I am so sorry for your loss. I had a MC in August. It is such a difficult thing to go through. I had a d & c I will friend you and let you know how it was.
I had two miscarriages last year, prior to my current pregnancy (38 weeks). Unfortunately it is far more common than we expect with miscarriages..atleast 25%. Not that some statistics make it better...but just know you are not alone. And more importantly you will go on to have a healthy pregnancy!!!!!
If you have any questions please feel free to FM me. Unfortunately for both of my m/c's I did not have the D&C...so I cant help there.
Take the time you need to heal.
Just know in the end everything will work out.
Goodluck with the counselor, and prayers that everything is fine.
thank you to everyone who sent me FMs. my DH read them with me and although we are both so sorry that anyone else had to go through this it made us feel better knowing that other people made it through - it always helps when someone tells you that have been there too and that there is a light and the end of the tunnel so to speak i am going to get back to all of you that reached out but i'm not sure if i'll be on the rest of today or tomorrow to write...
last night it really sunk in. i cried more hours than i slept. now i just wait to see the doctor and will take it from there.
i also had a terrible experience with the genetic counseling part of the visit b/c i don't think the doc was even a genetic counselor! it was like he had no knowledge of the disease and he kept confusing it for something else and we had to keep explaining ourselves over and over - eventually he "called" a genetic counselor to get more info but it didn't matter b/c i'm almost 100% sure he was asking about the wrong disease. all he told me was that i should find out the exact gene from my aunt so i can be tested for it to see if i am a carrier. my family was under the impression that both of us needed to be carriers for the disease to present itself and we thought that we'd get the odds of me being a carrier and if so what the odds were of our children having the disease. i figured at that point we could decide to get tested. i'm def going to complain to the ob when i see her b/c we basically went there (over 1 hour from our house!) to wait over for over an hour to be told i lost the baby and then get rushed out by the doctor. i didn't find out anything more than i already knew and the appointment was a total waste. considering the circumstances the appt was really aggravating and now i'm more upset and worried about this whole genetics stuff than i was to begin with.
so between losing the baby and now worrying if my genes are bad i am a wreck.
