it's weird b/c it happened so easily for us (the getting pregnant) that i had this fear it would be taken away - it was almost like the intuition i had about being pregnant - but i thought i was just being paranoid like everyone is in the beginning...
i am trying to keep it together. i am actually doing better than i thought i would - i don't know if it's b/c it hasn't sunk in 100% yet or what...my DH is really upset so I am trying to be the rock...
thank again girls
it was easy for us too the first time. The 2nd time took a ton of trying and calculating, etc. but finally after 9+ months it did happen for us.
I also just wanted to say... about the intuition thing... the first time around... I felt like something wasn't right and things were going to not only end abruptly but everytime someone would say something like "when the baby comes" my first thought was "there isn't going to be a baby" and IDK what it was other than some strange intuition. I just knew. This time around, I feel the complete opposite. Like things will be fine and there will be a baby in the end. Of course after you experience this sort of thing, there is always a different sort of worry involved... but I feel the same sort of intuition as last time, just on the positive. it's almost hard to explain...
Also, for me... it took about 12 hours to sink in. I think there is def a shock phase you go through when you had no signs of anything bad and then find out at a dr appt that things didn't work out. You don't have the cramping or blood to almost prepare you mentally for the possibility of their being a problem. It can be more shocking to find out the way you did (which is also what happened with me).
it's a good time to lean on eachother. Be there for him when he needs it, and he can be there for you when you need it.
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how painful emotionally it is. My D&C was fairly easy, was put under anesthesia, woke up with no pain and had minimal bleeding. FM me if you want to talk/have any questions.
