If your family lives close by...

How often do they see your kids?
IL's, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles Etc... ?

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My Inlaws and my mom see my son everyday (in laws live next door, mom lives 20 mins away). My Dad lives 2 hrs away and sees him once a week.

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well,my parents watch DD every day while I am at work...so she sees them every day - my sister also stops by pretty much every day on her way home from work to see her.

She sees DHs sisters and parents every other week or so. I wish it were more often but everyones schedules are so crazy...

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My mom lives 20-25 min away and she sees DD 1-2x/week.

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My son sees my inlaws about 3 times a week and my parents about once a week.

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My parents see him every week...maybe twice in a week. My MIL sees him once a month and my FIL, maybe once in a while...

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MIL once or twice a week, my family at least twice a week, and SIL and BIL - the ones that live close, every 2 weeks or so.

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My mom all the time sometimes 5x week...she lives 10 mins away.
She also watches him for me when I go to the gym.

Mil/FIL live in Florida, so when they come up here.

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My dad lives upstairs and with work, etc. he sees DS about 1 -2 times a week. ILs live in LI and they see DS maybe once a month. They have not seen him since the week of Xmas.

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My mother a few times a week. My retired father...every day. When I go back to work next week DD will be at the house with both of them. MIL lives upstate...she's been here once since DD was born for Thanksgiving.

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My ILs see Nate 2-3 times a week. DH's sister (and Nate's godmother) who lives less than 10 min away, sees Nate may 2 or 3 times a year. At first her excuse was alway she didn't have a car. We offered many times to pick her up or come to her place, but she always found a way out. Now she has a car and we still have not seen her. So we've given up on trying together with her.

My parents and family live in NY, so they see him every 2-3 months. Either we will go there or my mom will come to Chicago

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My mom and MIL each watch Luca 2 afternoons a week. My sister sees him once a week, my SIL and BIL probably every 2 weeks- sometimes more, sometimes less.

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My mom lives about 5 mins away and sees them pretty often. If she doesn't come over here after work she goes to visit my grandma.

My brother and his fiancee live in the next town over but only come over like once a month. But my FSIL lost her dad suddenly right after Thanksgiving so she spends a lot of time with her family. My brother's shift changes from days to nights every other week, so he's usually trying to catch up on sleep.

BIL and his finacee live about 30 mins away and come 2x per month.

ILs split their time between FL and Coram. When they are up they insist on coming over everyday, but MIL is on her phone or yammering away to me the whole time, pretty much ignoring both and FIL only plays with Sarah, Andy is "too wiggly" for him.

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To answer my own question...
My parents and my sister see them a couple times a week (they live across the street)
my MIL hasn't seen them since Christmas.. she lives less than 5 minutes away.. the only time she sees them is if I call her and need her to watch them.. so I've stopped doing that all together.. if she's not going to make and effort
my BIL's haven't seen them since Christmas and before that probably Thanksgiving

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Every weekend for my DH family. My Mom sees them everyday. My family, a couple timesa month.

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My parents live next door and get to see DS very often.

We have some family nearby that comes to visit.

We have some IL's in Commack that do not come and visit. The only way they get to see DS is if we got out there... I really think it's so freaking unfair how we always have to go out to them all the time. The only time they come into queens is if their is a birthday or if someone hosts christmas eve. So really if we're lucky the IL's will come to us oh once or twice a year. But we always have to go running out there. My MIL lives downstairs from my BIL's house she doesn't know how to drive so that's why we go to that BIL's house more often than the other. But the other brother cannot be bothered with coming into queens. They never came to see DS after we came home from the hospital. We're lucky they even came to the hospital. I can go on and on but I think i'll stop.

All i'm gonna say is that things are gonna change...

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If noone makes the effort than neither will we. We can do the same and only go out there for birthdays.

My MIL always says how it sucks that she can't come down by us as often as she'd like to. She does make the effort when she can. She's taken the LIRR into queens. When she does she goes to her daughter's house in queens and she also makes a visit by us. Or sometimes she stays at our house. My FIL comes every now and then but other than that noone and I do mean noone else makes the effort.

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My inlaws are next door. MIL pops in everyday which I don't mind at all.
My parents are about 10 mins away and see Bryan at least 2x a week.
My sister has been babysitting on Wed. nights and my brother sees him once a week.
My BIL and SIL live in NJ and still have not met him, but we have it planned for this Sunday for them to meet.

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Posted by JennChris

To answer my own question...
My parents and my sister see them a couple times a week (they live across the street)
my MIL hasn't seen them since Christmas.. she lives less than 5 minutes away.. the only time she sees them is if I call her and need her to watch them.. so I've stopped doing that all together.. if she's not going to make and effort
my BIL's haven't seen them since Christmas and before that probably Thanksgiving

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MIL/FIL see him mostly every day. My one brother sees him maybe once a month and my other brother who is in the Army sees him if he's lucky once a year.

My father who lives in FL has never seen him YET!

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Posted by bedda26
It's not fair how we always have to make the effort...

Exactly.. I have 2 kids and I'm pregnant... i don't have to come look for you.. and I don't need to hear how you miss the kids if YOU don't come see them

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Posted by JennChris

Posted by bedda26
It's not fair how we always have to make the effort...

Exactly.. I have 2 kids and I'm pregnant... i don't have to come look for you.. and I don't need to hear how you miss the kids if YOU don't come see them

But because we are the ones who only have 1 child it's assumed it's a lot easier for us to go out to commack.

We could have 20 kids and we'd still have to be the ones to go out to them.

It's all going to change.

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My immediate family about 3-4 times a week. But I am a SAHM and my mother is not working right now so we get together a lot during the week, and she watches him for me quite a lot so I can go to the gym. My DH is a Brit and my IL's are in London. So far my MIL has come twice and we have gone there once. We'll see her again during the summer.

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Posted by nylisa

Posted by bedda26

Posted by JennChris

Posted by bedda26
It's not fair how we always have to make the effort...

Exactly.. I have 2 kids and I'm pregnant... i don't have to come look for you.. and I don't need to hear how you miss the kids if YOU don't come see them

But because we are the ones who only have 1 child it's assumed it's a lot easier for us to go out to commack.

We could have 20 kids and we'd still have to be the ones to go out to them.

It's all going to change.

My ILs do and say the same thing and we only live a 1/2 hour away in Bklyn.