I really want to pierce Clover's ears...

but DH and along with every other member of the family say noooooooo....

What's the big deal? It's not like she's getting big hootchy mama hoops or anything. I wanted tiny pearls to go with a necklace and bracelet my SIl got her from China. I thought she'd look precious for her Christening.

What do you do when you and DH disagree on child related things?

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How old is Clover? My ped didnt pierce ears to about 12 weeks so i wasnt able to have it done for her christening =(...honestly if dh and i disagree i will try no to bring it up that much usually he will come around on his own...when it comes to certain things i just do it anyway and tell him afterwards (for ex my ped doesnt want me to give her any type of table foods yet.i dont believe that - she wants to eat to i go by what baby books suggest to feed and gave it to her - told him after and he was fine..he is just a worry wart with some things)

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OMG big hootchy mama hoops made me --->

I got a visual of a baby with them on



I got Jaidyn's ears pierced and am so happy with the choice I made Although my DH was 100% behind me. I would try to work on him a little bit

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Maybe it's just because I'm not plannng on piercing my daughter's ears until she's old enough to ask for it - but I would have to side with your husband on this one.
If you disagree on something like this, which is a permanent decision...I would think that you each have to list why you do or don't want it done and come to a comprimise.
I would be livid if my husband came home one day with her ears pierced after I told him I'd rather not have it done.

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I don't have a girl, but I don't see anything wrong with it. I would probably ask him WHY he had a problem with it, and if it seems like it may be valid, then maybe wait a bit and bring it up again.

Posted by Palebride


If you disagree on something like this, which is a permanent decision...I would think that you each have to list why you do or don't want it done and come to a comprimise.
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I agree with the compromise, but not that ear piercing is a permanent decision. Holes close up, its not like she is taking her to get her first tattoo

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Its really all about personal preference. I personally don't like babies with pierced ears so I will not pierce Molly's ears until she asks for it. Others love it..so you just have to find the compromise in your house.

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I never really thought much of it but apparently my DH had. Even before we had a girl he stated that he didn't like pierced ears on little girls. This from the person who never notices stuff and defers to me on 99.9% of the decisions. Apparently this fell in the 0.1% that he cared about. As I said, I hadn't thought about what I would want to do as far as pierced ears so I said fine, esp considering the 99.9% of the other things I get full say in.

Not that long ago he discussed it for some reason and he said he didn't care Of course now she's 3 1/2 and I think she'd probably be very upset getting it done. And I'm not even sure I would want to anyway. But in reference to your original question, in my case, since I have so much say around here in general, I let him have his way with stuff he feels strongly about. If it was something that was a huge life decision, it would be a different thing but with something small like this, it wouldn't matter to me.

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I got DD's ears pierced. DH was kind of at the idea, but I basically told him, listen, plenty of baby girls have this done and it will really really cute. She is going to pierce them eventually, why not do it now when she won't even know what is going on? I was 7 when mine were done and I was so dramatic about it... this way it's done, end of story. After I had them done, he loved the way they look. So basically, I listened to DH and did what I wanted anyway. It's not like I am tattooing the baby for crying out loud!

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His family reacted VERY strongly like you are kidding right??????? Ummm... what's the big deal?

They did make reference to seeing some babies with what I'd consider inappropriate earring selection, but tiny pearls?

I was given no other reason as to why it was such an absurd idea yet it's okay to do it when they are 5 or 6 years old?

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I think it looks precious. Piercing ears dates back centuries to religous meaning. There was a time when it meant a baby was blessed and of faith. You might want to find some resources on the net to the meanings and print it out. It might help him look at it differently then just a fashion statement. Just an idea...

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Posted by BlessedMommy

I think it looks precious. Piercing ears dates back centuries to religous meaning. There was a time when it meant a baby was blessed and of faith. You might want to find some resources on the net to the meanings and print it out. It might help him look at it differently then just a fashion statement. Just an idea...

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I am def going to do it as soon as the ped okays it at 4 months...

I had my ears pierced when I was 3 1/2 and it was a horrible experience..I still remember ...I constanlty played with them and I refused to let anyone turn them and they were constantly infected


Mys sister on the other hand had them pierce at about 2 months with no problem.

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I am not personally a big fan of it, but if you want to do it I say go ahead...however, I think its only fair that your husband has a say in this for your daughter.

You know men, you have to make them think that their opinions count you know!!

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I would just take her yourself and then show your DH it wasn't such a big deal, its better to get then done with there young anyway. I'm sure he will love them once he see's them done.

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DH and I are having this exact arrugment.. I want to get her ears pierced before her christening next month and he wants to wait.. He says earings are a sign of maturity.. i say to that .. Im taking her!!!

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I am all for piercing at 12 weeks and I don't care who was behind my choice or not. I would have went myself and got them done. No one (IL's) is telling me no when it comes to my daughter. My MIL never pierced her daughters ears but that's her and her choice. that's totally fine but she would never tell me what i can or can't do. If I want to pierce my DD's ears I most certainly will. I don't need permission from anyone.

DH was all for getting them pierced and very excited about it. But the topic was never open for discussion b/c she was getting them pierced. He would have to come up with something really good for me not to. But luckily we agree.

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I pierced Sara's ears when she turned one. I had to let her ears close up bt the time she was 20months because she kept ripping the earingss out of her ears . We even had screw back in.

I love how the earings look . I will re - pierce her ears when she is older.

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I did ddaat six months

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The twins dad wanted to wait until they were a bit older to get them done..we wound up getting them done when they were 2 1/2..it was tough on them and wish that I had gotten it done when they were infants. If he would like to wait until she is older older..like elementary school then OK but if he wants to wait until she is simply a bit older I would say to definitely do it now. The first hole is easy enough its the hole in the other ear that becomes the issue...