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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
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Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
Well said.
It makes me sad when people post that they would devastated if their child turns to have any kind of developmental disability. It also makes me sad that there are people that are ashamed of it. You just have to learn to accept the things you have no control over and take things as they come 
I agree....
When you sign up to be a parent, you sign up for anything that comes with a child.... You can't be guaranteed that they will have easy personalities, or a calm disposition. Same thing goes with what they are capable of learning or doing.
Very true....But come on now in all fairness, learning that your child has autism IS DEVESTATING. It is almost a loss of sorts.
YES you will always be their parent and love them unconditionally. And i as a parent would only HOPE that i could be HALF the mother that my friend is to her autistic son. I would like to think would and could rise to meet the challenge.
But you can't deny that it isn't devestating. It is a HARD life. I watch a few friends and i see how they get treated. Some by not so nice by their own friggin families. It isn't and will never be an easy life to live. But in the end you make the best of it and you love your child no matter what.
I know it's a hard life, I live it with my own child who has developmental delays. I can honestly say I was never devasatated though. Especially after I walked today in the March of Dimes walk for babies that didn't even make it. I'm thankful for my children and any disability they come with and would never for one minute think of it as a loss. Maybe I have a different outlook though 
Summer, I totally agree with you, coming from a family that also had a sister who was disabled. I never found it to be "the hard life". However, when I went for my MSW everything that was stated when referring to developmentally disabled was how the mother "mourns" the life of the "perfect" child etc.... I fought it to no end but still to this day...this is what I hear. Dont know if it is text repeating itself or therapists with actual understanding of what a family goes through. I found those discussions heartwrenching and unexplainable.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
No, not because of posts on here.
You are definitely going to see alot more talk of Autism this month because it IS Autism Awareness month so that's normal.
I worry about things happening to my child the way any mother worries. But I don't tend to be neurotic in general so this is no different. Autism was definitely more of a concern for me than say, SIDS. But I wouldn't say I was neurotic about it.
And I do think that anyone whose child is diagnosed with any form Autism has every right to feel howEVER they feel. I think devastated and mournful are two very valid reactions. And then there are some people that deal with things differently and they are entitled to that outlook as well.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by Porrruss
Nope- I was neurotic LONG before
LIF......
Same here.
I try not to get neurotic about the things I cannot control, but I will say that I try to get as much information as I can from a variety of sources. To be honest I have become a total conspiracy theorist about certain things, and do not always trust information from government sources. Many times I look outside the US as medically speaking, it seems to be more complete information.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
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I have learned so much from these boards from TTC to being pregnant and now being a mom.
I'm getting myself so neurotic with all these posts about autism. Anybody else feel this way? Sorry to offend anybody, just how I feel.
I think its natural to be concerned. I know I was all through my pregnancy since I'm in the field and see it everyday. But honestly, autism is not the only thing that can be wrong with your child, unfortunately. So, really, I can stay up all night worrying about SIDS, autism, cancer, someone kidnapping him, hurting him, shooting him in school, getting hit by a car, having a stroke, getting a tick bite, etc etc etc... How can anyone ever truly rest when they have a child?
So, I do the best I can to just stay in the moment, know anything can happen, and pray that it doesn't!
Welcome to motherhood!
very well said. in the last few weeks of my pregnancy i was spending every friday in the child neurology clinic treating children with autism. probably not the best idea for a soon-to-be mom 
but i can't get myself neurotic over it. i've got to just do the best i can, enjoy every moment with my son, and pray for the best.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by MsKitty1274
Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
I agree.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by MsKitty1274
Nope. Things are what they are. Things will be what they will be. I know there are some things I can control in my child's life, but I cannot control everything.
I agree.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
While I understand the above , I think any parent would be devestated to hear anything negative about their child. As parents we all want the very best for our children and in some ways, when a child is diagnosed with anything it can be devastating. If it happens nothing changes regarding the love I have for my child but I would still be devastated as I know life would be more challengng for my son in many ways, and that's ok but I understand why paretns say that.
I agree with this! We all want the best and easiest life for our children and while many are fortunate to have very functioning children with autism, some are not so lucky. It is a life long struggle for both the parents and children.
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Ladies - I wanted to be clearer because I think I was misunderstood.
I'm not saying it isn't difficult to have a child with a disability, or that one should not be upset if they find there is something that is not right with their child.
I was saying that as SOON as you get that BFP on your stick, your days of worrying begin, and they never, ever, EVER end. Ever. So, you can drive yourself crazy with everything that can possibly happen to your child from A to Z and back again, or acknowledge that as parents, we have to realize that life is as risky as it is wonderful, and do whatever we can to successfully rest our heads on our pillows every night....
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
Posted by michele31
I can tell you that it is devastating to find out that your child has has autism. I have watched my brother and his girlfriend love their child while watching their life's dreams change everyday. To say that a parent should just accept it is very easy but to give up the idea of throwing a baseball to your child, to your child hugging you or saying Mommy or taking your child to Disneyland or see your child go to their Prom or get married someday. My nephew will never do those things. So a parent of any disabled child has to mourn the life they thought their child would have and move forward with the life their child can have. It takes time.
well said, and some people will NEVER understand this
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Re: I'll probably start drama but is anybody else becoming neurotic with all these autism posts??
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Posted by michele31
I can tell you that it is devastating to find out that your child has has autism. I have watched my brother and his girlfriend love their child while watching their life's dreams change everyday. To say that a parent should just accept it is very easy but to give up the idea of throwing a baseball to your child, to your child hugging you or saying Mommy or taking your child to Disneyland or see your child go to their Prom or get married someday. My nephew will never do those things. So a parent of any disabled child has to mourn the life they thought their child would have and move forward with the life their child can have. It takes time.
well said, and some people will NEVER understand this
Yes, well said. Parents of a child with any disability actually go through the same stages of grief...
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