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i think its all perspective and individual. I was an only child and hated it, but I know others who liked it. I have 3 kids and am happy they have siblings. If we ever get more income, I would LOVE to adopt or adopt through foster care and have one more...Even 2...I always wanted a huge family because of my lack of maybe? But I Cannot afford anymore and also would need my kids to be a lot older as its pretty difficult right now ...

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I am 1 of 6 and loved it...sure at the time who knows what i thought. Now, I love it! I wouldn't go back (not that i could, lol) and change a thing!

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Me
Sister 1 4 yrs younger
Sister 2 5 yrs younger
Half Sister 1 18 yrs younger
Half Sister 2 24 yrs younger (adopted)

Step Sister 1 1 yr older
Step Brother 1 1 yr younger

Step Brother 2 1 yr younger
Step Sister 2 3 yrs younger

Parents divorced when we were little and both remarried.

Love having a big family!
My kids have lots of cousins that are close in age so even though it will be just the two of them, they have plenty of cousins nearby and my two little sisters who are now 10 and 4

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I am one of 5 and absolutely LOVE it! For me, it was the perfect size family. Lots of people around, always someone to hang out with or talk to. We're all so close now, which is so great- our kids will grow up together, and they have so much together. It's great!!

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I am one of 8 - large irish catholic family. LOVED my childhood - so much fun. We went though our teenage year battles but things came full circle again and now we are all super close.

I have 2 kids, plan on three and if I had started sooner I think I would have liked 4.

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I'm an only child and I was pretty happy as a child and am happy as an adult. I imagine as my parents get older i might go through more difficult times but so far so good.

I have one DS and sometimes I think I only want one. Problem is, DH is an only child also so DS does not have aunts,uncles, or cousins. I worry that he would really be all alone. So, if i can convince myself to have #2, I'll probably also have a #3. That to me sounds like a good number.

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I come from 5, and I'm the youngest. The 3rd born passed away at only 18 months old. ... But then came my brother and 5 years later me by an accident. Due to the large gap in age differences, there were points I felt like the only child, and yet I learned sooo much from seeing what they did, (and how to not get caught LOL) DH wants to have all our DCs close in age... so I will do what he wants for #2...and then leave it at that for a few years, and then try to #3 later on. That way it's best of both worlds. I am soo close with my older sisters now... my brother...well we had our falling out, but we still talk.

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I had 1 brother who was 18 months older than me. He passed away when he was 20.

We were close, but of course I'd never really appreciated what it was to have a sibling before he was gone.

He was everything to me. It's been a very lonely without him - especially seeing all my friends get closer to their siblings as they got older...having that person(s) they could always count on.

Of course I don't REALLY know what being an "only child", never having had any siblings, is like but I feel like a sibling is the best gift a parent could give.

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4 kids in my family. Im the youngest. The other three are much older. We all have the same parents. My oldest sister started college the year I started kindergarten. I was sort of raised alone - separate from the other three. Id have it no other way. I can't afford 4 kids and I am too old and tired to contemplate having any more.

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My sister and I are so close that I wish I had more siblings to have that type of relationship with. I'm a big family person and my mother and sister are my best friends so it def would have been nice to come from a bigger immediate fam.

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im an only child. i longed for a sibling as a child, and even more so as an adult. i also dont have any cousins nearby that I am close with. sometimes i feel very alone, and sad that i have nobody to really invite to my daughters' bday parties, and there are no other kids at holiday gatherings, and i have nobody my age at such things to chat with and hang out with. DH has 1 half brother who is 12 years older and lives in another state. we want a big family to change the pattern.

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i wish i had a sister.... i have one sibling who is a boy lol

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Given the current state of one relationship, I would have dropped a sister. I'm one of 3.

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I'm one of 3, I have a younger brother and then sister. We're not close, even though we're all pretty close in age. It was just our familyl dynamic growing up. But my mom is one of 5 and I have 16 first cousins. I'm actually super close with my first cousins. The thought of having an only child never even entered our heads. We're expecting #2 soon and may try for #3 depending on how it goes with #2. DS is also super close with his cousins, I love a big extended family as well as immediate, I think it's super important to have.

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I think most people tend to think the family that they came from is ideal. I'm one of two - I've got a younger brother. DH and I would like to have a second and we would both love to have a little girl. One of each seems ideal to us.

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I am 3 yrs oldernthan my brother. Love it. We are so close now it's not even funny. I hated having to bring him with me when I was younger but now I wish he lived closer so we couldnhang out more.

Ds will most likely be an only child. He has tons of cousins so I'm not to worried for him in his adulthood years.

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just right!!
i am the oldest out of 4.
i love the size of our famiy

as for my own family, 2 is enough.. they have each other growing up. its all i can ask for.

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I'm an only and I always and still do esp now that my parents are divorced wanted a sibling...it's a lot to handle and the thought of me being the only one to take care of them, get in the middle of them etc is a lot...I loved it growing up and as a teen, bc there was no one to share the spotlight with, but as I got older it's harder, and I thnk it's bc they're divorced, I think if they were still together it wouldn't be such an issue for me

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Although my sister and I had a very rocky start and it took us years, we are now nothing short of best friends.

I always wondered what it would be like to have a brother. But overall, I was (and still am) very content being the "baby"

So, I guess I wouldn't change it.

DH is the middle child of 3. He swore he would never have 3 children as he felt he received the brunt of trouble. Well, we have a DS who is 2 and just recently found out we are pregnant with twins! Talk about ironic.

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I am one of 3 and it was perfect. Growing up I wanted a sister as I only have 2 brothers but overall I can't complain and now I dont think I would have wanted ANOTHER sibling. 3 worked well for our family. (although I dont want 3 for myself

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ETA: I am significantly younger than my brothers (nearly 12 and 9 years) and while that was hard growing up at times as an adult its really not a big deal, we all get along and now that we are all married with kids (or starting a family) we are all in the same place in our lives in many ways. My one brother (9 years older) is one of my best friends we talk all the time about everything!

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We are three- I have a brother and a sister and I am the middle child. I loved having siblings and was glad that I had them growing up.

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only child and hated it.

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there was 3 of us. and although we dont always see eye to eye. i am happy i have 2 sisters. (1 is 13 months younger, the other is 5 years younger)

i would love to have 3, DH is ok with 1 - so we're going to settle on 2!

DH has a sister but has zero contact with her so tahts why i think he only wants 1.