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yankinmanc
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
I am really surprised at the amount of people who would completely ignore their husband/partners feelings about something of this magnitude. I personally find that really sad and it makes me wonder about other people relationships...I think it shows a real lack of respect for your partner if you do something like this to your child without their approval.
As I am Jewish I wanted to have my son circumcised, and my husband, who has the utmost respect for me, my family and my religion agreed to it because he knew how important it was for me. Had he told me that this was something he didn't want to have done to our son, I would have not done it. End of story.
Anyway, thats just my opinion.
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Posted by racheeeee
I am really surprised at the amount of people who would completely ignore their husband/partners feelings about something of this magnitude.
I was just thinking that. I can only imagine what people would say if their spouse knowingly went behind their back and did something they didn't like.
And I think piercing ears is a pretty big deal.
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| Posted 1/19/08 4:14 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
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I would just take her yourself and then show your DH it wasn't such a big deal, its better to get then done with there young anyway. I'm sure he will love them once he see's them done.
I don't agree with this at all.
Maybe you can come to a compromise to get them done when she is older. I wouldn't blatantly go behind a spouses back because *I* think it's cute.
I only said that because she wants to get them done for her DD so bad! I wouldn't have that problem because my DH always agrees with me when it comes to my DD. I really don't think I wrote something so harsh to the OP, its ear piercing, not getting a tattoo--lol
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| Posted 1/19/08 4:19 PM |
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
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Posted by racheeeee
I am really surprised at the amount of people who would completely ignore their husband/partners feelings about something of this magnitude.
I was just thinking that. I can only imagine what people would say if their spouse knowingly went behind their back and did something they didn't like.
And I think piercing ears is a pretty big deal.
once again, I totally agree with you!
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| Posted 1/19/08 4:22 PM |
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
I agree that both parents should be in agreement. I just don't get why ear piercing is always such a touchy subject here 
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| Posted 1/19/08 4:25 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
What I'd like to know is the reason why the OP's dh doesn't want his daughter's ears pierced. Forget about the rest of the family. If I had a daughter and someone in my family told me not to do it, I would make my own decision...and probably do it anyway.
What is the big deal here? It's ear piercing...not a life altering situation...
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| Posted 1/19/08 4:36 PM |
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Would definitely NOT do it without my DH's consent....we just don't work like that. Like he wouldn't take Kerri and do something to her without discussing it with me.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
I would talk to him again & see if you can compromise.
I agree that ear piercing is not life-altering, but you need to come to some compromise. Doing it behind his back shouldn't be an option.
Along the same vein, I know if my husband felt piercing Maddie's nose was cute & went to get done after I told him I didn't want it done, I would be furious -- even if it closes up on his own.
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| Posted 1/19/08 4:46 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Forget everybody else, I think you and DH need to be in agreement though. For a number of reasons I am not for pierced ears until kids are older so if DH took DD to get hers pierced despite my feelings I would be livid.
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| Posted 1/19/08 5:55 PM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Well, I wouldn't just "do it" and then show DH. He had valid concerns about her health and safety. I told him I thought it would be easier when she is younger because she wouldn't be so aware of them as much as if she were older.
He said if I really wanted to do it then I can.
MIL is gonna be livid.
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| Posted 1/19/08 6:05 PM |
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Posted by dottiemchugh
I got DD's ears pierced. DH was kind of  at the idea, but I basically told him, listen, plenty of baby girls have this done and it will really really cute. She is going to pierce them eventually, why not do it now when she won't even know what is going on? I was 7 when mine were done and I was so dramatic about it... this way it's done, end of story. After I had them done, he loved the way they look. So basically, I listened to DH and did what I wanted anyway. It's not like I am tattooing the baby for crying out loud!
I feel the same way. Elizabeth is getting hers done next weekend.
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| Posted 1/19/08 6:12 PM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Sorry, my issue isn't about ear piercing in general, I am not against ear piercing if thats what you want. I was just disappointed that someone would disregard their husbands feelings.
Everyone always posts things like "How would this make you feel" or "I am so annoyed at so and so" because they disregarded your feelings etc and I always like to put myself in someone elses shoes before I make a decision that might hurt someone, I think about how I would feel if my husband completely disregarded my feelings about an issue that I was against, and I would be a MIGHTY pee-ed off woman...
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| Posted 1/19/08 6:16 PM |
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Posted by MrsBumbleb
MIL is gonna be livid.
She'll get over it.
I hope she doesn't think she has to right to scold you for making that decision for your OWN child.
Then I'd be livid.
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Posted by MrsBumbleb
I told him I thought it would be easier when she is younger because she wouldn't be so aware of them as much as if she were older.
I didn't pierce my DD's ears as babies. My almost 5 year old decided she wanted them done. When we took her, she barely cried and has been great with taking care of them and not touching them.
I'm glad I got them done when she was older. That way if something was wrong she could tell me.
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| Posted 1/19/08 8:11 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Posted by MrsBumbleb
Well, I wouldn't just "do it" and then show DH. He had valid concerns about her health and safety. I told him I thought it would be easier when she is younger because she wouldn't be so aware of them as much as if she were older.
He said if I really wanted to do it then I can.
MIL is gonna be livid.
Well that's no big deal. We just don't want you fighting with your husband....after all I heard you have this great weekend in the city planned.
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| Posted 1/19/08 8:21 PM |
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Posted by racheeeee
Sorry, my issue isn't about ear piercing in general, I am not against ear piercing if thats what you want. I was just disappointed that someone would disregard their husbands feelings.
Everyone always posts things like "How would this make you feel" or "I am so annoyed at so and so" because they disregarded your feelings etc and I always like to put myself in someone elses shoes before I make a decision that might hurt someone, I think about how I would feel if my husband completely disregarded my feelings about an issue that I was against, and I would be a MIGHTY pee-ed off woman...
I agree 10000% percent with this.
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dm24angel
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
I didnt see you answer why DH doesnt want it done?
My DH would go balistic if I did something he was against, even as small as ear piercing.
I think it means you should explain it to him more and Im sure he will come around.
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| Posted 1/19/08 8:33 PM |
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Posted by MrsBumbleb
Well, I wouldn't just "do it" and then show DH. He had valid concerns about her health and safety. I told him I thought it would be easier when she is younger because she wouldn't be so aware of them as much as if she were older.
He said if I really wanted to do it then I can.
MIL is gonna be livid.
Well that's a win-win-win then! You two are in agreement that she gets hear ears pierced, she looks cute for her Christening...and you get to annoy your MIL!
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Whatever happens, she will be adorable regardless!!!
Alex didn't have pierced ears for her Christening and I think she still looked great. But I am biased of course.
Actually, I would never even think to look at the baby's ears....
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| Posted 1/19/08 9:39 PM |
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
First, I think you and DH need to come to sort of agreement regardless of the magnitude esp. since he already voiced his opinion on it.
Posted by greeneyes361708
I didn't pierce my DD's ears as babies. My almost 5 year old decided she wanted them done. When we took her, she barely cried and has been great with taking care of them and not touching them.
I'm glad I got them done when she was older. That way if something was wrong she could tell me.
ITA with this approach. I'm all for waiting until she asks me for them and is ready to take care of them. I feel like I shouldn't inflict unnecessary pain on her without her "consent" I know sounds silly, but it's how I feel. However, I don't judge people that do it. I think it looks really cute and want to do it, but can't.
I had my ears pierced when I was older and it's a little scary and hurts for a few minutes, but I wanted them and I got over it.
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: I really want to pierce Clover's ears...
Posted by Palebride
Posted by MrsBumbleb
Well, I wouldn't just "do it" and then show DH. He had valid concerns about her health and safety. I told him I thought it would be easier when she is younger because she wouldn't be so aware of them as much as if she were older.
He said if I really wanted to do it then I can.
MIL is gonna be livid.
Well that's a win-win-win then! You two are in agreement that she gets hear ears pierced, she looks cute for her Christening...and you get to annoy your MIL!
  
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