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mosh913
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I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
I have learned so much from these boards from TTC to being pregnant and now being a mom.
I'm getting myself so neurotic with all these posts about autism. Anybody else feel this way? Sorry to offend anybody, just how I feel.
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Porrruss
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Nope- I was neurotic LONG before
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mosh913
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by Porrruss
Nope- I was neurotic LONG before
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Yes, me too  But I just feel that the posts on this has really picked up
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by mosh913
I have learned so much from these boards from TTC to being pregnant and now being a mom.
I'm getting myself so neurotic with all these posts about autism. Anybody else feel this way? Sorry to offend anybody, just how I feel.
I think its natural to be concerned. I know I was all through my pregnancy since I'm in the field and see it everyday. But honestly, autism is not the only thing that can be wrong with your child, unfortunately. So, really, I can stay up all night worrying about SIDS, autism, cancer, someone kidnapping him, hurting him, shooting him in school, getting hit by a car, having a stroke, getting a tick bite, etc etc etc... How can anyone ever truly rest when they have a child?
So, I do the best I can to just stay in the moment, know anything can happen, and pray that it doesn't!
Welcome to motherhood! 
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by Porrruss
Nope- I was neurotic LONG before
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ME TOO!!!!!
I prefer to be a closet neurotic and worry in private. I tend not to touch the Autism posts..I guess it comes from having a child with a disability.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by MsKitty1274
Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
Oooh - well said 
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by MsKitty1274
Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
Well said.
It makes me sad when people post that they would devastated if their child turns to have any kind of developmental disability. It also makes me sad that there are people that are ashamed of it. You just have to learn to accept the things you have no control over and take things as they come 
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shellybean
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
i think the boards get in a "groove" like last week was BPA, this week is autism, next week will be MIL's again!!!
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by MsKitty1274
Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
Well said.
It makes me sad when people post that they would devastated if their child turns to have any kind of developmental disability. It also makes me sad that there are people that are ashamed of it. You just have to learn to accept the things you have no control over and take things as they come
I agree....
When you sign up to be a parent, you sign up for anything that comes with a child.... You can't be guaranteed that they will have easy personalities, or a calm disposition. Same thing goes with what they are capable of learning or doing.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by MsKitty1274
Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
Well said.
It makes me sad when people post that they would devastated if their child turns to have any kind of developmental disability. It also makes me sad that there are people that are ashamed of it. You just have to learn to accept the things you have no control over and take things as they come
I agree....
When you sign up to be a parent, you sign up for anything that comes with a child.... You can't be guaranteed that they will have easy personalities, or a calm disposition. Same thing goes with what they are capable of learning or doing.
While I understand the above , I think any parent would be devestated to hear anything negative about their child. As parents we all want the very best for our children and in some ways, when a child is diagnosed with anything it can be devastating. If it happens nothing changes regarding the love I have for my child but I would still be devastated as I know life would be more challengng for my son in many ways, and that's ok but I understand why paretns say that.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by Porrruss
Nope- I was neurotic LONG before
LIF......
Same here. I can't read the autism or BPA posts anymore in order to preserve what is left of my diminishing sanity. 
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Porrruss
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Hell- at least there're no posts about dogs in stores
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jules
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by mosh913
I have learned so much from these boards from TTC to being pregnant and now being a mom.
I'm getting myself so neurotic with all these posts about autism. Anybody else feel this way? Sorry to offend anybody, just how I feel.
honestly YES. And i post on all the threads on the subject.
But in all fairness i was neurotic about the subject way before these threads. IMO Autism has hit a high in public awareness so it is in my ear no matter what. It is Autism awareness month as well, there are now plays and signs...I mean i think it is SOOO much in the public that it stays in my mind everyday.
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jules
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by MsKitty1274
Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
Well said.
It makes me sad when people post that they would devastated if their child turns to have any kind of developmental disability. It also makes me sad that there are people that are ashamed of it. You just have to learn to accept the things you have no control over and take things as they come
I agree....
When you sign up to be a parent, you sign up for anything that comes with a child.... You can't be guaranteed that they will have easy personalities, or a calm disposition. Same thing goes with what they are capable of learning or doing.
Very true....But come on now in all fairness, learning that your child has autism IS DEVESTATING. It is almost a loss of sorts.
YES you will always be their parent and love them unconditionally. And i as a parent would only HOPE that i could be HALF the mother that my friend is to her autistic son. I would like to think would and could rise to meet the challenge.
But you can't deny that it isn't devestating. It is a HARD life. I watch a few friends and i see how they get treated. Some by not so nice by their own friggin families. It isn't and will never be an easy life to live. But in the end you make the best of it and you love your child no matter what.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by mosh913
I have learned so much from these boards from TTC to being pregnant and now being a mom.
I'm getting myself so neurotic with all these posts about autism. Anybody else feel this way? Sorry to offend anybody, just how I feel.
I think its natural to be concerned. I know I was all through my pregnancy since I'm in the field and see it everyday. But honestly, autism is not the only thing that can be wrong with your child, unfortunately. So, really, I can stay up all night worrying about SIDS, autism, cancer, someone kidnapping him, hurting him, shooting him in school, getting hit by a car, having a stroke, getting a tick bite, etc etc etc... How can anyone ever truly rest when they have a child?
So, I do the best I can to just stay in the moment, know anything can happen, and pray that it doesn't!
Welcome to motherhood!
It is so true....Never in my life have I been more afraid of everything until I became a mother.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
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Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by MsKitty1274
Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
Well said.
It makes me sad when people post that they would devastated if their child turns to have any kind of developmental disability. It also makes me sad that there are people that are ashamed of it. You just have to learn to accept the things you have no control over and take things as they come
I agree....
When you sign up to be a parent, you sign up for anything that comes with a child.... You can't be guaranteed that they will have easy personalities, or a calm disposition. Same thing goes with what they are capable of learning or doing.
Very true....But come on now in all fairness, learning that your child has autism IS DEVESTATING. It is almost a loss of sorts.
YES you will always be their parent and love them unconditionally. And i as a parent would only HOPE that i could be HALF the mother that my friend is to her autistic son. I would like to think would and could rise to meet the challenge.
But you can't deny that it isn't devestating. It is a HARD life. I watch a few friends and i see how they get treated. Some by not so nice by their own friggin families. It isn't and will never be an easy life to live. But in the end you make the best of it and you love your child no matter what.
I know it's a hard life, I live it with my own child who has developmental delays. I can honestly say I was never devasatated though. Especially after I walked today in the March of Dimes walk for babies that didn't even make it. I'm thankful for my children and any disability they come with and would never for one minute think of it as a loss. Maybe I have a different outlook though
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by MsKitty1274
Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
ITA
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jules
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by Summerrluvv
I know it's a hard life, I live it with my own child who has developmental delays. I can honestly say I was never devasatated though. Especially after I walked today in the March of Dimes walk for babies that didn't even make it. I'm thankful for my children and any disability they come with and would never for one minute think of it as a loss. Maybe I have a different outlook though
well i agree with you there. You live it. I don't. I don't know how i would feel when faced with this kind of challenge.
I guess i have seen a sadder, harder side. I have two very good friends with autistic children. And it is hard. Everyday it is a challenge for them. It was devestating for them to learn that their children have this. I know i would be. I don't there is anything sad about that. I think it is a natural human response for many.
But i also commend them. On the hardest, most challenging days you see the love shine through.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
No - I'm generally optimistic, pretty laid back, and we (DH and I) both come from large families and no problems knock on wood -- so, no.
I take that back - my nephew has Ausbergers - but wasn't diagnosed until recently and it actually came as a relief to know that his behavior wasn't "intentional", if that makes sense.
There are so many tragedies that can befall us as parents - but I can't spend my time worrying about them all.
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michele31
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
I can tell you that it is devastating to find out that your child has has autism. I have watched my brother and his girlfriend love their child while watching their life's dreams change everyday. To say that a parent should just accept it is very easy but to give up the idea of throwing a baseball to your child, to your child hugging you or saying Mommy or taking your child to Disneyland or see your child go to their Prom or get married someday. My nephew will never do those things. So a parent of any disabled child has to mourn the life they thought their child would have and move forward with the life their child can have. It takes time.
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snowflake08
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
I think it is important to also remember that there are very different "degrees" of Autism
I have seen autistic children in CTT classes, and some of them are smarter than the general ed. kids!
While I think that no one wants anything to be less than perfect with their child, we love them all the same.
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
While I understand the above , I think any parent would be devestated to hear anything negative about their child. As parents we all want the very best for our children and in some ways, when a child is diagnosed with anything it can be devastating. If it happens nothing changes regarding the love I have for my child but I would still be devastated as I know life would be more challengng for my son in many ways, and that's ok but I understand why paretns say that.
You took the words right out of my mouth......
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by snowflake08
I think it is important to also remember that there are very different "degrees" of Autism
I have seen autistic children in CTT classes, and some of them are smarter than the general ed. kids!
While I think that no one wants anything to be less than perfect with their child, we love them all the same.
Excellent point!!
So many diff degrees. Some children on the spectrum are very affectionate and loving and smart etc..they just have a few things that are "different" but can be worked with.
And some children it is absolutely devestating. Especially cases where you have a perfectly normal developing child and to see the regression must be heartbreaking.
You know, it made me so upset when Johnny started early intervention...I really didn't view him going through it, it was overwhelming and terrifying. BUT nothing changes how I feel about him and never will. He's my child! My sweet baby who brings my joy every day.
And like others have said..NOTHING in life is certain. Autism is one worry of many unfortunately. And from day one of being a parent, everything makes you crazy and nervous. You just have to relax, do your job and know you are doing the best by your baby. Should problems arise know that god does NOT give you more than you can handle, I firmly 100% believe that. I know that I am Johnny's mom because he is the perfect child for me...someone else may have left him on the steps of the orphanage by now
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
I wouldn't say neurotic, concerened, yes, but neurotic, no. Personally, I think part of the reason autism is on the rise is that doctors are much more aware of it and therefore, recognize it more often. I know some adults I would swear have Asperger's or something like that, but were never diagnosed with autism. They went on to have full lives (except for one). This is my theory.
As a pp said, anything can happen to our DC. And while autism could be devastating, there are things that could be worse. We just don't know. And while you can worry all you want, it won't protect them. Educate yourself yes, but at some point, I think you just have to recognize you have done the best you can and hope all will be well.
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