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Michelle1123
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I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
My DH tricked me into getting a puppy in April. I fell in love with him instantly, but since I was spending all of my free time with my mom at that time (she was in hospice) we agreed he would handle the vet, housebreaking, etc.
He never did.
Fast forward to after my mom died. I worked so hard with this puppy to housebreak him and nothing worked! I read books, researched online, tried EVERYTHING and nothing worked. My house has a constant smell of pee. We had him in a crate and he would just go in the crate and then it would take me an hour everyday after work to bathe him and clean up the crate and surrounding area.
Then I got pregnant, and I started freaking out about taking care of this very needy puppy and a baby. Then, he pushed me over the edge while cleaning up his pee one day. He came right over and peed ON MY HAND while I was wiping up the puddle from earlier.
So I told DH I was going to try and find him a home because I couldnt do it anymore.
He just called me and said he found someone who wants him. I know the lady and know he would be in good hands. I just feel so guilty giving up this poor puppy who really did nothing wrong. DH thought I would be happy but I really feel like crying. So I told him I would bring the puppy to her on Sunday, but nw I'm having second thoughts. I just feel so bad and I really LOVE him. I know that giving him up is best for our family, but I'm having a tough time with this!
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
I know it must be hard. As bad a puppies can be, we still love them!
Did you try a trainer or classes?
Maybe giving the puppy to someone else is the best thing for you & our family.
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| Posted 9/23/09 12:41 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
Granted, I am not a big pet person so I may not be the best person to listen to.
But: If you have found a great home for the puppy, I would give him up. You would not be shirking your responsibility as a pet owner since you will ensure he goes to a good home.
As a pregnant mom to be with 1 DD (2 DC in your case), I cannot imagine taking on the responsibility of a pet. Plus, you probably cannot give him as much attention as he needs.
It might just be your preggo hormones making you second guess your gut.
Disclaimer-though I am not really into pets, I think that anyone who does take in a pet has a huge responsibility to that pet. I think the OP is fulfilling that responsibility by finding a good home for the puppy.
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| Posted 9/23/09 1:45 PM |
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Dani77
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
Aww...that really must be hard to do. We got a puppy in April too, but he actually is housebroken...for the most part. He just does'nt know how to let us know when he needs to go out, but DH smokes so he goes out each time with him. lol. I really woudn't know what to do in your situation, but you came up with a great idea. He's going to have a great home and it def. is best for you and your family. I just hope that you will be able to visit him often!!
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| Posted 9/23/09 1:59 PM |
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Michelle1123
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
Thanks ladies. I just spoke to DH and we decided to wait a few more weeks. I am going to try leaving the crate open with wee wee pads inside of it to see if maybe we can get him to at least go in that one spot (since he goes in there already) He will be confined in the kitchen in case of any accidents. If we can get him to go in the same spot, I think we can get him to make his way outside eventually.
The lady who is willing to take him is also willing to wait while we try this last option. I really hope it works!
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| Posted 9/23/09 2:12 PM |
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mamabear
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
I can really understand how you feel. I have always had dogs, and one of my current pups just could not be house trained. He pees everywhere, and has even peed on me (on my back when I'm sitting, on my head when I'm sleeping, etc). I don't know why, but trainers, my dad who has raised many many dogs, nobody could train him. For years I dealt with the frustration and embarassment of it. (I can't bring him to anyone's house because he will pee in their house, he pees in front of company, it can be really hard.) I finally found something that works...doggie diapers. It's strange, I know--but it works. There are 2 different kinds, but the ones we like best are this wrap that just go around the waist and you put pads in there. It has really solved the problem. (The other kind I think is for girls and looks more like a diaper--there's a hole for their tail). Good luck!
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| Posted 9/23/09 2:20 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
Ugh - it's such a tough situation to be in. Our first dog died when Jack was 4 months and we got another one right away....training her literally sent me over the edge MANY times. We just got a new carpet a few weeks ago because of all the accidents she had in the house. I have been more dedicated to getting her outside and so has DH. She has been great with it now.
Is your dog home alone all day or are you in and out?
Whatever you decide, you did the right thing by finding it a loving home - don't beat yourself up too much! 
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| Posted 9/23/09 2:30 PM |
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kokomo181
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
Posted by Michelle1123
My DH tricked me into getting a puppy in April. I fell in love with him instantly, but since I was spending all of my free time with my mom at that time (she was in hospice) we agreed he would handle the vet, housebreaking, etc.
He never did.
Fast forward to after my mom died. I worked so hard with this puppy to housebreak him and nothing worked! I read books, researched online, tried EVERYTHING and nothing worked. My house has a constant smell of pee. We had him in a crate and he would just go in the crate and then it would take me an hour everyday after work to bathe him and clean up the crate and surrounding area.
Then I got pregnant, and I started freaking out about taking care of this very needy puppy and a baby. Then, he pushed me over the edge while cleaning up his pee one day. He came right over and peed ON MY HAND while I was wiping up the puddle from earlier.
So I told DH I was going to try and find him a home because I couldnt do it anymore.
He just called me and said he found someone who wants him. I know the lady and know he would be in good hands. I just feel so guilty giving up this poor puppy who really did nothing wrong. DH thought I would be happy but I really feel like crying. So I told him I would bring the puppy to her on Sunday, but nw I'm having second thoughts. I just feel so bad and I really LOVE him. I know that giving him up is best for our family, but I'm having a tough time with this!
How old is your puppy and what breed is he? I know it is tough with puppies (we have a 8 month old puppy and they are a lot of work). Granted we don't have kids at the moment (I just love using this website as research for when we have kids in the future), but I know they take a lof of your time in the beginning. If he is anything like our dog and he is food motivated..i would just make sure you continue to leave him outside until he does his "business" and as soon as he does make a big deal and say good boy and make sure to give him a treat (have it in your pocket) right away. We still give our 8 month old treats everytime he does he business at our house and he knows it too cause as soon as he finishes he looks up like okay so where is the treat (although we moved the box to inside and he waits by the door til he gets it ha!).
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| Posted 9/23/09 2:40 PM |
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JoJo2010
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
We have a maltese and at first tried to train him in doors, but got sick of the pee pad in the house...I want to recommend the pee pole!(thats wat we call it, not sure of the real name)
We bought it at shake a paw, its alittle yellow stake looking thing that sticks in teh ground and makes the puppy want to go in that one spot, if you seee him pee there give him a treat and eventually he will realize. My dog doesnt tell us when he wants to go out, we would let him out constinently when he was young(hes a year now) Noe its like every 2-3 hours.
Crating a dog also helps to teach the dog to hold its urine while its in there and when you take him out you take him directly to wear you want him/her to pee.
We still have him only allowed in our kitchen when hes not home.
How old is the dog and what kind of dog is it?
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| Posted 9/23/09 3:14 PM |
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Michelle1123
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
He is a long haired chihuahua/pomeranian mix. I take him out like every 15-30 minutes but he will not go outside!!!! I think he only has once because he got nervous about something. Of course we made a huge deal about it and gave him a treat but that was the only time he has gone outside!
He is about 6 months old
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| Posted 9/23/09 7:50 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
Posted by Michelle1123
He is a long haired chihuahua/pomeranian mix. I take him out like every 15-30 minutes but he will not go outside!!!! I think he only has once because he got nervous about something. Of course we made a huge deal about it and gave him a treat but that was the only time he has gone outside!
He is about 6 months old
I'm going to sound crazy right now, but I swear it works with my dog....when I am carrying her out to go to the bathroom I literally say to her the entire way "You going to go potty now! My good girl is going to go potty!" - or if it's time to poop I'll say the same thing. When my DH doesn't talk to her on the way out she doesn't always go.
Crazy - I know! 
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JennB
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
its really hard work but we trained our puppy in about a week. we would literally pick her up mid-pee and bring her to the wee-wee pad then we would sit on the floor and block her from leaving until she finished. We kept the pad right next to the door so she would know to go there when she had to do her business
Once she was able to go outside, we put he ron a schedule and she would stay out there until she went - then get alot of praise and of course a treat.
Maybe you could try for another week or two and if it still doesnt work out then give the puppy to the lady? Im a dog-lover so I know how hard it is, but at the same time you do have to consider what is best for the puppy, you and your family. Good luck!
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
You are doing the right thing in giving this puppy to someone who can devote lots of time to it-don't beat yourself up!
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Michelle1123
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
Posted by JennB
its really hard work but we trained our puppy in about a week. we would literally pick her up mid-pee and bring her to the wee-wee pad then we would sit on the floor and block her from leaving until she finished. We kept the pad right next to the door so she would know to go there when she had to do her business
Once she was able to go outside, we put he ron a schedule and she would stay out there until she went - then get alot of praise and of course a treat.
Maybe you could try for another week or two and if it still doesnt work out then give the puppy to the lady? Im a dog-lover so I know how hard it is, but at the same time you do have to consider what is best for the puppy, you and your family. Good luck!
Thanks! Yes we are going to try a little longer. I'm going to try putting the wee wee pads in the crate since thats where he ALWAYS goes and leave him out. Hopefully he will go in the crate to go and not go all over the floor. We'll see!
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| Posted 9/24/09 8:14 AM |
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Jonsgirl04
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
Good luck! I hope it works! We always say to my dog. "You speak when you wanna go out" and give him a hand signal when saying it. Then after we are outisde we say "Go Make" and he usually pees. Then we repeat"Good Boy" we also say "Go poopies" and make the sound of farts when he is going. LOL!! Now we can make the fart noise and he actually runs to the back yard and poops. LOL. It takes practice and alot of treats and praising. Good Luck!!
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| Posted 9/24/09 9:08 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: I'm really sad (pet and SPR related)
My sister was in a very similar situation as you. Her DH got her a puppy and she had just found out that she was pregnant with #4. My MIL ended up taking the puppy and it's the best thing for the puppy, my mil and my sister. The dog is in a loving home and very well care for. Things work out for a reason.
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