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Andrewz00
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
i think its fine... you are just WISHING a merry Christmas.... just because they dont celebrate it doesn't mean it cant be merry!! They may think its funny when they open it but i dont think it would be offensive in anyway... after all isnt it the thought that counts?
we normally just get "Happy Holidays" cards....
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by Lina
I think it's fine. I celebrate Christmas but I wouldn't be offened if someone gave me a Hanukkah card. I think people are way to sensitive these days, just be happy someone thinks enough of you to wish you well.
ITA...in today's day and age too many people are rude to one another...I'll take whatever kindness I can get.
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| Posted 11/10/10 10:22 AM |
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heathergirl
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
I personally wouldn't. I would just get generic Happy Holidays cards for them.
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| Posted 11/10/10 12:06 PM |
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Otherme
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by Andrewz00
i think its fine... you are just WISHING a merry Christmas.... just because they dont celebrate it doesn't mean it cant be merry!! They may think its funny when they open it but i dont think it would be offensive in anyway... after all isnt it the thought that counts?
but you're wishing someone a merry holiday that they don't celebrate.. so there is no 'it' to be merry
i think a lot of non jewish people make the assumption that its ok to send a merry christmas card to someone who's jewish, because after all, its the sentiment that counts.
However, you're blatantly ignoring the fact that that person does not celebrate that holiday. It's like sending someone a happy Arbor Day card.. i'm sure the reaction of  would be the same
I have jewish friends who probably wouldn't care at all if someone sent them a merry christmas card, but i also have friends (and family) who would probably be pretty offended at my lack of sensitivity to their own religion if i did.
And IMO Santa is just as bad an image as a christmas tree or angel or jesus.. they're all Christmas images to a non catholic
IMO, you're always safer sending a Happy Holiday card to someone who you know doesn't celebrate christmas.
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MissRadiant
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by eddiesmommy
I do NOT care what some pre-printed hallmark, mass designed card says, but I DO appreciate the sentiment, and the well wishes and kind thoughts from friends and family during the holiday season. I appreciate the effort made to let me know they are thinking of our family, whether there is a christmas tree or a menorah on the card.
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Sometimes people need to just focus on the nice gesture and NOT look at what was done wrong. You truly can't please everyone and if its YOUR money and your cards- send whatever you feel comfortable sending.
Also I don't find it insensitive to receive cards that are not associated with my religious belief. It's not like people are sitting there thinking HAH! She's xyz religion let me send her a card from abc religion on purpose, that should make her uncomfortable.
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| Posted 11/10/10 12:55 PM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Before I did photo cards of my DD, I made a point to buy a separate pack of cards for my non-catholic friends.
Even now, if I remember correctly, I did "happy holidays" for the last two years because I send cards to a number of Jewish people.
I know "it's the thought that counts" but there's not much thought involved in sending a Jewish person a card celebrating a Christian holiday. It doesn't bother everyone, but it does bother some and I try to be sensitive to that.
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| Posted 11/10/10 12:55 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
What Ive learned on this board - the general public gets their panties in a bunch over such minutia sometimes. No wonder we have become such a PC nation. You have to walk on eggshells around EVERYONE.
Ive also learned that things that arrive in paper form, they cost five cents and are thrown out within 10 minutes and never thought of again, are the worst offenders. I.E. invites addressed improperly, thank you cards, and now apparently holiday cards.
WHO CARES?????!!!!!!
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| Posted 11/10/10 12:56 PM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by eddiesmommy
WHO CARES?????!!!!!!
The reason I'm sensitive to it is because a Jewish friend of mine told me that when she was a little girl - maybe 3 or 4 years old - she was in nursery school and the teacher was saying that Santa Claus came to the houses of all good little boys and girls on Christmas to give them presents.
And she knew Santa Claus didn't come to her house on Christmas. Because she was Jewish. So she thought she was bad. At 3 years old.
And this is where her general irritation for receiving Christmas cards came from. It stuck with me.
Now I'm not gonna lie and make myself sound like the most altruistic person ever -- my dad is Jewish so I've always grown up being conscious of what it is to be Jewish (even though I'm not)... but this particular issue for me is not about being PC. It's just about an extra level of consideration for people who are your friends..
I say Merry Christmas to my Catholic friends (as opposed to happy holidays) and a Christmas tree is a Christmas tree - not a fricken holiday bush or whatever 
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| Posted 11/10/10 1:03 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by eroxgirl
Posted by eddiesmommy
WHO CARES?????!!!!!!
The reason I'm sensitive to it is because a Jewish friend of mine told me that when she was a little girl - maybe 3 or 4 years old - she was in nursery school and the teacher was saying that Santa Claus came to the houses of all good little boys and girls on Christmas to give them presents.
And she knew Santa Claus didn't come to her house on Christmas. Because she was Jewish. So she thought she was bad. At 3 years old.
I get that, but Im talking in the context of my adult friends receiving a Christmas or Hanukkah card.
I dont understand why there needs to be all these rules and considerations......why cant you (general you) just be thankful that people are thinking of you?
I just dont get it, if they cards are coming from friends, Im assuming you know these people and are friends with them.....who really thinks that their OWN FRIENDS are inconsiderate and insensitive for sending the whatever holiday card. Do people really open cards from friends and think "ugh, how insensitive and inconsiderate of my FRIEND so and so, how dare they send me a card with Santa on it, and then totally disregard the thought and meaning behind the act?
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| Posted 11/10/10 1:08 PM |
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Christine
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by eddiesmommy
Posted by eroxgirl
Posted by eddiesmommy
WHO CARES?????!!!!!!
The reason I'm sensitive to it is because a Jewish friend of mine told me that when she was a little girl - maybe 3 or 4 years old - she was in nursery school and the teacher was saying that Santa Claus came to the houses of all good little boys and girls on Christmas to give them presents.
And she knew Santa Claus didn't come to her house on Christmas. Because she was Jewish. So she thought she was bad. At 3 years old.
I get that, but Im talking in the context of my adult friends receiving a Christmas or Hanukkah card.
I dont understand why there needs to be all these rules and considerations......why cant you (general you) just be thankful that people are thinking of you?
I just dont get it, if they cards are coming from friends, Im assuming you know these people and are friends with them.....who really thinks that their OWN FRIENDS are inconsiderate and insensitive for sending the whatever holiday card. Do people really open cards from friends and think "ugh, how insensitive and inconsiderate of my FRIEND so and so, how dare they send me a card with Santa on it, and then totally disregard the thought and meaning behind the act?
On the flip side, I know which of my friends celebrate Christmas and which ones don't so I take the extra step to send them the appropriate card. If I am going to complete disregard their religion, I may as well send an equally arbitrary Happy Anniversary card or just send Thinking of You card since that's the message you (general you) are trying to convey.
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| Posted 11/10/10 1:13 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by Christine
On the flip side, I know which of my friends celebrate Christmas and which ones don't so I take the extra step to send them the appropriate card. If I am going to complete disregard their religion, I may as well send an equally arbitrary Happy Anniversary card or just send Thinking of You card since that's the message you (general you) are trying to convey.
I just dont see it as a disregard of their religion, but as a "hey, Im thinking of you and wishing you well during the holidays." I think its looking into it too much. I would never in a million years accuse my friends of blatant disregard for my religion or being disrespectful......I know they wouldnt, I would just take it for what it is, a kind gesture.
I dont know, I guess my friends and I are just not that sensitive and just appreciate and kind thought, regardless of the form its in or the picture on it.
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PrincessVonTrockel
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
DH & I take a photo with Santa and send out our pic.....its printed at the mall with "Season's Greetings"
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| Posted 11/10/10 1:15 PM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by eddiesmommy
I get that, but Im talking in the context of my adult friends receiving a Christmas or Hanukkah card.
I dont understand why there needs to be all these rules and considerations......why cant you (general you) just be thankful that people are thinking of you?
I just dont get it, if they cards are coming from friends, Im assuming you know these people and are friends with them.....who really thinks that their OWN FRIENDS are inconsiderate and insensitive for sending the whatever holiday card. Do people really open cards from friends and think "ugh, how insensitive and inconsiderate of my FRIEND so and so, how dare they send me a card with Santa on it, and then totally disregard the thought and meaning behind the act?
I'm just saying for my friend, it started that young and it didn't get better from there. And as an adult it still bothered her... it caused an insecurity in her that she otherwise may not have felt.
But really, what IS the meaning behind wishing a Merry Christmas to someone who doens't celebrate it? Where is the thought? Do you wish your mom a happy birthday on your father's birthday just because you were already buying him a card? kwim? Do you send your dad a Mother's day card (assuming you were raised by both parents)?
And there may be another dimension to this that I'm aware of because I suffered it first hand with my Jewish last name - being called a Christ killer and other delightful things as a kid... this stuff sticks with you.
I'm sure no one is ending friendships because of it, because that would be equally silly, I just think it's appreciated MORE if you make the extra effort to remember not everyone is the same.
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| Posted 11/10/10 1:26 PM |
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GinaR
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
I don't see a problem with it. People send me Chaunika(sp?) cards and it doesn't bother me.
I agree with the poster that said to hand write a happy holidays or happy whatever they celebrate on the card. No need to go out and buy more cards. its the sentiment that counts.
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| Posted 11/10/10 1:26 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Done. So silly.
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| Posted 11/10/10 1:27 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
I celebrate Christmas -- I like saying Merry Christmas.
People get Merry Christmas on their cards.
If they don't like it -- oh freaking well.
That's just how I roll. 
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| Posted 11/10/10 1:35 PM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Sometimes i get Merry Christmas, sometimes i get Happy Holidays, sometimes i get Seasons Greetings... it all depends on which card i like the best... to be honest i only have 1 jewish person that i send a card to...
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| Posted 11/10/10 1:38 PM |
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julesrbf
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
I only buy "Happy Holidays" cards. Just my preference. Don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable.
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| Posted 11/10/10 1:43 PM |
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Otherme
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by eroxgirl
Posted by eddiesmommy
I get that, but Im talking in the context of my adult friends receiving a Christmas or Hanukkah card.
I dont understand why there needs to be all these rules and considerations......why cant you (general you) just be thankful that people are thinking of you?
I just dont get it, if they cards are coming from friends, Im assuming you know these people and are friends with them.....who really thinks that their OWN FRIENDS are inconsiderate and insensitive for sending the whatever holiday card. Do people really open cards from friends and think "ugh, how insensitive and inconsiderate of my FRIEND so and so, how dare they send me a card with Santa on it, and then totally disregard the thought and meaning behind the act?
I'm just saying for my friend, it started that young and it didn't get better from there. And as an adult it still bothered her... it caused an insecurity in her that she otherwise may not have felt.
But really, what IS the meaning behind wishing a Merry Christmas to someone who doens't celebrate it? Where is the thought? Do you wish your mom a happy birthday on your father's birthday just because you were already buying him a card? kwim? Do you send your dad a Mother's day card (assuming you were raised by both parents)?
And there may be another dimension to this that I'm aware of because I suffered it first hand with my Jewish last name - being called a Christ killer and other delightful things as a kid... this stuff sticks with you.
I'm sure no one is ending friendships because of it, because that would be equally silly, I just think it's appreciated MORE if you make the extra effort to remember not everyone is the same.
I totally agree
My DH had similar experiences (he's jewish) and the holiday time brings up a lot of uncomfortable feelings for him.
We inevitably get into a discussion every year about how he feels as a jew having christmas shoved down his throat by everyone around him, when he doesn't celebrate it, and how he's made to feel like an outsider sometimes because of it.
So because of my new-found knowledge and understanding, i will go that extra step to make sure that my friends get wished the appropriate holiday message.
The LAST thing i want to do during any holiday season is to make someone feel bad
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| Posted 11/10/10 2:17 PM |
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by jlk51496
For the 2 or 3 that do not celebrate Christmas I just hand write happy holidays or whatever they celebrate on the inside of their card!
i do this too!
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| Posted 11/10/10 2:36 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
I USUALLY make the effort to send Chanukah card to those who celebrate Chanukah and Happy Holidays cards to those who either celebrate Christmas or are in interfaith relationships.
I appreciate when people make the effort to do the same but I don't expect it. Much in the same way that I don't expect retail stores to cater to my faith by providing adequate Chanukah decorations for sale or in the window display. It is simply something I am used to.
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Jax430
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by eddiesmommy
Done. So silly.
Really, just b/c others have a differing opinion from you doesn't make it a silly discussion! Also, I don't throw out cards 5 minutes after receiving them as previously stated...I hold onto letters, cards, invitations, etc.
Yes, I appreciate being thought of around the holidays even if the card says "Merry Christmas," but I even more so appreciate the non-Jewish friend who goes out of the way to recognize that I celebrate Chanukah.
FWIW, I'm not going to have a "Merry Christmas." I don't celebrate it. I am however, going to have a very happy "Jew Movie Day", so feel free to send me a card for that occasion!
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| Posted 11/10/10 3:02 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by Jax430
Posted by eddiesmommy
Done. So silly.
Really, just b/c others have a differing opinion from you doesn't make it a silly discussion! Also, I don't throw out cards 5 minutes after receiving them as previously stated...I hold onto letters, cards, invitations, etc.
Yes really. It had nothing to do with others opinions, they can have different opinions. I didnt say the discussion was silly. It was a silly thing FOR ME to keep going back and forth on. As it is my life and my time, if I felt it was too insignificant a topic for me to continue to go back and forth on, and it would just be silly to do so.
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| Posted 11/10/10 3:04 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
Posted by eddiesmommy
Posted by Jax430
Posted by eddiesmommy
Done. So silly.
Really, just b/c others have a differing opinion from you doesn't make it a silly discussion! Also, I don't throw out cards 5 minutes after receiving them as previously stated...I hold onto letters, cards, invitations, etc.
Yes really. It had nothing to do with others opinions, they can have different opinions. It was a silly thing FOR ME to keep going back and forth on. As it is my life and my time, if I felt it was too insignificant a topic for me to continue to go back and forth on, and it would just be silly to do so.
Gotcha...I misunderstood out of context.
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| Posted 11/10/10 3:08 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: If I got cards that say Merry Christmas, is it ok to send to those who dont celebrate?
I'm jewish. I don't expect everyone to send me a happy holidays/happy hanukah card, particularly people/companies I don't know very well. BUT, with that said, when someone does go out of their way to send me something that is more appropriate for my faith, I am very touched and it is truly appreciated.
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