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I'm one of two. I have an older brother who is almost 9 year older than me. For me I wish I had another sibling that was closer in age to me.

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I have 1 sister. I think I would have liked another sibling. I do have 2 step brothers, but they are older. My mom didn’t meet/ marry their dad until we where older. I was 19 when my mom got remarried.

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I would never ever replace or wish away any of my siblings now that they are here and have been a part of my life.

but being the oldest of 5 was not easy. and we were so poor. dirt poor. it was very very hard on me growing up. I do wish my parents would have thought more about expanding their family when they had not the means to support the kids they did have...after the first, second, third..and so on. we made it through ok, but it's not a struggle I want my son to have. or for me to have quite frankly. I can only imagine how that must have been for my parents now that I am a mother myself.

ETA: in terms of relationships with my siblings, my biggest issue was with the sister closest in age to me (we were irish twins) we had severe problems growing up and into young adulthood (she had major anger issues which are much better now) but my younger siblings, my brother (8 years younger), my other brother (15 years younger) and my little sister (17 years younger) are really like my first children. I took on huge life changing responsiblities for them as a teenager and it has so shaped who I am that I cannot imagine who I would have become if not for them. and I am very proud and honored that they hold me in such high esteem. I am very loved by them and it touches me deeply.

funnily enough, for the first time in a LONG time my mom had all 5 of her kids and her 3 grandchildren in the same place for my son's birthday party and we all had so much fun. as adults, it's getting better and better.

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I had 1 brother, he passed away in 2002. Its weird growing up with 1 sibling and now not having any I always wished I had a sister too

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I had 1 brother, he passed away in 2002. Its weird growing up with 1 sibling and now not having any I always wished I had a sister too

I am in the same situation. I had 1 sister who passed away 3 years ago. I hate that I have no one now. I wish that I now had more siblings. That is why I wanted to have at least 3 kids so in case of anything no one was alone.

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I'm the oldest of 3 and I wish my parents had one more. But now that we're getting older things arent so bad.

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to all of you who have lost a sibling, I cannot begin to imagine

This is one of the reasons why I want three as if anything were to happen to either of the two I have now I would like for them to have a sibling to lean on - DH says I am morbid but I say I just want to prepare for what if

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I was one of 4 sisters, and I am closest with my youngest sister who is 12 years younger. The middle ones still have too much drama even in their 20s. My family dynamic is different though. My sisters are all adopted from foster care at different ages so it may have affected things. I think 3 is a good number, it makes get togethers as adults a lot of fun.

I have 2 DDs now, and I would LOVE to have 3 total to have a bigger family and think that dymanic would be awesome. However I am incredibly torn on the affect that would have on finances, time ect...... As said in a previous post I do fear something happening to one of my DDs and the other one feeling so alone. I cant really talk to Dh becuase he just doesnt think like that at all and thinks I am too negative. Im just practical.

to all those who have lost a sibling

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i have one younger sister and one younger brother. we fought just like all other kds growing up, but we are super close now. My DH also has one younger brother and one younger sister. unfortunately, they aren't that close due to their family dynamic and parent relationship growing up. i'm pg with my third and think 3 is the perfect number for me. DH wanted to stop with 2 but is thrilled with the thought of having another now. i just hope my children are as close when they are adults as i am with my siblings now!

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only have a brother who is 6 years older. We weren't close growing up but we got along. I felt like an only child for most of my life b/c he lived on his own since 17 so middle school on up I was the only kid in the house.

I wish I had a sister then and now but my SIL's fill that void. I gave each of my girls the best gift in the world...3 sisters each!

I would have more kids if I had more $, and was younger.

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one of three - I am the middle only girl - hate being on of three - one person always on the outside - my brother's don't get along

i only plan on having two

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I have one brother who is almost 6 years older than me and I wish I would have had another sibling or one closer in age to me.

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one was enough

But I have more now. My dad adobted 3, my step mother came with 4 and my mother had another. So all and all its 10. Never under one roof at one time. I never met my half sister or one of my step siblings so they don't cout really. One step sister lived with her father and the other lived mostly on her own by the time she came into the picture so... really that leaves 6 of us.

6 was way too many
5 was ok when they were younger
4 was pushing it
3 was annoying

Sorry but for me.. just 2 of us was great. Best friend and biggest enemy. Partner in crime and biggest competition.

Any 2 in the combo worked. Me and my older bro, or one of the twin bros or even just me and my lil sister.

That's my honest answer

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I am one of 4 and we are very close in age. I loved it growing up and as adults, I like having more than one sibling to talk to about things. I am close to each of them in different ways and can't imagine life without any of them, for better or for worse.

My DS will be an only child. If i started younger or life hadn't thrown certain things my way, I would have liked another. I am happy I have the joy of having at least one child.

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I was 1 of 4 and I loved it. I want 4 kids also.

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I have a brother and a sister. LOVE it!

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I have one brother who is 2 years younger than myself....He is developmentally delayed and both my parents passed away before I was 23 so early on I took on more of the role as his caregiver as oppsed to his sister ( my mom was sick for many years before she passed and I more or less ran the house)...My brother still resides with me....

I think it would have been nice to have another sibling to go through everything with and give me nieces and nephews and my children cousins etc...I love my brother dearly, but because of the circumstances it is not your "traditional' sibling relationship...

My DH is 1 of 7 and loved it growing up..He never felt like they missed out on anything ( family vacations were not Disney and the tropics, but more camping/beaches etc.. and its still one of his favorite things to do) ..They are all still very close to this day ( he is the oldest and there are 14 years between the oldest and youngest)

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I am one of 6 kids. Growing up, it was tough. But I loved the fact that we all stuck together no matter what...I also love that people always commented on the "Smith"-clan. We were everywhere.

Bella is an only (as of now) Coming from the big family has added to my struggles as to whether she would be an only.

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There are 5 of us. The oldest is 10 years older then me and the youngest is 11 years younger than me. I have 3 older brothers and a younger sister.

In addition to my brothers and sister I also had foster brothers and sisters.

I love coming from a big family. We are all close now, especially with 2 of my older brothers. I loved holidays and family dinners. I was tormented when I was a kid, but only by my brothers. They would have broken the leg of anyone else who picked on me

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i think its all prespective and individual. I was an only chidl and hated it, but I knwo others who liked it. I have 3 kids and am happy they have siblings. If we ever get more income, I would LOVE to adopt or adopt through foster care and have one more...Even 2...I always wanted a huge family because of my lack of maybe? But I Cannot afford anymore and also would need my kids to be a lot older as its pretty difficult right now ...

I feel the same way. I wonder if I can stop at 3
I didn't mind it a ton when I was a kid but probably b/c my parents we're divorced and I had so much other drama in my life that I didn't have a chance to focus on not having siblings.
I hate it as an adult for many reasons. I wish I had a brother or a sister or both.

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I have two sisters but there is a 6-yr and 20-yr age gap. I wish we were closer in age - which is why I am hoping for a 2-yr gap for my kids.

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I have 1 older brother, and always wished for a little brother when I was younger (little did I know my dad got snipped! ). Now I wish I had a sister.

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