If i don't like it i won't respond

To the people who wrote this in response to the other thread about lying in posts...

Why do you not respond?

Fearful of offending?
don't want to be rude?

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Sometimes I steer clear of posting on a thread because I know my opinion will cause drama and resentment from the poster and if I generally like the poster I don't wanna get into it.


But more often then not I jump in, rarely do I not

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Sometimes I just don't want to deal with the back and forth. People always have a comment, and then you feel you need to reply, and the cycle goes on and on.

Message edited 2/27/2006 6:58:00 PM.

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I do this on two occasions:
1. I have posted this particular opinion a million times.
2. I am going to disagree with someone that I always disagree with and I don't want that person to think that I simply have it out for them.

I have to say, neither happen very often.

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if i don't respond, its usually b/c i have a smart azz comment to make that someone will take personally.

or i just don't have an opinion on the topic

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Well depending on the topic i guess i understand why some just do not want drama

BUT if it is an opinion of a dress, shirt, nails etc...

Why not give it?

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well i know in liw, if you post you don't care for a dress or color or whathaveyou, you get ripped a new one. here, i dunno, i just don't always want to jump in

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IMO...if it were me andi wanted opinions on say a dress...

Well i would want the good and the bad

And i think people who do not post because they don't want to make the poster feel bad are doing them a disservice...no?

I mean if the poster saw only raves...its that real?

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There are two reasons why for me:

1. There are some posters who I feel are unable to see things from an alternate view, no matter how logical the argument or how even toned the post. It's just not worth my energy.


2. There are some posters who take everything incredibly personally and you cannot have a "discussion" with them without them complaining that they have been picked on. I find their mental state too fragile to argue with - and it's just not worth my energy.

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but to lie on here, is just weird

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Sometimes I feel like my comments will be taken the wrong way .
I feel like I am not nealry as good as expressing myself online vs. in person ( I am very animated)
also, I really not a big fan of conflict unless I am provoked.
I like to go in peace


ETA- I also don't respond when :
I have nothing valid to add to a post or if my opinion was expressed more then a couple of times.

Message edited 2/27/2006 7:18:31 PM.

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I think it's easier to express an honest opinion on here than LIW. Sometimes when people post pics and I don't think it looks good I won't respond either b/c I don't want to be rude or don't want to deal with the hypersensitivity of the poster. I think people get offended way too easily over there. If someone asks for honest opinions, I don't mind being honest. However, if you disagree with certain people on LIW, they or their friends go nuts. It's not worth the hassle.
ETA: If someone already bought a dress or booked a vendor and I thought the dress or trials looked horrible, there's no point in giving my opinion. I wouldn't want to make someone feel bad about something they already paid for.

Message edited 2/27/2006 7:20:16 PM.

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We all read posts that we don't respond to. Sometimes, if I just don't care, I won't bother responding. Also, as others are saying, some can't take an honest answer and I have no need to go back and forth.

I do think though that when people post a pic and say - do you like these shoes? - and there are 6 replies and 200 views - well, they got their answer!! LOL!

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Posted by leighla

Posted by Redhead

yea i see that....Lordy knows i can be a PITA myself when i feel strongly about something/issue/topic

But if a poster was to ask if we like a dress...?

That i just do not see the point in lying or not answering...

My thoughts on that:

When people say "Do you like this dress?" that they ALREADY BOUGHT, to me they are just fishing for complements and looking to hear what they want to hear. I don't answer those for the most part.


When people ask if I like something they haven't bought yet, I'll usually give my opinion, but I think it's all in the way you say it, whether you agree or disagree.


And then there are the people that seem to need validation for EVERY decision in their lives and in order for me not to scream "GET A BACKBONE AND MAKE UP YOUR OWN DAMN MIND!" I refrain from posting.

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Message edited 2/27/2006 7:23:54 PM.

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