Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

Since it is tradition to go to Grandmas I wouldn't expect everyone to break that just because I have a new baby....I always go with the flow for holidays. We break her schedule and it has always been fine. I feel spending time with family is important who knows how long everyone will be there?

Isn't there somewhere he can lay to sleep while your there?

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

I have a question -
Can't you just put the baby to sleep in the pack n play at 8:30 or whatever his bed time is? I can understand you dont' want to change his schedule and it will make your life hell .......and he may not get the BEST night's sleep in the pack n play ........but IMO, it's worth it to at least try -

I know the IDEAL situation would be for him to be in his own crib, but it's Christmas.........I still think the family is being a PITA by refusing to change the holiday location for just this ONE year, but I don't think I'd cut off my nose to spite my face and spend Christmas alone - and deprive myself and my baby of the family ..........

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

ok how about u and DH rotate going there...one stays with the baby at home...?

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

Posted by Little-J-Mommy

I would go the compromise route. Maybe get there around 6. Be there when everyone shows up so you can see them and they can all say hi to baby. leave around 7:30-7:45 so DC can be in bed by 8:15 like usual.

Maybe even suggest a few key people get there a bit early to spend more time with you?

Hope it works out

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

Honestly I cannot understand why people can't be more understanding towards someone who has a new little baby. Would it really be too much for them to come to your house? Sorry that they were not more understanding towards you.

I remember years ago (about 5 to be exact). It was our turn to host x-mas eve for DH's family and a month before DH's brother called him up and asked if we could switch so he could host cuz they had just had their second child in mid October and they didn't want to travel in the cold weather for the holidays. A reasonable request so we switched and let them do it. I don't understand why your in laws could not do the same for you. You are the ones with a newborn right now and you would think that at Christmas time they would be just a little bit more understanding...Bah Humbug to them

Some for you.

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

So we went against most of your advice.

Why? Well we both know that the sleeping is FINALLY improving & hate to take that chance again. He has been down by 8:15 the last few nights and is doing well the last at sleeping through!


I KNOW that he is just not the type of baby who can be moved after sleeping a while to take home. He wakes when I gently take the infant carrier out of the car. I SWEAR he wakes when the sheets rustle when I get in bed at night too!!!


Unfortunately there were other family circumstances that went along us making this decison too. If my family hasn't had the time to see me or DS unless I were to bring him to them, then along with that and the other B S that has happened we felt better staying home.

Anyway.....just wanted to pop on to say thanks! DH is scurrying around wrapping gifts I suppose, so I had a few minutes!

Merry Christmas!

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

It sounds as if you made the right decision for your immediate family. Hopefully everyone else will understand and if they don't then that's really too bad on their part. I hope your DS sleeps well tonight!!!

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

We do that same with our daughter. And we get comments from family all the time, but we ignore them and go about with our lives.
Life changes when you have a baby. And every baby is different. My daughter needs to be on a schedule at night. Any other time during the day is up for grabs, but nighttime is precious. So we are pretty strict.

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

I have ALWAYS revolved get togethers (family or not) around my kids sleep schedules.

In order to keep the beast happy you must feed the beast and sleep the beast.

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

Posted by Goobster

I think with all of the things you posted, I don't blame you. You offered for them to come to you, they said no so that's that IMO. I wouldn't want to go if I would have to pay a harsh price for the next few weeks. JMO

Re: I feel like DS NEEDS to be kept on schedule & now the whole family is p*ssed......Christmas Eve Related

Posted by krissy888

Posted by Goobster

I think with all of the things you posted, I don't blame you. You offered for them to come to you, they said no so that's that IMO. I wouldn't want to go if I would have to pay a harsh price for the next few weeks. JMO

I agree, w hy can't they just come to your home?