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I like to plan and I also like to know what to expect but there are so few true surprises in life. For me and DH the wait to find out the sex of our babies was the perfect way to have our children. It makes it so much more special to me to have my DH announce that he had a daughter and a son not some sono tech. I feel like I bonded with both my children in utero as much as I can for someone kicking my organs and making me pee like 50x a day. From the sono pics we had I knew about what he/she would look like and that was enough to keep me going. For us there was plenty of time to have things prepared before me and the babies coming home from the hospital, gave DH and my mom something to do. I have my Level II sono in 3 weeks and again we aren't going to find out and even Emma has told us to wait. It's all personal preference if you can take the suspense.

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I want to know ahead of time , i want to pick out the name, have the nursery ready, clothes etc for the gender.

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I go back and forth with this ALL the time. I think the whole anticipation of the big announcement when the baby is born is so awesome.

but at the same time it's cool to know what you are having in terms of preparation for the nursery, picking a name, buying clothes on sale.

For us personally, Rich just COULD NOT Wait 9 months to find out what we were having. I like finding out but I'd be ok with waiting too. There are so few unknown things in our world today.

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We did not find out with our first for many reasons. I didn't want to know! But DH did, and he waivered back and forth. I know he wanted a son first, and he said he wouldn't know how to feel if it was a girl. Stupid I know, but in the end, waiting for us was the best. We kind of had a huge hunch it was a boy, and we were right.

For our second, we had to know. We needed to plan and put some things together and set up another room. I think it was great knowing I was having a girl when we already had a boy!

IF, and I mean a big IF, we have another, we will not find out.

So I guess it really depends on each pregnancy for us!!

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I love the suprise!! I didn't find out

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I didn't want to know but DH did. We will find out again for the next one.

Honestly I felt like I got surprised TWICE!!! It was so exciting the day we went for the sonogram knowing we would find out what we were having. We were so excited when we found out and called everyone to tell them. We had the same exact amount of excitement the day we got to meet our little boy. When calling everyone this time the excitement was about the new little life we had in the world, how much he weighed, how long he was, who he looked like........the excitement was double the fun

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I am due in about 6 weeks and we are going to be surprised. I understand the wanting to be prepared, but the excitement of not knowing is great! I am so happy we are not finding out. Nobody can believe that we are waiting, but that is the fun of it.

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Knowing that I was having a girl definitely helped me bond with DD, and especially helped DH bond. He couldn't feel her, and he kept calling her "it". When you start calling the baby "him" or "her" it really does help you bond.

ETA: The fact that I knew it was girl did not take away from any excitement from the big day. Let me tell you!! The day was so exciting!

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Honestly, I didn't want to find out before becoming pregnant. I always imagined being surprised. However, the mintue I found out, I wanted to know, for planning purposes. I'm a plannner and I like to be prepared. Also, DH wanted to know more than I did.

The next one, I would REALLY like to be surprised, but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. The suspense kills me!

I think if anything, I won;t find out at my Level II. If I can make it to then, I'll than see if I can make it until 32 weeks(another sono).

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I didnt know with my first 2 and I loved the moment of surprise at birth. With #3, I told my DH I wanted to try knowing the gender to see how it feels to know. Of course it didnt take away from his existence as a human being and the excitement of him now being here, but I definitely preferred not knowing. It was ultimately a good choice for a few reasons, including preparing my older son for his birth and getting rid of alot of my daughter's outgrown clothes, but if I was doing it again, which Im not, I would hold out. When I read the other responses and see the different reasons for wanting to know/not know, it makes me so glad that we have a choice.

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We didn't want to know with both kids and it was so much better. When I see A BABY STORY and they don't know, I always well up with tears remembering when I heard those words "It's a girl" "It's a boy".
I never called my kids "it". I had nicknames for them before they were born and then used them after too.

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There is part of me that, when the time comes, really wants to find out, b/c I'm a planner and want to buy stuff and decorate. I also have a really tough time waiting for surprises.

However, there is also the part of me that wants to be able to make the phone call, "It's a _____! Her/His name is __________!" I like the idea of everyone finding out the gender once the baby is born.

Also, there's a religious factor for me. In Judaism, you generally try not to tempt fate, or the "evil eye". You're not supposed to keep stuff for the baby in the house before it is born, and you wouldn't start calling the baby by it's name before it is born either. Those reasons make it less appealing for me to find otu the gender, b/c then it would be harder not to tempt fate.

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I chose to find out for a couple of reasons. First of all I don't like surprises, it would bug me that I could know and choose not to. Second, I need to be prepared. I wanted to have everything ready, clothes, room etc. in the gender colors. I am not big on neutrals. Now that I know, I am more excited and feel that I am bonding with her because I can call her by name. Just my opinion.

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I was one who said, Nope I dont want to know...Im waiting to the day of.

Well how quickly my mind changed. My sis just found out and honestly it still dosent change how happy she is over it. It also is making it so much easier in her process with making the baby nursery and when it came to registering...its was easier.

I am pg and we, DH and I, have decided to find out. For one, I dont know if I could wait the 9 months and DH wants a boy and wants to prep himself if its a girl
Its more of a joke of course but we will be just as thrilled finding out what he/she is and be just as thrilled the day he/seh arrives.

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imo, its one of lifes few true surprises so i will wait to find out. but i can see why some people would like to know.

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For me I had to know. I wanted everything to be prepared for him when he was born. Now that we are TTC again DH & I are still going to find out the sex but we will keep it a secret from everyone else.

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If we were only having one, then I wanted to be surprised, but being that we were having twins, I had to know..there is too much to prepare for.
Personally I think it is a personnel choice, so to each his own.

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I totally want to know ahead of time for all the reasons mentioned—to plan, to bond, not to stress over two names when I could just focus on one—but my DH feels strongly about not knowing and I'm going to let him have his way on this one. As he says, other than being by my side, his only role on delivery day is to run out and tell everyone IT'S A ......! And he doesn't want me to take that job away from him. Plus, I must admit, I kinda like the excitement of not knowing.

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I have to reiterate that when you see that baby...its still a wonderful surprise!!! They still say Its a ____ and its wonderful to call all you friends up and say He/She's Here!!!

There is no bigger surprise than seeing your baby for the first time...well maybe having a wee after you have the baby, but the baby itself is a big surprise!!!

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We never had an intention of finding out the sex. I am 25 weeks and have a sono coming up on Wed, I will tell everyone in the room that I do not want to know the sex. It is such a fear of mine that they will slip.

Its a personal choice, I can't imagine someone wanting to find out, just as much as I am sure people don't know why we wait. For me, the moment is so much bigger then having pink or blue ready. I have a lot of names picked out, I just want to look at the baby and then find the perfect name.

I want everyone in NY to be on constant phone watch when I go into labor. I don't want it to be-she had him/her. I want it to be-she had a boy/girl.

I think the moment is so much bigger then me or what I can even imagine it to be. I would love to have a video camera capture it so I can relive it.

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