always HAS alcohol at the kids parties (if they're home or in the park or someplace appropriate to have alcohol) but I wouldn't bring it the way I would to a normal BBQ or something......
Same here, we drink no matter what the occasion, but to a kid's birthday I wouldn't think to bring beer, I'd assume if there was alcohol it would be provided by the hosts.
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Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
For a bday party I would think the host should supply the food/drinks
A regular bbq is a bit different
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by evrythng4areason
For a bday party I would think the host should supply the food/drinks
A regular bbq is a bit different
agreed
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Sparrow
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
That sounds super rude, especially for a children's birthday party. Maybe the host doesn't want people drinking at a kid's party. I don't think that would be an unusual request.
Was the host supplying alcohol?
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Kitten1929
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Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
I think we are missing a key piece of information before it's labeled "rude" or "tacky." Did the host supply alcohol? If so, perhaps people were bringing what they PERSONALLY wanted to drink. If the host chose not to serve alcohol, perhaps guests who wanted to drink decided to bring their own beverages. And truthfully, whose business is it to decide what other guests do/don't do? Did the hosts care? They're the only people whose opinions matter.
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Budjeg11
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Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
The hosts have no problem with alcohol at the party.. at all.... and they supplied alcohol too.
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HoneyBadger
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Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
At first I was kind of like, huh? But then I likened it to bringing a bottle of wine and it seemed different.
I'm not sure how I feel about it. We've brought beer to parties before, even b-day parties but only for adult bdays, never a child's so I'm not sure how I feel.
I guess it's like bringing a bottle of wine for the host? I don't know...
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
DH's family brought liquor to DD's 1st b-day party and I thought it was odd. We served beer, wine, soda and water. Aparenty they prefer scotch.
It is not something I would do.
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Budjeg11
I dont think its rude at all, I mean that wasn't the point of my post. The hosts have no problem with alcohol at the party.. at all.... and they supplied alcohol too. I was just wondering what the sentiment was about bringing alcohol to a bday party when you are already bringing a gift for the host/host's kid .... I think the last party threw me for a loop bc at that one the host said, she wished she had brought more alcohol she assumed that people would bring some so she didn't get too much-- and I actually thought THAT was rude-- why would you expect your guests to bring their own alcohol when you are hosting them for your kids bday??
If Im bringing a gift do I need to bring my own food and drnk too.??
I think you're reading into it far too much. As I have stated twice before, some people choose to bring what they are personally drinking and/or a little something for the host, as a way to be helpful.
Not purchasing enough in the HOPES that people will bring extra is tacky, IMO. I always plan to have plenty of food and drink, and any extra is welcome, but not expected.
I also do not equate bringing a gift as meaning that I can't or should not bring a bottle of wine for the host. They are not mutually exclusive.
I also do not think that anyone is expected to bring their own food AND drinks to someone's party. That is silly.
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LovesMike
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Budjeg11
I dont think its rude at all, I mean that wasn't the point of my post. The hosts have no problem with alcohol at the party.. at all.... and they supplied alcohol too. I was just wondering what the sentiment was about bringing alcohol to a bday party when you are already bringing a gift for the host/host's kid .... I think the last party threw me for a loop bc at that one the host said, she wished she had brought more alcohol she assumed that people would bring some so she didn't get too much-- and I actually thought THAT was rude-- why would you expect your guests to bring their own alcohol when you are hosting them for your kids bday??
If Im bringing a gift do I need to bring my own food and drnk too.??
Ahhh, different story. If there is something special people want to drink, I would think that is fine.
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Budjeg11
I dont think its rude at all, I mean that wasn't the point of my post. The hosts have no problem with alcohol at the party.. at all.... and they supplied alcohol too. I was just wondering what the sentiment was about bringing alcohol to a bday party when you are already bringing a gift for the host/host's kid .... I think the last party threw me for a loop bc at that one the host said, she wished she had brought more alcohol she assumed that people would bring some so she didn't get too much-- and I actually thought THAT was rude-- why would you expect your guests to bring their own alcohol when you are hosting them for your kids bday??
If Im bringing a gift do I need to bring my own food and drnk too.??
i don't think bringing a gift for the kid has anything to do with bringing alcohol or not - the two have nothing to do with each other
But, i think it would depend on the host and the type of people they are and the parties they have. someone might not like Bud Light (as example) and wanted to make sure there was something they liked so brought their own.
As long as the host was cool with it, i think its fine.
the other example you gave was IMO a bit rude - as a host you should never expect your guests to supply all the alcohol, you should always have enough! (unless its a byob and stated beforehand)
anyway, from the situation you described, it sounds perfectly fine to me
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Don't question it...it's extra booze, which is never a bad thing!  
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
I have guidelines for myself-
- If I am invited to a party where I am expected to bring a gift- I do not feel bad bringing ONLY a gift and no food/drink
- If I am invited to a get together/BBQ I always bring something because I was taught not to show up empty handed.
For birthday parties/celebrations in my immediate family (as in my mom or sister or sisters/brothers-in-law) I always offer to bring something to help them out AND bring a gift.
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Budjeg11
I dont think its rude at all, I mean that wasn't the point of my post. The hosts have no problem with alcohol at the party.. at all.... and they supplied alcohol too. I was just wondering what the sentiment was about bringing alcohol to a bday party when you are already bringing a gift for the host/host's kid .... I think the last party threw me for a loop bc at that one the host said, she wished she had brought more alcohol she assumed that people would bring some so she didn't get too much-- and I actually thought THAT was rude-- why would you expect your guests to bring their own alcohol when you are hosting them for your kids bday??
If Im bringing a gift do I need to bring my own food and drnk too.??
Ahh, ok, I took this in a totally different way. I thought people were wanting to make sure they could drink, even if the host was only supplying soda. I would personally think that's rude becuase I know people who don't want alcohol around their kids. I'm turning this into a totally different topic, never mind my response!
I certainly don't think you *need* to bring food or drink but apparently if you want to bring your favorite beer it wouldn't be frowned upon.
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by PearlJamChick
Don't question it...it's extra booze, which is never a bad thing!
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
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Our circle always HAS alcohol at the kids parties (if they're home or in the park or someplace appropriate to have alcohol) but I wouldn't bring it the way I would to a normal BBQ or something......
Same here, we drink no matter what the occasion, but to a kid's birthday I wouldn't think to bring beer, I'd assume if there was alcohol it would be provided by the hosts.
Same here. The only reason I would bring beer to a birthday party is if I was asked.
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AngnShaun
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Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
I know people that only drink one type of beer... if im throwing a party im only getting bud light/coors light/miller... but for a few people that i know they only drink Corona, or they only drink Heineken... then they should bring their own...
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by AngnShaun
I know people that only drink one type of beer... if im throwing a party im only getting bud light/coors light/miller... but for a few people that i know they only drink Corona, or they only drink Heineken... then they should bring their own...
Ditto. Even when not asked, I usually bring my own because I'm picky. I always worry that this seems rude, but I'd rather have something to drink that I like.
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Budjeg11
Do you bring, or are you expected to bring, alcohol or food with you when attending a birthday party for a child- when you are bringing a gift for the child too?
I saw you changed your original post..
and i still don't understand what bringing a gift for the child has to do with whether you'd still bring your own alcohol or food to a party. They really have nothing to do with each other 
one is for the kid, one is for the adults attending
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
I always throw out "should I bring anything?" and if the host says something like "if there's anything specific you want to drink" I will bring something, if not, I don't. Not really a big deal either way
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